@Cloud Busting - Welcome back! I hope you've gotten the substance abuse under control for now and am glad you're doing better. As expected, the dynamics of the thread have changed. We have a few new people, and every now and then, a legacy such as yourself drops in to say hi. We're glad you did.
@ConfusedClouds - My apologies, as I meant to reply sooner, and am hoping that the week may have help settle things down for you.
Oh yea - I over analyse and overthink EVERYTHING. And then mess up articulating concerns - so just have to keep myself to myself and 'get on with it' as asking questions or raising these concerns just creates a big scene and spirals me into more frustrations.
I can relate to this - spent a lifetime doing this. For me, I've found that "articulating concerns" in the form of a question has helped me. For example, "didn't we talk about these specific benefits?" This helps the other person to see what you're concerned about without having to directly challenge them. And trust becomes a major part of that. I'm fortunate to work for a company that truly emphasizes Trust and Transpaency. It makes having those conversations much easier.
But you're in an interesting situation - haven't started, but have relocated in preparation. Spend these couple weeks getting used to your new surroundings, exploring and discovering where all the places you'll need to go to are, and maybe even find some interest-based social groups. Something to keep you busy, and maybe even have some fun in the meantime.
How did you maintain the motivation/determination to keep doing what was required to bring about the desired change in your lifestyle?
LOL- Personally, I don't and am struggling with my relevance to humankind. I have so many things I'd like to change and do that I cannot find where to start. And thanks to various MH issues - primarily ADHD - I can get started on something and can't finish it (or finishing it take a huge amount of time and effort.) Since my diagnoses can late in life (just within the past few years), it seems like things are getting worse for me. Sorry for the venting...
In your situation, it's great that you're setting aside time to improve your skills. As far as your resume goes, don't forget about your 'soft skills'. These skill are more easily transferred to different jobs. As an example, if you are able to explain technical concepts to non-technical people, or conversely, translate non-technical requirements into technical specifications, these are in high demand. And as a developer, I'm sure you've done some of this in the past. Soft skills are more difficult to teach - you may not be the best developer, but a average developer with strong soft skills will probably get the job over the awesome developer.
As far as your technical skills, find a project online that you're interested in (could be a practice project or an open-source project on GitHub) and work to contribute to that project. Look for a project that you have some interest in. The goal would be to practice while doing some that is interesting and hopefully fun for you.
Ok,
@Lady Laudanum, it's been almost a week... How the tattoos turn out? Hopefully, they are everything you wanted.
I wish you all a little peace this upcoming weekend and beyond.
