I'm so tired

[Someplace_nice]

Ik my husband loves when I get up with him, I just don't have the energy to keep doing it tho and idk how to tell him. When I last stayed up all night he never once said that I could go up to bed, so I forced myself to stay awake for him bc I knew he wanted me down there, he asked me if I am getting up with him, I say that I should and he doesn't say anything even tho he literally woke me up from sleeping and I kept telling him that I am tired. Ik it's selfish to stay in bed but I don't gotta work, I have had nothing but bad sleep for a whole month now, and I am extremely stressed out. I got a give him pills otherwise he forgets all about them, this man didn't take his iron and pain pills that he needs bc I wasn't there brushing my teeth getting them all set up, I get he cooks but I gotta clean his mess after, I gotta keep the house clean all by myself, and I gotta make time for me bc he hardly does anymore. No matter how much talking I do to that man I still do everything but cook, than he has a game on Saturday and another game on Sunday that both take up half a day so I don't get him to myself on the weekends and I already don't get him on the weeks. He isn't good at telling me how much money we have and why so I'm stuck in an endless cycle on budgeting trying to stick to it just to find out that we got no money bc "he told me we didn't" when ik that's a fat lie. So I'm sorry if I'm a little exhausted and don't wanna get up and go downstairs with you, cuz than I just got a get all his stuff for him as he sits there. I am quite tired of doing almost everything in the house and still not getting sleep. So sorry that I need a bit more sleep.

 

[timf]

People who work different shifts can have similar difficulties getting synchronized. Sometimes an occasional use of GABA or Benidryl can help someone get to sleep.

 

[looking4partner]

Ik my husband loves when I get up with him, I just don't have the energy to keep doing it tho and idk how to tell him. When I last stayed up all night he never once said that I could go up to bed, so I forced myself to stay awake for him bc I knew he wanted me down there, he asked me if I am getting up with him, I say that I should and he doesn't say anything even tho he literally woke me up from sleeping and I kept telling him that I am tired. Ik it's selfish to stay in bed but I don't gotta work, I have had nothing but bad sleep for a whole month now, and I am extremely stressed out. I got a give him pills otherwise he forgets all about them, this man didn't take his iron and pain pills that he needs bc I wasn't there brushing my teeth getting them all set up, I get he cooks but I gotta clean his mess after, I gotta keep the house clean all by myself, and I gotta make time for me bc he hardly does anymore. No matter how much talking I do to that man I still do everything but cook, than he has a game on Saturday and another game on Sunday that both take up half a day so I don't get him to myself on the weekends and I already don't get him on the weeks. He isn't good at telling me how much money we have and why so I'm stuck in an endless cycle on budgeting trying to stick to it just to find out that we got no money bc "he told me we didn't" when ik that's a fat lie. So I'm sorry if I'm a little exhausted and don't wanna get up and go downstairs with you, cuz than I just got a get all his stuff for him as he sits there. I am quite tired of doing almost everything in the house and still not getting sleep. So sorry that I need a bit more sleep.

I don't think that it's selfish to sleep all day if you stayed up all night. I think it's self-care. Actually, it's a basic need not even a self-care "additional thing to enjoy" type thing.

I usually feel worse when I get less sleep for days in a row. (I have insomnia though that has gotten worse, so it's not always preventable.)

Also, can he use one of those pill boxes that has a box for every day of the week? And keep it in the kitchen so he will see it when he sits down to eat and that can remind him instead?

And is there any way you can have access to the online bank account so you can at least see what it says on the balance for the day?

Sorry about all the advice-giving, I know it can be annoying when people are trying to vent their emotions and need validation.

I am sorry about how stressful it sounds. Idk your opinion, but I have heard of other people saying that they just stopped doing chores for a week so that their spouse would realize how much work they were doing around the house.

 

[mushi]

i'm glad you have a husband. it's not your fault but it sounds like resentment is starting. so you have to sleep even if it disappoints him. because you can't let that resentment get worse. tell him he's not allowed to wake you up from sleep anymore. don't force yourself to stay awake for him. sleep is a need like eating or drinking water or using the toilet. imagine he was standing in front of the toilet not letting you use it until you wet yourself. it's disgusting and abusive right? it's the same thing with sleep. you have to draw the line in the sand on this