“Most people stop living at 25….they just don’t get buried til 50 years later”

[darkenmydoorstep]

Someone posted this (title quote) on my social media the other day and it really rang true. I am nearly 50 and certainly my life ended at 25. The last 25 years have been a waste of time. Maybe I could cram the good times/adventures into a weeks worth but that's it. It pisses me off that I hung around so long on the off chance things would improve but all I did was make myself more chains around my neck - debt, responsibility….

I look at someone like my mum who is 26 years older than me and I honestly don't know why she bothers. Each to their own but I really think if people had choice and euthanisia wasn't stigmatised, a large percentage of the population would happily end it.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

That quote is kind of dumb. There are some people whose life don't start picking up until after the age of 25. At the end of the day, everyones life is different from one another and thus you cannot simplify shit down to "most people stop living by 25". It feels like they are just stating their opinion as fact.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I think it's different for everybody but I sort of understand your sentiment overall. In my case, I don't think that I can really truly say that I ever lived life. All I really did throughout my entire life was survive through it and nothing more

 

[darkenmydoorstep]

I think that's why he said 'most' not all. Certainly everyone I know idealises their youth, they want to return to that part of their life. Yes there are exceptions.

I think it's different for everybody but I sort of understand your sentiment overall. In my case, I don't think that I can really truly say that I ever lived life. All I really did throughout my entire life was survive through it and nothing more

I think we have more hope when we are younger

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I think that's why he said 'most' not all. Certainly everyone I know idealises their youth, they want to return to that part of their life. Yes there are exceptions.

Even saying "most" is just making a big assumption.

 

[DreamEnd]

Even saying "most" is just making a big assumption.

It's logical to assume so since most people finish college that age and go into the workforce of at least 40hr a week. It's soul crushing

 

[rozeske]

My life wasn't great to bigin with but the worest years of my life are probably the ones after 25. I wouldn't say the next years were a waste. Atleast I've spent them trying to tackle every possibility to improve my life and try and see if I can have somewhat of a better future. So yes one could say I was more of fighting and surviving than living. It does make sense to say I was just waiting to be buried. Their is a logical reason the "club 27" exists in the suicidals world.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

It's logical to assume so since most people finish college that age and go into the workforce of at least 40hr a week. It's soul crushing

Most people have to start working earlier than that, and usually in retail jobs. Plus, univeristy and college typcially comes with it's own set of set-backs, such as stressing out over future student debt, career paths, grades, assignements, self-esteem issues (self-esteem tends to be worse in those in their teen to early adult years in comparions to those who are older), etc. This argument isn't a very good one.

If we go by research, then a meta-analysis that looked at around 443 samples from various longititude studies found that happiness actually peaks around age 70, with it increasing from your late teens/early adulthood up until then.

The findings show that the life satisfaction decreased between the ages of 9 and 16, then increased slightly until the age of 70, and then decreased once again until the age of 96.

At which age we are at our happiest?

At what age are people at their happiest? This seemingly simple question has been studied extensively over the past decades, but a definitive answer has long been elusive. A research team has now shed light on the question in a comprehensive meta-analytic review. The findings show that the...

www.sciencedaily.com

 

[sserafim]

I don't plan to live past 25 lol

It's logical to assume so since most people finish college that age and go into the workforce of at least 40hr a week. It's soul crushing

My main reason to ctb is to escape it

I think it's different for everybody but I sort of understand your sentiment overall. In my case, I don't think that I can really truly say that I ever lived life. All I really did throughout my entire life was survive through it and nothing more

Same dude. I was only ever surviving, never truly living anyways

 

[DreamEnd]

Most people have to start working earlier than that, and usually in retail jobs. Plus, univeristy and college typcially comes with it's own set of set-backs, such as stressing out over future student debt, career paths, grades, assignements, self-esteem issues (self-esteem tends to be worse in those in their teen to early adult years in comparions to those who are older), etc. This argument isn't a very good one.

If we go by research, then a meta-analysis that looked at around 443 samples from various longititude studies found that happiness actually peaks around age 70, with it increasing from your late teens/early adulthood up until then.

At which age we are at our happiest?

