Is it dumb to ctb over someone not wanting to be your friend?

[sserafim]

Is it dumb to ctb because someone doesn't want to be your friend? It's increased my suicidal ideation and made me both sad and mad

 

[Hotsackage]

Come as you are, if people don't like it, then they have a LOT of problems

 

[Helween]

You're worth better than that, it's not dumb at all, maybe hasty tho. if that person don't want to be your friend, it's his loss.

 

[Final_Choice]

It's understandable how someone explicitly NOT wanting to be your friend would lead to wanting to CTB, I don't blame you for that since I think I've felt that way before at times. Though I think that depending on the person and reason for not wanting to be your friend, it could be the specific dynamic between you two which is for some reason undesirable, or it could just be something to do with them. Because of that, I feel like one should not CTB due to some sort of rejection like that, it's normal unfortunately, you just can't get along with everyone. There's more people who you can connect with and form real friendships with.

 

[melancholymallory03]

Is it dumb to ctb because someone doesn't want to be your friend? It's increased my suicidal ideation and made me both sad and mad

It's not dumb
I would actually say you seem pretty smart in general … but the action of wanting this after rejection isn't dumb I think it's just rejection sensitivity which I also have , so sometimes I just isolate myself. Or go all or nothing….

Maybe consider that persons shoes ? Like who are they as a person and like maybe they just aren't that social / able to be a good friend . Being a friend comes with many responsibilities and entanglements and possibilities

Maybe you dodged a bullet because anyone refuting a friendship may just know themselves enough to limit interactions with others :(

I can relate to the rejection sensitivity though , now what I normally try to do is just see things from there view as much as possible , consider who it's coming from as much as I can.
Hope this helps a little sorry :3 and wishing you an okay night atleast

 

[thealteredmind]

There are people that kill themselves out of impulsiveness. let's try to avoid that.

maybe I can be your friend?

 

[4am]

there are no dumb reasons to ctb imo, it's your decision after all, you don't need to justify it to anyone

 

[Throwawayacc3]

A friend is very different than a partner. You don't share things the same way. Anyways the answer is no - if you are introverted you don't really need friends as it's just stress everytime you go out or people please so much that it drains you.

Best friend? Dog. With none of the draw backs of gash humans.

 

[yearsoflonliness]

It's not a good idea to CTB over someone specific not wanting to be your friend, but I think it is a fair reason if you're chronically lonely/friendless like me.

 

[divinemistress87]

Rejection hurts like Hell . Hopefully you can find some fellow introverts you can vibe with

 

[karmaisabitch]

Is it dumb to ctb because someone doesn't want to be your friend? It's increased my suicidal ideation and made me both sad and mad

Why you care? Open the door and tell them goodbye! This type of friend is not worth to die for even if you're hurt " get yourself together" you deserve better!

 

[sserafim]

A friend is very different than a partner. You don't share things the same way. Anyways the answer is no - if you are introverted you don't really need friends as it's just stress everytime you go out or people please so much that it drains you.

Best friend? Dog. With none of the draw backs of gash humans.

He's a guy from this website and I wanted to be his friend but he didn't want to be mine anyways he deleted his account though, I think

 

[Z-A]

It hurts your feelings equally as anything else does, it's not any different. I personally could take the pain and just move on but there's people who will be hurt more than me, so it's different for everyone. And no, it's not dumb, it can't be. No one can judge you because it's a subjective opinion of each person.

 

[J&L383]

It may be "A" reason, but I would put it at the bottom of the list. As others have said there are many better reasons. How is your life suffering (physical and or psychological/mental)? How likely is that to change? Things you can do to make changes and things that can't be changed.

 

[sserafim]

It hurts your feelings equally as anything else does, it's not any different. I personally could take the pain and just move on but there's people who will be hurt more than me, so it's different for everyone. And no, it's not dumb, it can't be. No one can judge you because it's a subjective opinion of each person.

Usually I don't care about people, but I liked this guy and I'm sad about him not wanting to be my friend. I don't like being rejected; I feel it on a personal level

 

[Throwawayacc3]

He's a guy from this website and I wanted to be his friend but he didn't want to be mine anyways he deleted his account though, I think

I wouldn't get too fixated on anyone (even here because the end goal isn't being here so they won't be your friend when they are gone). If you have a partner - that's your friend (as long as they are in for the long run and don't leave you due to financial or medical) if they do leave you because of that it just burns your insides and you don't trust anyone anymore - yes that's me.

As long as people are open to chat and generally honest then take that as being a "friend" to an extent. The reason people here don't have friends in the real world is because they can't relate to us. Even dogs can smell your hormones and mood changes and adjust how they act lmao. My dog picks up on things that my parents don't - yeah that's how shite people are.

 

[idk3]

It's human nature to want and seek approval and acceptance from other people, especially ones you like.

A big part of why I'm here is because of this.

 

[Throwawayacc3]

Rejection hurts like Hell . Hopefully you can find some fellow introverts you can vibe with

As an introvert and Virgo - don't. Even when I dated - I checked profiles and text and went out on 4 dates before my previous partner. I wasn't checking their finances, past, etc - I was trying to not let them into mine becuase I don't know them.

