Help Is it possible to find love again after losing your soulmate?

[YourLocalSadGirly]

My girlfriend died I think 6 months ago now. I don't even want to count as it just makes me feel worse. Is it possible to find love again? She was perfect for me in every way I've gone back and forth about the term 'soulmates' and whether or not I believe they exist. I guess I'm closer to believing that they do exist rather than not. She accepted and loved everything about me which feels like something I'll never have again. I've sort of halfheartedly tried meeting people again and going back on hinge but it hasn't really worked out and it feels way too early anyway. I'm just lonely and not dealing with it well. I don't know if I'll ever be ready to love someone again. If you've lost a partner/spouse I'd especially love to hear what you think. Thanks for reading and I hope your day is going well <3.

 

[takuyangel]

first off, i'm sorry for your loss. second, yes, it is possible to find love again. i can't speak from personal experience, but i have a close friend who lost her partner of seven years about a little over a year ago from a car accident. i honestly can't imagine how it is to go through something like that. but with a good support circle, they took the time they needed to grieve, and actually started recently started dating another girl i'd been friends with about 4/5 months ago. they've started living together recently and they're both genuinely really good for each other. if there's anything to take from that, it's that you'll be okay. i think grief is the purest form of love, it's okay to feel like you'll never feel the same as you did before, it just means there's still a lot of love left. naturally and with time, i'm sure you'll start to feel more warmer to the idea of dating again. because there will be someone out there who accepts you and loves you for all you are and who will make you feel safe. and that doesn't mean you'll have to lose any of the love you still have for her. the most important thing now is letting time pass, and doing the things you can to take care of yourself. hugz ^^

 

[vitbar]

I lost my love to covid. Hope is not lost. Take your time and be kind to yourself. For her if not for yourself.

 

[BlueButterfly111]

I'm so sorry for your loss! 6 months is still so soon, take all the time you need to grieve, and remember to process your emotions!! I ask myself the same question all the time! It's been almost 2 years now since my soulmate passed away, and I haven't had any luck finding anyone since. I did end up dating one guy briefly a little over a year after he passed away, but he ended up being really toxic and horrible and the situation traumatized me.

I still have hope that maybe someone will come along one day, because after all if we could meet them, surely we can find that kind of love and happiness again right?! I feel like my boyfriend was truly my soulmate because I always think of him whenever I hear a love song or someone talks about love, and I truly understand now because of him, so I feel like I'm still in a relationship with a dead person spiritually, and I never felt that way with anyone else before I met him. But for all we know, we could have multiple soulmates in this lifetime.

I kind of gave up on trying to find someone for now, but I still have hope that one day someone will just come along. I think the last person I tried to be with after him traumatized me so much that I'm okay with being single for a while. For now I just live for and cherish the memories of my dead boyfriend, though it does get lonely sometimes. I still have hope that one day I will find someone else, but for now I think I'm at peace with just living with the memories of my dead boyfriend. A lot of people have told me that when the time is right, you'll know. I wish you all the best, and again, I'm so sorry for your loss!!

 

[SoLowHollow48]

Sorry for your loss, my guy. My gf died as a user here and so I'm still here just to hold on to whatever is left of her.

Yes. You absolutely can find another person you will call a soulmate because a soulmate does not have to be a lover. They can be a friend and even a distant family member. They can be a dog or a very nefarious gecko.

For now, take your time in grieving your loss. Take a lot of time, really. Do not jump into another relationship JUST BECAUSE you feel lonely. That is an entire human being you gotta take care of, not just some notch on your bedpost.

It's almost been a year for me now and I haven't seen anyone. I tried not to because I know that I'm not ready to open up just yet. I am still working through her suicide and my mistakes with her. I still want to cry about her for another quarter or two.

 

[bl33ding_heart]

It absolutely is possible. The concept of a soulmate is something man made and not obsolete. No matter how much you love and care about someone and they love and care about you. You can always have that same relationship with someone else. I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope you heal and are able to find happiness with whatever decisions you make.

 

[noname223]

@persistentheartache
I think you clicked on the wrong reaction.

 

[persistentheartache]

@persistentheartache
I think you clicked on the wrong reaction.

oh my god.

 

[Forever Sleep]

My Dad did- after my Mum died. It took quite a few years though- before he started to date again. It's maybe not the same. How could it be? No two people are the same but- it can still be love I think.

 

[Remus72]

I'm really sorry you're going through that. Six months is still very fresh, so it makes sense that dating feels off. It is possible to love again, but it won't replace what you had.. it'll just be different, and that's okay. You don't have to rush anything; just take it at your own pace. Feeling lonely doesn't mean you're doing this wrong.

 

[bpdscared9]

Sending you big hugs from here. I'm so sorry for your loss, I cannot imagine the pain of losing a beloved one who were so close to you once.

6 months is a very, very fresh wound. Allow yourself to grief first, there's million of people out there in the world, but your healing is not gonna wait like them. You should focus on yourself for now, in healing, grieving, therapy and some recreation to help you go through the process, new people would only re-open the wound and delay your healing more because you're not ready for a relationship yet, your brain and heart, they're still processing the loss and your environment, not seeing your partner there anymore and many more things at the same time.

Allow yourself to heal first, OP, you got this and more!

 

[Exedra]

I don't really have anything to say about the topic other than a rather shallow "I'm really sorry you've been going through that". I don't even want to imagine what that would be like, and I'll be keeping you in my heart. I guess the only advice I have is try not to lose yourself. You're uniquely you in a way that only you could be, and it would be sad to see that go. Don't ever change parts of what makes you you for others, unless you want to change them yourself. In the end, the only person that will be with you forever is yourself, so take care of yourself well, even when it's hard (and I know it can be really fucking hard).

Also just wanna say it's really nice to see a fellow ZATO enjoyer!! I got really excited when I saw your Marina pfp <3 My favorite quote is from that game and I also really love their music

 

[LostHighway]

A resounding YES! You are SO fortunate to have had such a beautiful connection with someone. Few people experience this deep kind of love in their entire lifetime. You will eventually be able to meet someone, or several someones. There are many soulmates out there. Keep your heart open. But of course use caution and choose to be around someone with inner strength and integrity who adores you for who you are. I'm so sorry you lost your dear one. I bet she would be happy for you if you "moved on" in time. I'm older and have had friends who lost the loves of their lives, and they went on to develop deeply meaningful relationships.