I wonder who will apply. I know I would not be able to stand moderating some subsections of this forum. I haven't gone to Suicide Discussion for weeks, I feel averse to it.
I feel the same way about the recovery forum and oftentimes, the chat.
I think it’s much more difficult to find moderators for a suicide forum versus any other, we are probably more easily set off regarding certain subject matter as many here have already been traumatized by something or someone in their lives.
I’m sure there’s at least one or two topics that most on here would avoid, but one has to attempt to remove bias and compartmentalize triggers when moderating.
I imagine it also requires some degree of consistency as well as a relatively active status on the forum.
Most planning to ctb are “flaky” (myself included), for lack of a better word, here one second, gone the next ..and I don’t mean from offing themselves, I mean their trauma simply whisks them away, other things consume them and assessing everyone else’s words becomes far less important.
I think if my issues weren’t so pressing-or of a different nature, I would apply to moderate, but I think I would be most interested in the job that is not currently available. And surely, it would not last.
Burn outs are likely.
I also think any member who indulges in highly inflammatory content should not be considered, furthermore we need to be cautious that no one becomes a mod who might have ulterior motives, like getting their rocks off reading people’s reasons for being here or deleting posts they simply don’t like, while letting other things slide.
I haven’t had any major issues with a mod so far but I’ve suspected that the duty is not always taken with good intentions.
Expressing a preference is not "disdain", but interesting that you went there. Not interested in being guilted by online strangers, so I am putting you on ignore. I am sure if I have written I wanted to ctb, you would have wished me "safe travels".
I am fed up with suicide thoughts and discussions and I am avoiding that section. Funny how that offends you and that you read into my post that I am "above you" because I am in recovery. Unbelievable. I hope you will never have to go through the things I went through last year and I hope you will remove envy and spite from your heart, those traits make people look very ugly. Best of luck.
To be fair, envy and spite occur most often in people who are hurting the most, they are natural things to experience when you lack certain privileges or opportunities that others may flaunt in your face, of no fault of your own.
Metaphorically speaking-or literally, doesn’t really matter-when a person is starving, ofcourse they will be angry that others have food on their plate. It is objectively unfair.
It’s fine if you disagree with the other member and their comments toward you, but that specific statement is a poor insult and it really just rubs salt into wounds that are punishment enough.
Personally, I know what ugliness is, I know the internal and I know the external, but envy and spite from those who are suffering is not ugly, it is just more pain for them that cannot be helped.