At what age are people at their happiest? This seemingly simple question has been studied extensively over the past decades, but a definitive answer has long been elusive. A research team has now shed light on the question in a comprehensive meta-analytic review. The findings show that the...

www.sciencedaily.com

The freedom you have while in the workplace isn't even close to the one you have in college. That especially with extra responsibilities and obligations that come with being in the workplace. It's not even close. There is a reason people tend to say college is the best 4 years of your life. Most people will end up hating sacrificing their lives for a paycheck. That along with essentially limited social circles as those that they had in college. It all worse

 

[sserafim]

The freedom you have while in the workplace isn't even close to the one you have in college. That especially with extra responsibilities and obligations that come with being in the workplace. It's not even close

I wish I could stay in college forever. I would love to be an eternal student. I would hate to have to enter the workforce. Work is literally modern day slavery. We're all chained and imprisoned; we're prisoners. At least we know that we're in prison. The vast majority of people don't even know. I don't want to be chained to work for the rest of my life. I'd rather die

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

My life has never truly started and I'm already 30. I can't even conceive of making it to 50 in this condition.

 

[sserafim]

My life has never truly started and I'm already 30. I can't even conceive of making it to 50 in this condition.

My life is already over. I never even wanted it to truly start. I got everything that I wanted out of life. Graduating college is enough for me. I never wanted to live out post-college life. I never thought that I would have to enter the workforce and real world. I always thought I'd be dead before then. Adulthood is just not worth living for me, and I never wanted to live it anyways

 

[darkenmydoorstep]

My life wasn't great to bigin with but the worest years of my life are probably the ones after 25. I wouldn't say the next years were a waste. Atleast I've spent them trying to tackle every possibility to improve my life and try and see if I can have somewhat of a better future. So yes one could say I was more of fighting and surviving than living. It does make sense to say I was just waiting to be buried. Their is a logical reason the "club 27" exists in the suicidals world.

Absolutely

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

My life is already over. I never even wanted it to truly start. I got everything that I wanted out of life. Graduating college is enough for me. I never wanted to live out post-college life. I never thought that I would have to enter the workforce and real world. I always thought I'd be dead before then. Adulthood is just not worth living for me, and I never wanted to live it anyways

Personally I never enjoyed college or schooling and couldn't wait to be free of it. I still enjoy not having to do homework but it would be nice if I didn't have to do any work at all.

 

[LunarLight]

For my part, I stopped living at 10, when depression started crushing me.
I totally understand the quote though, as people usually enter the workforce at around 25 and start working as modern age slaves. Every day the same shit. You work to eat, pay the bills and rent. Your childhood and teenage dreams all get crushed by life. You work to make your boss rich. Fuck that lmao.

 

[divinemistress36]

I wish I could stay in college forever. I would love to be an eternal student. I would hate to have to enter the workforce. Work is literally modern day slavery. We're all chained and imprisoned; we're prisoners. At least we know that we're in prison. The vast majority of people don't even know. I don't want to be chained to work for the rest of my life. I'd rather die

Could you go back to school and work on getting another degree? Then it shows your family you are doing something
My therapist told me her life didn't start improving till her 40s

 

[darkenmydoorstep]

Most people have to start working earlier than that, and usually in retail jobs. Plus, univeristy and college typcially comes with it's own set of set-backs, such as stressing out over future student debt, career paths, grades, assignements, self-esteem issues (self-esteem tends to be worse in those in their teen to early adult years in comparions to those who are older), etc. This argument isn't a very good one.

If we go by research, then a meta-analysis that looked at around 443 samples from various longititude studies found that happiness actually peaks around age 70, with it increasing from your late teens/early adulthood up until then.

At which age we are at our happiest?

At what age are people at their happiest? This seemingly simple question has been studied extensively over the past decades, but a definitive answer has long been elusive. A research team has now shed light on the question in a comprehensive meta-analytic review. The findings show that the...

www.sciencedaily.com

Interesting. I an tempted to think that's a conspiracy to keep us staying alive

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Interesting. I an tempted to think that's a conspiracy to keep us staying alive

Nope, it's just a meta-analysis. If the results showed otherwise then they would have reported on that, plus happiness does start to see a decline again after around 70 and up to age 96.

Either way, the point is that human experiences vary a lot so saying that life ends at 25 for most people is dumb and it also ends up contributing to both ageism (due to it implying that you will likely be miserable once you are above the age of 25) and the glorification of youth. Youthfulness shouldn't be over gloified, nor should aging be bashed.

