Discussion Is anyone else completely socially isolated?

[couldntthinkofaname]

i start to hate my friends after a certain time

cant help it ... so im alone very often... atm im very alone... i used to be arrogant and thought i dont really need other people in my life but now that im totally alone for quite a time i realised i was wrong and arrogant. a hurtful realisation for my ego

 

[RM5998]

i start to hate my friends after a certain time

cant help it ... so im alone very often... atm im very alone... i used to be arrogant and thought i dont really need other people in my life but now that im totally alone for quite a time i realised i was wrong and arrogant. a hurtful realisation for my ego

I don't even consider people around me friends, I just consider them acquaintances. It makes it much easier to deal with people fading in and out of my life.

And yeah, the realization of loneliness hurts. A lot.

 

[couldntthinkofaname]

I don't even consider people around me friends, I just consider them acquaintances. It makes it much easier to deal with people fading in and out of my life.

And yeah, the realization of loneliness hurts. A lot.

its more that it hurts that youre personal well being is depended from others peoples company

like you are depended

 

[NOISYMIND]

I've probably gone 2 weeks without speaking in a real conversation. I reached out people before, but no one replied for a long time. Then I deactivated or deleted all of my social media.

THIS. We've gone through probably exactly the same two weeks.

 

[blood orange]

THIS. We've gone through probably exactly the same two weeks.

Yes. I know it's arbitrary to hold people to self imposed guidelines for acceptable time frames to keep a conversation going. Like why doesn't anyone have the emotional capacity to at least acknowledge that I tried to ask for help.

Just leaving me on read for a month until I ask about them or make some kind of joke.

 

[worldexploder]

Most of my "friends" abandoned me when I had my severe 2 year nervous breakdown from 2004-2006. Apparently people don't empathize with those who have panic attacks. I had one good friend who came back in 2006. We hung out every weekend for 6 months. After my divorce, I slowly isolated myself to were I lay in bed alone for 20 hours a day just Brian Wilsoning my life away. I broke my last friendship off this year when the bastard stole my Xanax, then had an adult temper tantrum at our local go-mart. He's from NYC and we paid his way. Third and final visit! He ain't getting his GTAV game back that he forgot to take home ether.

I prefer isolation now....then again it makes my body hurt. You know that feeling were you haven't been touched by another human in along time? Not nessasarily talking in a sexual way. Just in general.

 

[NOISYMIND]

Yes. I know it's arbitrary to hold people to self imposed guidelines for acceptable time frames to keep a conversation going. Like why doesn't anyone have the emotional capacity to at least acknowledge that I tried to ask for help.

Just leaving me on read for a month until I ask about them or make some kind of joke.

Feel that too. Then I realised a sad truth - I don't really have any "true friends".

 

[worldexploder]

Feel that too. Then I realised a sad truth - I don't really have any "true friends".

It's hard to find a REAL friend. To me, a friend is someone who will stick by your side though the good times and the bad. Trough sickness and though health (part of a wedding vow but it also applies to this). The vast majority of the people we see in life end up being no more than accuantences.

 

[NOISYMIND]

It's hard to find a REAL friend. To me, a friend is someone who will stick by your side though the good times and the bad. Trough sickness and though health (part of a wedding vow but it also applies to this). The vast majority of the people we see in life end up being no more than accuantences.

What you said is so dame true. I believe that any kind of relationship/friendship should work in the same way. With honesty and loyalty.

 

[Taylored]

Completely isolated as well with the rare visit for family or shopping which happens every couple months Don't talk to anybody outside family with the exception of people on here. My real friends abandoned me years ago because of a breakdown

 

[worldexploder]

One thing that sucks about social isolation is that it raises cortisol levels in your body - a stress hormone that kills. It raises the risk of heart disease, high blood pressure, cancer, and countless other ailments.

 

[NOISYMIND]

One thing that sucks about social isolation is that it raises cortisol levels in your body - a stress hormone that kills. It raises the risk of heart disease, high blood pressure, cancer, and countless other ailments.

Sounds like another factor to death.

 

[worldexploder]

Sounds like another factor to death.

It defiantly is. Lonely people are very likely to die young. I think I read a study that says loneliness shaves about 20 to 30 years off your life expectancy. I'm 35 and already feel 60.

 

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loneliness shaves about 20 to 30 years off your life expectancy

 

[couldntthinkofaname]

One thing that sucks about social isolation is that it raises cortisol levels in your body - a stress hormone that kills. It raises the risk of heart disease, high blood pressure, cancer, and countless other ailments.

"Loneliness may reduce life expectancy more than obesity or smoking."

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/reading-between-the-headlines/201504/loneliness-and-death

 

[Bodylotion]

Yes, I used to have a lot of friends and was from friday till sunday evening partying with friends.
Now I have 0 friends because of my social anxiety and my phobia for getting nauseous and vomitting with others around me.
I cannot be social with others in fear of getting sick, I cannot sit in a car with others in fear of getting car sick and because of the fear I actually do get sick.

So yeah, super lonely. :(

 

[lost illusions]

html://friendsandfamily.me=error 404 friends and family not found

I might be out of bounds here but do you want a friend?

 

[lost illusions]

I'm not totally alone, I come here now.

 

[couldntthinkofaname]

I'm not totally alone, I come here now.

pretty sure "online friends" cant replace real human interaction

 

[lost illusions]

pretty sure "online friends" cant replace real human interaction

Real replacement, I wish but it might help. Try

 

[Roph]

The only people I speak to are providers. I pushed everyone away a long time ago.

 

[lost illusions]

I'm not completely alone here although I might push too hard for communication. Reach out here, you might be surprised what ya find

 

[jizz676]

0 friends, I live with my family but wish I had some

 

[Numbtopain97]

Same here

 

[Taki]

I've almost totally withdrawn from other people. I find it's given me more clarity of mind about killing myself.

 

[LogicalConclusion]

This site is 90% of my social interaction x)

 

[Throwawaysoul]

Zero friends here. I use to have a lot of "friends" in my late teens and twenties, but for the wrong reasons. Once I saw through that I realized I had no real friends at all and probably never did. Now over 40, it's impossible to make new friends.

 

[blanketyblk]

All close friend have died, all family have died, partner has died, no other sibling. so yes. i'm very isolated.

 

[Painted Bird]

I am a complete social outcast, voluntarily. I've always been unpopular anyway and now it's my way of life. I know that some people say they don't have real friends while using all kinds of social media and interacting with others in real life every day. They keep boasting about being "misanthropic" and "antisocial" with 900+ "friends" on facebook, posting all the time on twitter, instagram, etc. That's nonsense. I don't use any social media and this message board is the only place I use to post anything. I have literally TWO personal contacts in my cell-phone. I am currently jobless and haven't left my flat in 3 months, my flatmate brings me food. She is moving out in September and then I'll be living completely alone and start going outside again. Will have to get some stupid job and buy food, meh.

 

[a_strange_day]

no family left, no friends left
I've been totally isolated for over a years, my only social interaction is seeing my shrink once a week and the waitress where I drink my coffee in the morning