“Most people stop living at 25….they just don’t get buried til 50 years later”

[JKFleck]

My parents don't want to pay for me to get another degree lol. They said they'd only pay for medical school. I don't know why they want me to be a doctor so badly

Sounds like a classic Asian parent to me, either you become a doctor or a failure, there's no in-between

 

[sserafim]

Sounds like a classic Asian parent to me, either you become a doctor or a failure, there's no in-between

Yup. I don't know why there's this strange dichotomy. The only professions they'd accept is doctor or lawyer. Anything else is a failure

 

[JKFleck]

What's so wrong with being NEET? I don't owe my parents anything, imo quite the contrary, they OWE me for forcing myself into this world

 

[sserafim]

That's very usual among parents. They find it prestigious.

They're Asian parents so that's probably why

What's so wrong with being NEET? I don't owe my parents anything, imo quite the contrary, they OWE me for forcing myself into this world

I don't think anything is wrong with being NEET, but my parents do

 

[Throwawayacc3]

My parents don't want to pay for me to get another degree lol. They said they'd only pay for medical school. I don't know why they want me to be a doctor so badly

Maybe your mum wants you to get the degree and then operate on yourself and remove all the "bad" mental health stuff lmao. It sounds wild but you've told some wild stories about your parents lol.

 

[sserafim]

Maybe your mum wants you to get the degree and then operate on yourself and remove all the "bad" mental health stuff lmao. It sounds wild but you've told some wild stories about your parents lol.

My mom wants me to be a doctor for the status and prestige, and also so she can have a doctor of her own (aka free healthcare) lol

 

[JKFleck]

They're Asian parents so that's probably why

I don't think anything is wrong with being NEET but my parents do

Some of them might say we're brainwashed by digital gadgets to be "disgustingly lazy"

On the other hand I'd say they are brainwashed to "Work hard" and have children so that we can be their slave and continue the ponzi scheme

 

[Throwawayacc3]

My mom wants me to be a doctor for the prestige and so she can have a doctor of her own aka free healthcare lol

That's way too logical. I prefer my theory lmao.

 

[sserafim]

That's way too logical. I prefer my theory lmao.

She wanted me to be a radiologist, she said that it would suit me. She also wanted me to be a pharmacist but pharmacy is literally a dying profession lol

Some of them might say we're brainwashed by digital gadgets to be "disgustingly lazy"

On the other hand I'd say they are brainwashed to "Work hard" and have children so that we can be their slave and continue the ponzi scheme

Literally. They're all brainwashed and indoctrinated by their parents, culture and society

 

[Throwawayacc3]

She wanted me to be a radiologist, she said that would suit me. She also wanted me to be a pharmacist

Your mum is the queen of projection. Does she realise she has a daughter? Or does she think you are a mirror or her "youth". Your mum needs to see a psychiatrist.

 

[sserafim]

Your mum is the queen of projection. Does she realise she has a daughter? Or does she think you are a mirror or her "youth". Your mum needs to see a psychiatrist.

My grandma actually wanted my mom to be a doctor, but she chose something else. Now I guess she's projecting on me

 

[Throwawayacc3]

My grandma actually wanted my mom to be a doctor, but she chose something else. Now I guess she's projecting on me

lol. The generational trauma and epigenetics is a given!

 

[sserafim]

lol. The generational trauma and epigenetics is a given!

Well at least I'm not continuing the vicious cycle. It will end with me

 

[Throwawayacc3]

Well at least I'm not continuing the vicious cycle. It will end with me

Yeah I get it. My last bit of life is held in the hands of animals ironically. Didn't see the green ring necked parrots for a while and yesterday I was thinking about the rope again. 5 of them proceed to sit in the tree and start swarking to each other. It's not a sign but the timing is way too ironic.
Need to look after my dog anyway. See sits in her bed and watches the birds.

 

[SuicidalOrganism]

i wish i had ssi

 

[darkenmydoorstep]

I agree. If you don't have hobbies or social circles developed in college you are pretty much doomed. Who's gonna make friends with a 30 year old and where besides work?

I dispute this. I made loads of friends after having my baby (in my thirties) and I have also made friends with people online who have become real life friends whom I meet up with regularly. I am 49. Age shouldn't be a barrier to friendship.

 

[DreamEnd]

I dispute this. I made loads of friends after having my baby (in my thirties) and I have also made friends with people online who have become real life friends whom I meet up with regularly. I am 49. Age shouldn't be a barrier to friendship.

It shouldn't be but in a lot of cases it is compared to college. Especially when it comes not to acquaintances but to real friend who can stand by your side no matter what.

 

[JKFleck]

Well at least I'm not continuing the vicious cycle. It will end with me

So do I, great attitude mate

 

[darkenmydoorstep]

It shouldn't be but in a lot of cases it is compared to college. Especially when it comes not to acquaintances but to real friend who can stand by your side no matter what.

Until I had my baby (37) I found it tricky to make friends. For many years I just had one work colleague and then once I had my baby we grew apart because we didn't have stuff in common anymore. She couldn't relate to my new world.

 

[sserafim]

So do I, great attitude mate

Antinatalism ftw. Are you AN too? I can't control what other people do, but the least I can do to minimize suffering is to not have kids

 

[darkenmydoorstep]

I should never have had one.

