JKFleck

JKFleck

Betrayed by my only friend, nothing left to lose
Oct 1, 2023
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My parents don't want to pay for me to get another degree lol. They said they'd only pay for medical school. I don't know why they want me to be a doctor so badly
Sounds like a classic Asian parent to me, either you become a doctor or a failure, there's no in-between
 
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sserafim

brighter than the sun, that’s just me
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Sounds like a classic Asian parent to me, either you become a doctor or a failure, there's no in-between
Yup. I don't know why there's this strange dichotomy. The only professions they'd accept is doctor or lawyer. Anything else is a failure
 
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JKFleck

Betrayed by my only friend, nothing left to lose
Oct 1, 2023
211
What's so wrong with being NEET? I don't owe my parents anything, imo quite the contrary, they OWE me for forcing myself into this world
 
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That's very usual among parents. They find it prestigious. :pfff:
They're Asian parents so that's probably why
What's so wrong with being NEET? I don't owe my parents anything, imo quite the contrary, they OWE me for forcing myself into this world
I don't think anything is wrong with being NEET, but my parents do
 
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Throwawayacc3

Throwawayacc3

Freedom
Mar 4, 2024
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My parents don't want to pay for me to get another degree lol. They said they'd only pay for medical school. I don't know why they want me to be a doctor so badly
Maybe your mum wants you to get the degree and then operate on yourself and remove all the "bad" mental health stuff lmao. It sounds wild but you've told some wild stories about your parents lol.
 
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sserafim

brighter than the sun, that’s just me
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Maybe your mum wants you to get the degree and then operate on yourself and remove all the "bad" mental health stuff lmao. It sounds wild but you've told some wild stories about your parents lol.
My mom wants me to be a doctor for the status and prestige, and also so she can have a doctor of her own (aka free healthcare) lol
 
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JKFleck

Betrayed by my only friend, nothing left to lose
Oct 1, 2023
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They're Asian parents so that's probably why

I don't think anything is wrong with being NEET but my parents do
Some of them might say we're brainwashed by digital gadgets to be "disgustingly lazy"

On the other hand I'd say they are brainwashed to "Work hard" and have children so that we can be their slave and continue the ponzi scheme
 
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Throwawayacc3

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My mom wants me to be a doctor for the prestige and so she can have a doctor of her own aka free healthcare lol
That's way too logical. I prefer my theory lmao.
 
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sserafim

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That's way too logical. I prefer my theory lmao.
She wanted me to be a radiologist, she said that it would suit me. She also wanted me to be a pharmacist but pharmacy is literally a dying profession lol
Some of them might say we're brainwashed by digital gadgets to be "disgustingly lazy"

On the other hand I'd say they are brainwashed to "Work hard" and have children so that we can be their slave and continue the ponzi scheme
Literally. They're all brainwashed and indoctrinated by their parents, culture and society
 
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Throwawayacc3

Throwawayacc3

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Mar 4, 2024
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She wanted me to be a radiologist, she said that would suit me. She also wanted me to be a pharmacist
Your mum is the queen of projection. Does she realise she has a daughter? Or does she think you are a mirror or her "youth". Your mum needs to see a psychiatrist.
 
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sserafim

brighter than the sun, that’s just me
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Your mum is the queen of projection. Does she realise she has a daughter? Or does she think you are a mirror or her "youth". Your mum needs to see a psychiatrist.
My grandma actually wanted my mom to be a doctor, but she chose something else. Now I guess she's projecting on me
 
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Throwawayacc3

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My grandma actually wanted my mom to be a doctor, but she chose something else. Now I guess she's projecting on me
lol. The generational trauma and epigenetics is a given!
 
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Throwawayacc3

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Well at least I'm not continuing the vicious cycle. It will end with me
Yeah I get it. My last bit of life is held in the hands of animals ironically. Didn't see the green ring necked parrots for a while and yesterday I was thinking about the rope again. 5 of them proceed to sit in the tree and start swarking to each other. It's not a sign but the timing is way too ironic.
Need to look after my dog anyway. See sits in her bed and watches the birds.
 
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darkenmydoorstep

Not Waving But Browned Off….
Sep 27, 2023
532
I agree. If you don't have hobbies or social circles developed in college you are pretty much doomed. Who's gonna make friends with a 30 year old and where besides work?
I dispute this. I made loads of friends after having my baby (in my thirties) and I have also made friends with people online who have become real life friends whom I meet up with regularly. I am 49. Age shouldn't be a barrier to friendship.
 
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DreamEnd

Enlightened
Aug 4, 2022
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I dispute this. I made loads of friends after having my baby (in my thirties) and I have also made friends with people online who have become real life friends whom I meet up with regularly. I am 49. Age shouldn't be a barrier to friendship.
It shouldn't be but in a lot of cases it is compared to college. Especially when it comes not to acquaintances but to real friend who can stand by your side no matter what.
 
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darkenmydoorstep

Not Waving But Browned Off….
Sep 27, 2023
532
It shouldn't be but in a lot of cases it is compared to college. Especially when it comes not to acquaintances but to real friend who can stand by your side no matter what.
Until I had my baby (37) I found it tricky to make friends. For many years I just had one work colleague and then once I had my baby we grew apart because we didn't have stuff in common anymore. She couldn't relate to my new world.
 
sserafim

sserafim

brighter than the sun, that’s just me
Sep 13, 2023
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So do I, great attitude mate
Antinatalism ftw. Are you AN too? I can't control what other people do, but the least I can do to minimize suffering is to not have kids
 
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darkenmydoorstep

Not Waving But Browned Off….
Sep 27, 2023
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I should never have had one.
 