Friends - don't even bother. It's not the same as a partner.

Get a dog or a parrot (if you have the money and time) and you'll be more content.

 

[sserafim]

I wouldn't get too fixated on anyone (even here because the end goal isn't being here so they won't be your friend when they are gone). If you have a partner - that's your friend (as long as they are in for the long run and don't leave you due to financial or medical) if they do leave you because of that it just burns your insides and you don't trust anyone anymore - yes that's me.

As long as people are open to chat and generally honest then take that as being a "friend" to an extent. The reason people here don't have friends in the real world is because they can't relate to us. Even dogs can smell your hormones and mood changes and adjust how they act lmao. My dog picks up on things that my parents don't - yeah that's how shite people are.

I don't want a partner. I've never had one and I have no need for one. For some reason, I liked this guy though and I'm sad about how he didn't want to talk to me anymore

 

[chobonzi]

Is it dumb to ctb because someone doesn't want to be your friend? It's increased my suicidal ideation and made me both sad and mad

i don't believe so. i want to ctb after my "best friend" got with the girl i was dating and in love with. everyone has a right to live or not. i wish you the best with whatever your intentions are.

 

[Throwawayacc3]

I don't want a partner

That's what I mean. It's a catch 22. You'll only get someone to truly trust you and be your friend as a partner. You won't get that with a "friend" they'll drop you or ghost you when you aren't useful anymore. You do it enough - it blackens you into a void.

 

[divinemistress87]

As an introvert and Virgo - don't. Even when I dated - I checked profiles and text and went out on 4 dates before my previous partner. I wasn't checking their finances, past, etc - I was trying to not let them into mine becuase I don't know them.

Friends - don't even bother. It's not the same as a partner.

Get a dog or a parrot (if you have the money and time) and you'll be more content.

Haha a friend just asked me if I wanted his neighbors parrot but he said the thing is mean and demonic

 

[sserafim]

As an introvert and Virgo - don't. Even when I dated - I checked profiles and text and went out on 4 dates before my previous partner. I wasn't checking their finances, past, etc - I was trying to not let them into mine becuase I don't know them.

Friends - don't even bother. It's not the same as a partner.

Get a dog or a parrot (if you have the money and time) and you'll be more content.

I already have a dog, but for some reason, I just wanted to be friends with this SS user. I don't know why I liked him. He left the site though

 

[Throwawayacc3]

Haha a friend just asked me if I wanted his neighbors parrot but he said the thing is mean and demonic

That really saddens me. I bet it was an impulsive buy. Parrots don't just get "mean and demonic" - it's either from phyxological abuse or just shitty people. The amount of stupid people who cuddle and pet around the chest, wings, tail, just makes them hormonal and begin an egg cycle. Which has a high chance of killing them.
That's why I said have money and time. I should have put - HAVE BRAINS - but so many people are thick as shit nowadays. Can't even train a dog. Shitty people.

I already have a dog, but for some reason, I just wanted to be friends with this SS user. I don't know why I liked him. He left the site though

It's probably cope, trauma, attachment or something else. If you messaged them directly all they had to say was "I'm better now thanks for the chat - cya around" or something. If it was just public forum stuff then that's harder but that's the reality.
You know how bad people are. I think seeking them out doesn't really help. There is an exception here but it's online and most of us are countries away.

 

[Z-A]

Usually I don't care much about people, but I liked this guy and I'm sad about him not wanting to be my friend. I don't like being rejected; I feel it on a personal level

I'm sorry about that. Those things can really make you sad as they're in your memory like a lingering weight on your mind. Anyways, I hope you'll feel better soon, wishing you good luck.

 

[sserafim]

It's probably cope, trauma, attachment or something else.

Wdym?

If you messaged them directly all they had to say was "I'm better now thanks for the chat - cya around" or something. If it was just public forum stuff then that's harder but that's the reality.
You know how bad people are. I think seeking them out doesn't really help. There is an exception here but it's online and most of us are countries away.

He told me that he was gonna delete his account and asked if I had any last words. I honestly don't even know why I liked this guy lol

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Uh, yeah.

 

[sserafim]

Uh, yeah.

I feel like this is a trigger though because I've been suicidal for a while now (for other reasons), but I hate this rejection

 

[locked*n*loaded]

I feel like this is a trigger though because I've been suicidal for a while now (for other reasons), but I hate this rejection

No one likes rejection. But, I found out through living (I've been alive a lot longer than you) that you can't control what other people do, only your reaction to it, and I'll be damned if I ever give anyone that kind of power (life or death) over me. Life and the circumstances that come along with it (systemic) may have that kind of power over me, but no person is ever going to (again). I'd never kill myself over what anyone did to me.

 

[karmaisabitch]

He's a guy from this website and I wanted to be his friend but he didn't want to be mine anyways he deleted his account though, I think

Sounds like obsession! This is deep issue you're dealing with.