Discussion i want to love

[.koocain]

if im meant to be alone pls take away my desire to be loved. i have too much love and empathyin me, some days some places just make me want to hug everybody and never be sad about anything. its kinda a weakness too lol.
if i was like a millionare id be giving food to the poor or wtv anyways thats besides the point. i kinda just want someone , a reason to stay and a someone who could make me happy but thats just a want now. the worlds to cruel for my fantasies tbh anyways love you all bai

 

[mysticatedwine]

i relate to this feeling. i feel like i am able to give love and receive love in different ways, but my lack of sociability is killing me and constantly preventing me from finding the right people to share comfort and reassurement with. maybe i've got too much self-loathing and am overwhelming with my need for rassurement, who knows. i hope i find someone who helps me make the path worth it. everyone pretends like intimate love is just a plus but, i really feel like i need this in my life.

i hope you find what you're yearning for, and i hope i find that too.

 

[.koocain]

i relate to this feeling. i feel like i am able to give love and receive love in different ways, but my lack of sociability is killing me and constantly preventing me from finding the right people to share comfort and reassurement with. maybe i've got too much self-loathing and am overwhelming with my need for rassurement, who knows. i hope i find someone who helps me make the path worth it. everyone pretends like intimate love is just a plus but, i really feel like i need this in my life.

i hope you find what you're yearning for, and i hope i find that too.

aw i feel you, i think everyone deserves love, it softens the soul but i feel like i still wont find a partner in this generation

 

[DirtCommie]

love has the potential to be a very rewarding thing but it also has thebpotential to be the most destructive thing ever. There fore you always have to play it carefully when it comes to love.

Obviously there will be msny people who will come to you, lying to you telling you that they love you but theyll only be friends with you for their selfish intentions.

But on the other hand there will be be people who come to you who genuinely care aboht you and will 'Put In Dat Work'to show you that they care about you and others. I mean there will be people who will for years and years or maybe even decades will make noteworthy sacrifices for you or those you care about. Now these tyoes of people obviously you should ask them if they want to be your bestest of friends when they demonstrate their love for you. These are the types of people who ypu show you how much they love you by their sacrifices, and you in turn can show them by making sacrifice for them too. They give a little , you give a little, they give a lot, you give a lot and over time if you play yoir cards just right youll see that these which of these people are actually worthy of your time and love.

Never throw all your cards on the table at once please. Gotta play it carefully.

2 things Ill add are:

1. I am no longer very angry at this concept of 'never finding love despite one's best efforts.' If someome spends their most of theire adult life seeking friends and partners and such people never materialize in one's life?...Oh well.... The sad trith is there have been millions of humans before all of us ,and there will sadly be many humans who come after us, who do everything in their power to find genuine friends....and ... no such people ever meet them. And to me thats OK. The world and humanity are a very disorderly and...uhh... interesting place. YOu can do everything correctly and then everything can still go wrong. THats just how this gamble is. At the end of the day life is very much a gamble, you may know a thing or three about what your futire holds but I think most of us dont know how its all gonna play out until it has completely played out. sSometimes youre just dealt a bad hand after bad hand. I think that the only way to get over the sadness of being dealt bad hand after bad hand is just to feel happy that you got to play the game anyways. Thats what Im attempting to do.... To be honest I dont think this is a easy thing to do in the slightest. Most humans are social creatures and I am sure that most humans will not be able to function properly in the absence of enough genuine connection with others. So just being happy to live life with a severe dearth of genuine connection? That seems to be quite impossible lol.

2. I find it very sad and disturbing that we live today in a world created by human connections and yet human connection is not treated as one of the central pillars of human society. We are humans and most humans are clearly social creatures. Most of us NEED connection. Most of us will not even function properly without connection lol. ..so why have we made isolationism one of the centerpieces of so many of the aspects of our life? Unfair, uncharacteristic of us, and very disturbing is what I think of this trend.... ALl humans of peacefull will deserve loving genuine connections and that is just facts.

I Hope all people of peaceful will find those who genuinely care about them as much as they care about their friends.

 

[.koocain]

love has thebpotential to be a very rewarding thing but it also has thebpotential to be the most destructive thing ever. There fore you always have to play it carefully when it comes to love.

Obviously there will be msny people who will come to you, lying to you telling you that they love you but theyll only be friends with you for their selfish intentions.

But on the other hand there will be be people who come to you who genuinely care aboht you and will 'Put In Dat Work'to show you that they care about you and others. I mean there will be people who will for years and years or maybe even decades will make noteworthy sacrifices for you or those you care about. Now these tyoes of people obviously you should ask them if they want to be your bestest of friends when they demonstrate their love for you. These are the types of people who ypu show you how much they love you by their sacrifices, and you in turn can show them by making sacrifice for them too. They give a little , you give a little, they give a lot, you give a lot and over time if you play yoir cards just right youll see that these which of these people are actually worthy of your time and love.

Never throw all your cards on the table at once please. Gotta play it carefully.

ur so right, gosh its so sad that u have to be cautious to love now , worlds too cruel

 

[Dejected 55]

Bad relationships surely are worse than being alone... but on the scale... Bad relationship is on one end and alone is somewhere between that and the middle. Unless you are someone who truly wants to be alone and can be happy with that... Being alone can be crippling. Feeling unloved and unwanted for a long time, or a lifetime in my case, eventually eats away at you to the point where nothing else has value or meaning.