WhatPowerIs

WhatPowerIs

Paragon
Jun 19, 2022
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I wish I could stay in college forever. I would love to be an eternal student. I would hate to have to enter the workforce. Work is literally modern day slavery. We're all chained and imprisoned; we're prisoners. At least we know that we're in prison. The vast majority of people don't even know. I don't want to be chained to work for the rest of my life. I'd rather die
i dont even like being a student, i wish i didnt have to do anything at all. fuck this world.
 
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JKFleck

Betrayed by my only friend, nothing left to lose
Oct 1, 2023
211
Antinatalism ftw. Are you AN too? I can't control what other people do, but the least I can do to minimize suffering is to not have kids
YES!!! AN gang wooo!

Why have kids when I can't even retire myself, let alone survive and feed myself🫠
 
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Z-A

Z-A

Let me go
Mar 3, 2024
329
21 and already have passed the last fun times a long time ago and I don't want to keep existing now just to feel pain and regret again and again. Gotta go ASAP.
 
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KuriGohan&Kamehameha

KuriGohan&Kamehameha

想死不能 - 想活不能
Nov 23, 2020
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I wish I could stay in college forever. I would love to be an eternal student. I would hate to have to enter the workforce. Work is literally modern day slavery. We're all chained and imprisoned; we're prisoners. At least we know that we're in prison. The vast majority of people don't even know. I don't want to be chained to work for the rest of my life. I'd rather die
I feel the exact same as you, I love learning new things and the social atmosphere of educational settings, while absolutely loathing the isolating, monotonous slog of the workforce where you are doing boring and repetitive tasks. I remember working dead end retail jobs as a teenager and younger adult, then being told that a degree was the key to escaping that sort of lifestyle.

What I didn't realize is work is hell regardless, outside of a select few niche fields. It's particularly hard as an autistic person, and I've never had a workplace environment where I had anything remotely in common with anyone. Your circle shrinks significantly when you leave schooling, and a thriving, bustling community is replaced with a narrow window of interactions with a team of colleagues that likely aren't gonna be remotely similar in age, interests, or life experiences.

Losing the benefits of university life alongside my health problems is a huge source of sadness for me too. When I was in full time work as a teenager I was in so much physical pain that all I did was go to work, come home and pass out, rinse and repeat. I had no life. It was a miserable existence. Then when I went on a work placement one summer during my undergraduate degree, I was similarly miserable due to a toxic work environment and no way to socialise.

The fact is that social opportunities do dry up after a certain point in adulthood. If you look at the number of events for students in my area versus the events that are open to the general public, it's laughable. There's a considerable dearth of social opportunities for older adults, while in uni there are always free events going on, clubs/societies, and numerous ways to meet new people. I find life outside of university incredibly isolating.

I assume most people get too busy with work and marriage/kids to socialise as much after a certain point in their life, and have set social circles carried over from adolescence that they aren't interested in expanding . But as a person who will never be having kids or a happy marriage, it's like what now?? There's no reason for me to keep going when the environment that allowed me to thrive is being taken away.
 
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Dr Iron Arc

Dr Iron Arc

Into the Unknown
Feb 10, 2020
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Yup. I don't know why there's this strange dichotomy. The only professions they'd accept is doctor or lawyer. Anything else is a failure
Free health care/legal services is the main reason those are what all Asian parents want.

If I ever have kids I'm gonna do the opposite and try to force my kids to become involved in arts and media so that hopefully reverse psychology takes effect and they try to be a doctor just to spite me.
 
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sserafim

brighter than the sun, that’s just me
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Free health care/legal services is the main reason those are what all Asian parents want.

If I ever have kids I'm gonna do the opposite and try to force my kids to become involved in arts and media so that hopefully reverse psychology takes effect and they try to be a doctor just to spite me.
My mom nags and pesters me all the time, not knowing that reverse psychology works on me....
 
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sserafim

brighter than the sun, that’s just me
Sep 13, 2023
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Free health care/legal services is the main reason those are what all Asian parents want.

If I ever have kids I'm gonna do the opposite and try to force my kids to become involved in arts and media so that hopefully reverse psychology takes effect and they try to be a doctor just to spite me.
I forgot to say this

True. Asian parents also want someone to show off and brag about (mainly to their colleagues and acquaintances because they have no friends)

Do it. I'd love to see reverse psychology at work 🤣
 
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Praestat_Mori

Mori praestat, quam haec pati!
May 21, 2023
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I'm closer to 50 than to 25 but my life was good and I wouldn't want to miss out on it. I "died" after failing big in life a few years ago but so far my former life was good I would have missed out on a lot of things if I killed myself at an age of 25. In the end it's a subjective feeling whether a life is worth living or not. For a majority of people out there life seems to be good enough for them.
 
Linda

Linda

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Jul 30, 2020
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Someone posted this (title quote) on my social media the other day and it really rang true. I am nearly 50 and certainly my life ended at 25. The last 25 years have been a waste of time. Maybe I could cram the good times/adventures into a weeks worth but that's it. It pisses me off that I hung around so long on the off chance things would improve but all I did was make myself more chains around my neck - debt, responsibility….

I look at someone like my mum who is 26 years older than me and I honestly don't know why she bothers. Each to their own but I really think if people had choice and euthanisia wasn't stigmatised, a large percentage of the population would happily end it.
Every life is different. My two best decades were my 20s and 50s. My 60s would have been good too, except that they were marred by chronic fatigue (which has now gone). I'm now 70, and I don't know how this next decade will work out. I do know that I still have a lot to do, because I must finish the book that will summarise the research I have been doing for the last quarter century.
Some time back I was visited by a friend who was then 92, and still looking for new challenges in life. (He died recently, aged 104.) This quote sums up his attitude: Linda, I hate being old. These days if I walk more than 3 miles I get tired. When did you last walk more than 3 miles?
 
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