Um... seems like a rather distasteful and unfair comparison. Let's not put suicidal people and school shooters in the same boat...
Not necessarily in the same boat, but what they said also isn't necessarily a direct comparison.
They're making a point. A fair one.
People don't usually go to such great lengths "just cuz" certain means or tools are within their grasp.
Violence can be a reaction to extreme duress and desperation..of which there are many possible causes.
Gun control isn't addressing these causes.
Suicide can be a reaction to extreme duress and desperation..of which there are many possible causes.
Suicide prevention is not addressing these causes.
There also
is something to be said about possibly being in the same boat.
The problem is people get too bent out of shape with trying to distance themselves from the blind rage and demonization that gets directed at violent criminal behavior like school shootings.
And in a sense, I get it, we already have a target on our backs and we don't want to give the naysayers any further ammuntion to twist against us…we don't want to blur the line to the point that pro-lifers start acting like we're all latent criminals in the making.
But quite frankly I am sick and tired of the hypocrisy and the utter lack of nuance in discussing that type of topic (school shooters, law breaking, etc).
The "at least we're not them, they're the real scum" talking point.
It was rife in the thread here about the Nashville shooting (when barely any details were available) and I planned on saying something much more thorough and thought out about it then, but never got the chance.
Yes there are other victims to consider when it comes to these incidents, but thinking critically about a situation and what may have led to it is not the same as being insensitive.
Nor is it a jab at the suicidal.
(It's also strange to me how crazed people get over school shootings in particular when there are arguably even more despicable and violent actions being committed all the time, but with no sensationalism that draws the eye or ear.
Horrible cases where nobody is making any type of fuss or attempt at posturing.)
In short, if we are a group of people that supposedly know what it's like to suffer dearly and what that does to our minds, our bodies, our worth..how it affects our interactions with others, our mobility in society, our ability to navigate the world in what's deemed an acceptable way..how many of us have breakdowns with our sanity barely hanging on by a thread- in large part thanks to the people who push and prod and taunt and oppress us…is it that far of a leap in thinking to understand how someone in similar circumstances might snap outward instead of inward?
Because personally, the more I suffer and the more negative or apathetic reactions I receive in response to my suffering..the more these supposed "bad people" make sense to me.
They don't surprise me at all, they are not some mystery to me, and most are not monsters either.
I can imagine what they may have experienced over the course of their life, I can imagine what they may have been thinking, I can imagine how the domino pieces fell in just the right way where it opened up the possibility of violent behavior, even on a mass scale.
They're human beings at the end of the day, and surely it's not as simple as "bad person" or "bad brain" does bad thing.
I'm not saying every one of them has the same reasons or that every reason is as easy to comprehend as the next, but I don't think it's "unfair or distasteful" to bring up the obvious parallels, the elephant in the room…uncomfortable? Sure.
It's uncomfortable knowing that there are plenty of homicides (not just school shootings) which were first intended to be suicides (or vice versa), that a person with no reason to live and every reason to die, might extend their suffering to others, with motivations & rationale that may only be fathomable if you had lived their life from start to finish, if you had truly been them in that moment.
A moment they might even regret, a moment that may involve impulse, or mind altering drugs or excess stressors on the day it all came to fruition.
When it comes to the action of ending your own life versus ending someone else's..you could have just as much room for similarities as you do differences..in the circumstances, detriments and entire chain of events that lead up to either action
(or even both).
It may be unpleasant to realize, but it's just the fact of the matter.
And it doesn't suddenly mean suicidal people are somehow evil or irrational or any other unsavory adjective that could be thrown around by those who are quick to judge or conflate without deeper thought.
(Sorry for the rambling and getting somewhat off topic, but I think this is worth saying.)