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Just came here to say this same thing. It's (weirdly?) nice to know I'm in good company with all the broken hearts here.
I often think some of us are more sensitive... or the other way to look at it is just poor coping skills, I guess. Either way, some of us just don't "bounce back". We get sucked into the undertow of our own grief and just surrender to the flow.
Some people are much more resilient. I envy them. On the other hand, maybe the thing that makes me love so deeply and so passionately is the same thing that make me succumb to the pain so completely.
Whatever the reason, this pain is so overwhelming it just about eviscerates me every time I wake up and remember.
I love being able to feel understood here.
Some people here i assume are being loved unconditionally yet still they die inside every day.
One, speak for yourself.
Two, anyone seeking unconditional love is looking for a lie. True, real love is conditional, and it should be. You should be loved for who you are, and people who love you should have expectations of you.
People who truly love you push you to be better. People who truly love you aren't just warm bodies projecting an idea at you, they're active participants in your happiness, and they have every right to expect the same from you.
You don't just get love, you give it, you share in it.
You can still love someone unconditionally and push them to be better.One, speak for yourself.
Two, anyone seeking unconditional love is looking for a lie. True, real love is conditional, and it should be. You should be loved for who you are, and people who love you should have expectations of you.
People who truly love you push you to be better. People who truly love you aren't just warm bodies projecting an idea at you, they're active participants in your happiness, and they have every right to expect the same from you.
You don't just get love, you give it, you share in it.
The irony of telling someone to speak for themselves and then in the next breath expressing wildly subjective generalizations about a subset of the human population.One, speak for yourself.
Two, anyone seeking unconditional love is looking for a lie. True, real love is conditional, and it should be. You should be loved for who you are, and people who love you should have expectations of you.
People who truly love you push you to be better. People who truly love you aren't just warm bodies projecting an idea at you, they're active participants in your happiness, and they have every right to expect the same from you.
You don't just get love, you give it, you share in it.
One, speak for yourself.
Two, anyone seeking unconditional love is looking for a lie. True, real love is conditional, and it should be. You should be loved for who you are, and people who love you should have expectations of you.
People who truly love you push you to be better. People who truly love you aren't just warm bodies projecting an idea at you, they're active participants in your happiness, and they have every right to expect the same from you.
You don't just get love, you give it, you share in it.
Most people who are attractive are loved...
Are they?
Maybe, but if they're loved because they're attractive, that's not any measure of love I want.
I have been able to garner quite a bit of love in my life, and not because I'm particularly attractive (and from people who had never seen what I looked like anyway). But the kind of love I'd live for is rare; that kind of love is a thing of beauty, and it is a thing you earn and fight for.
'Love' based primarily on 'attractiveness' is shallow and fleeting.
Unfortunately you are pretty spot on. I've even seen some TV shows where they tested this out and the good looking people came out on top in every way despite everything being the same (resume, age, etc) or with the better looking ones having less attractive qualities (not answering interview questions very well, etc.) still coming out on top.Yes they are.
Loved because they are attractive or not, they are loved.
And because of the halo effect, their beauty puts an aura on everything they do, they are judged as more intelligent, competent, cool and desirable. You have to remember that "personality" doesn't exist in a void, we don't have access to "tones" of personalities but only to acts and words that we interpret with charity or severity. People who are more atrractive get more indulgence, attention and sollicitude from others, and those who love them will often think that they love them for other things that their looks, because their words seem more sublime than they are and their personality more pleasant(confident/competent etc), plus when everybody gives you attention and treats you in a special way, you develop confidence, self-esteem, and social intelligence. And vice-versa. If everybody treats you like shit, or just ignores you and never considers you as a potential mate, well that treatment and the social isolation will often turns you into a resentful or depressed person, and then people can say "look, he's/she's lonely because he/she has a shitty personality/is a misogynist/a cunt/asocial etc, a sort of self-fulfilling prophecy that doesn't even make a correct assessment. Since the good-looking assholes males and females have no problem finding mates, even the violent and manipulative ones.
Everything is set up to benefit the good-looking in life, including lve.
Unfortunately you are pretty spot on. I've even seen some TV shows where they tested this out and the good looking people came out on top in every way despite everything being the same (resume, age, etc) or with the better looking ones having less attractive qualities (not answering interview questions very well, etc.) still coming out on top.
Reading up on Jessica Starr, the meteorologist from Detroit, who hanged herself last week. I know this is true. She had a husband and 2 kids but decided to CTB because of the suffering she had to endure from a botched Lasik eye surgeryI have a love, but I still want to CTB...sometimes love isn't enough to keep going.