Being young comes with many perks but also many downsides, especially today, with the current state of the world people around my age and younger are dealing with. The same applies with old age. These pros and cons can even vary depending on where you live and your socioeconomic background. Older people live much better lives in my mom's home country in comparison to where I live and my grandparents, who are middleclass, have had much better lives in comparison to a lot older people who come from lower income backgrounds.

I'm sorry if I came off as a bit aggressive in my posts, but I just find that comments like those annoy me a lot.

I don't want to grow old, but that's because living long just doesn't interest me. Once I complete my goal I plan on enjoying myself for a bit and then ctbing.

 

[divinemistress36]

Nope, it's just a meta-analysis. If the results showed otherwise then they would have reported on that, plus happiness does start to see a decline again after around 70 and up to age 96.

Either way, the point is that human experiences vary a lot so saying that life ends at 25 for most people is dumb and it also ends up contributing to both ageism (due to it implying that you will likely be miserable once you are above the age of 25) and the glorification of youth. Youthfulness shouldn't be over gloified, nor should aging be bashed.

Being young comes with many perks but also many downsides, especially today, with the current state of the world people around my age and younger are dealing with. The same applies with old age. These pros and cons can even vary depending on where you live and your socioeconomic background. Older people live much better lives in my mom's home country in comparison to where I live and my grandparents, who are middleclass, have had much better lives in comparison to a lot older people who come from lower income backgrounds.

I'm sorry if I came off as a bit aggressive in my posts, but I just find that comments like those annoy me a lot.

I don't want to grow old, but that's because living long just doesn't interest me. Once I complete my goal I plan on enjoying myself for a bit and then ctbing.

Same I notice a lot of people in their 20s saying the end of the world happens at 30 makes me roll my eyes

 

[Ephemeron]

Most people will end up hating sacrificing their lives for a paycheck. That along with essentially limited social circles as those that they had in college. It all worse

Yes, and good luck making new friends after 30. What a life.

 

[sserafim]

Could you go back to school and work on getting another degree? Then it shows your family you are doing something
My therapist told me her life didn't start improving till her 40s

My parents don't want to pay for me to get another degree lol. They said they'd only pay for medical school. I don't know why they want me to be a doctor so badly

 

[divinemistress36]

My parents don't want to pay for another one lol. They said they'd only pay for medical school

If you plan on ctb then just take out student loans it's not like you are going to pay them back

 

[DreamEnd]

Yes, and good luck making new friends after 30. What a life.

I agree. If you don't have hobbies or social circles developed in college you are pretty much doomed. Who's gonna make friends with a 30 year old and where besides work?

 

[karmaisabitch]

My parents don't want to pay for me to get another degree lol. They said they'd only pay for medical school. I don't know why they want me to be a doctor so badly

That's crazy and controlling! I'm assuming you are on your 20s so really you should mange your education and work on your own right? As far as I know it's 2024 you are independent at the age of 18

 

[Ironborn]

Funnily enough it was when I was around 26 that I started losing interest in everything.
Been on autopilot ever since, not fun.

 

[sserafim]

That's crazy and controlling! I'm assuming you are on your 20s so really you should mange your education and work on your own right? As far as I know it's 2024 you are independent at the age of 18

I'm in my early 20s and already have a bachelor's. I don't want to work on my own or be independent. My main reason to ctb is actually to avoid having to work and be independent lol

 

[karmaisabitch]

I'm in my early 20s and already have a bachelor's degree. I don't want to work on my own or be independent. My main reason to ctb is actually to avoid having to work and be independent lol

Are you anxious? I don't blame you I got my masters that I never used I started cutting hair to pay for life but if I go back 15 years ago I'll kill myself. I regret living all this time. I had my beautiful son and I lost him being a live is pain.

 

[sserafim]

I totally understand the quote though, as people usually enter the workforce at around 25 and start working as modern age slaves. Every day the same shit. You work to eat, pay the bills and rent. Your childhood and teenage dreams all get crushed by life. You work to make your boss rich. Fuck that lmao.

Literally. Fuck that shit. I'm not doing it

Funnily enough it was when I was around 26 that I started losing interest in everything.
Been on autopilot ever since, not fun.

Wdym by "on autopilot?" Do you work?

 

[LunarLight]

My parents don't want to pay for me to get another degree lol. They said they'd only pay for medical school. I don't know why they want me to be a doctor so badly

That's very usual among parents. They find it prestigious.