 

[WhatPowerIs]

I wish I could stay in college forever. I would love to be an eternal student. I would hate to have to enter the workforce. Work is literally modern day slavery. We're all chained and imprisoned; we're prisoners. At least we know that we're in prison. The vast majority of people don't even know. I don't want to be chained to work for the rest of my life. I'd rather die

i dont even like being a student, i wish i didnt have to do anything at all. fuck this world.

 

[JKFleck]

Antinatalism ftw. Are you AN too? I can't control what other people do, but the least I can do to minimize suffering is to not have kids

YES!!! AN gang wooo!

Why have kids when I can't even retire myself, let alone survive and feed myself

 

[Z-A]

21 and already have passed the last fun times a long time ago and I don't want to keep existing now just to feel pain and regret again and again. Gotta go ASAP.

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

I wish I could stay in college forever. I would love to be an eternal student. I would hate to have to enter the workforce. Work is literally modern day slavery. We're all chained and imprisoned; we're prisoners. At least we know that we're in prison. The vast majority of people don't even know. I don't want to be chained to work for the rest of my life. I'd rather die

I feel the exact same as you, I love learning new things and the social atmosphere of educational settings, while absolutely loathing the isolating, monotonous slog of the workforce where you are doing boring and repetitive tasks. I remember working dead end retail jobs as a teenager and younger adult, then being told that a degree was the key to escaping that sort of lifestyle.

What I didn't realize is work is hell regardless, outside of a select few niche fields. It's particularly hard as an autistic person, and I've never had a workplace environment where I had anything remotely in common with anyone. Your circle shrinks significantly when you leave schooling, and a thriving, bustling community is replaced with a narrow window of interactions with a team of colleagues that likely aren't gonna be remotely similar in age, interests, or life experiences.

Losing the benefits of university life alongside my health problems is a huge source of sadness for me too. When I was in full time work as a teenager I was in so much physical pain that all I did was go to work, come home and pass out, rinse and repeat. I had no life. It was a miserable existence. Then when I went on a work placement one summer during my undergraduate degree, I was similarly miserable due to a toxic work environment and no way to socialise.

The fact is that social opportunities do dry up after a certain point in adulthood. If you look at the number of events for students in my area versus the events that are open to the general public, it's laughable. There's a considerable dearth of social opportunities for older adults, while in uni there are always free events going on, clubs/societies, and numerous ways to meet new people. I find life outside of university incredibly isolating.

I assume most people get too busy with work and marriage/kids to socialise as much after a certain point in their life, and have set social circles carried over from adolescence that they aren't interested in expanding . But as a person who will never be having kids or a happy marriage, it's like what now?? There's no reason for me to keep going when the environment that allowed me to thrive is being taken away.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Yup. I don't know why there's this strange dichotomy. The only professions they'd accept is doctor or lawyer. Anything else is a failure

Free health care/legal services is the main reason those are what all Asian parents want.

If I ever have kids I'm gonna do the opposite and try to force my kids to become involved in arts and media so that hopefully reverse psychology takes effect and they try to be a doctor just to spite me.

 

[sserafim]

Free health care/legal services is the main reason those are what all Asian parents want.

If I ever have kids I'm gonna do the opposite and try to force my kids to become involved in arts and media so that hopefully reverse psychology takes effect and they try to be a doctor just to spite me.

My mom nags and pesters me all the time, not knowing that reverse psychology works on me....

 

[sserafim]

Free health care/legal services is the main reason those are what all Asian parents want.

If I ever have kids I'm gonna do the opposite and try to force my kids to become involved in arts and media so that hopefully reverse psychology takes effect and they try to be a doctor just to spite me.

I forgot to say this

True. Asian parents also want someone to show off and brag about (mainly to their colleagues and acquaintances because they have no friends)

Do it. I'd love to see reverse psychology at work

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I'm closer to 50 than to 25 but my life was good and I wouldn't want to miss out on it. I "died" after failing big in life a few years ago but so far my former life was good I would have missed out on a lot of things if I killed myself at an age of 25. In the end it's a subjective feeling whether a life is worth living or not. For a majority of people out there life seems to be good enough for them.

 

[Linda]

Someone posted this (title quote) on my social media the other day and it really rang true. I am nearly 50 and certainly my life ended at 25. The last 25 years have been a waste of time. Maybe I could cram the good times/adventures into a weeks worth but that's it. It pisses me off that I hung around so long on the off chance things would improve but all I did was make myself more chains around my neck - debt, responsibility….

I look at someone like my mum who is 26 years older than me and I honestly don't know why she bothers. Each to their own but I really think if people had choice and euthanisia wasn't stigmatised, a large percentage of the population would happily end it.

Every life is different. My two best decades were my 20s and 50s. My 60s would have been good too, except that they were marred by chronic fatigue (which has now gone). I'm now 70, and I don't know how this next decade will work out. I do know that I still have a lot to do, because I must finish the book that will summarise the research I have been doing for the last quarter century.
Some time back I was visited by a friend who was then 92, and still looking for new challenges in life. (He died recently, aged 104.) This quote sums up his attitude: Linda, I hate being old. These days if I walk more than 3 miles I get tired. When did you last walk more than 3 miles?