LookingOverTheEdge
Hello Darkness my old friend
- Jul 13, 2020
- 356
Thank you for the kind words. I appreciate it.I'm so sorry you've had this experience. It takes so much courage to go ahead with an attempt. It must feel utterly crushing when it doesn't succeed.
With regards to your friend that knew about the attempt- I know it's going to be hard for you and them. Still- they do sound to be very understanding- if you were able to share such a difficult thing in the first place. It likely will be an emotional rollercoaster for them but they are your friend- and they know how you were/are suffering. I expect they would want to be there for you. I hope the conversation isn't as bad as you think it will be.
I'm so sorry you are going through this experience but at the same time, I am selfishly so thankful to people like you who share your experiences.
I do have a question- if you don't mind? Was the trachycardia worse than doing strenuous exercise? It tends to be that and the breathlessness that makes me think I might panic. I have experienced minor symptoms like that in a gallstone attack and it was horrible. I've considered buying a small oxygen tank to maybe ease the panic, although I don't really know if that would help. Was it a feeling like you couldn't get enough air in?
I really hope the discomfort subsides soon and you are able to take some time to rest and recover.
Honestly, I am finding these recent failure threads very worrying. I do understand why people are becoming so distraught by them. I do also understand the paranoia that SOME of these threads may not be genuine but rather- some pro life scare tactic. Not saying yours is at all.
Still- everyone- can't we just be kind to the OP? If they are willing to discuss their experience- be grateful and ask the questions you want. I think we all try and become detectives when it fails- to try and work out why- which can help going forward I guess. Still- if you don't believe them- isn't it better just to ignore the thread?
Calling them out to be a liar is pretty insensitive when you have no way of proving it. They COULD well have just gone through the most frightening experience of their life. They're utterly alone- so they come on here to find comfort and maybe 'help' others and get greeted with this! Sorry but it really troubles me.
I guess I'm also wondering why it failed. It does seem like following a strict protocol is more likely to result in a successful attempt. Yet, people have succeeded without it. I'm starting to wonder if it is/will be like a helium thing- when manufacturers realised people were using it to CTB, they started adding a percentage of oxygen. I'm not a chemist or anything but I wonder if they could/will do something equivalent with SN one day.
Anyway, I hope you don't get any long term side effects. I hope you are able to reconcile with your friend. Thank you for being so open about your experience. All the best to you.
I'll try to answer your question about the tachycardia. I had taken a couple of propranolol which I think eased it, but it was still noticeable. Very much like having a panic attack I think. I was in a very calm frame of mind, and found it to be bearable, as I knew in my head where the road I was taking led and I wanted that. So that got me through.
I do understand though how that might cause people distress and a change of heart. It was definitely the worst of the symptoms I encountered. But I was past the point of panic. I feel like I was in the eye of a storm so to speak. It felt right to me.
Truth is. I think the worst part for me is still being here now. This wasn't a cry for help. This wasn't looking for attention. I wanted to die. I believed I was dying. And I was perfectly ok with that. I've always feared death about as much as I've longed for it, but the fear had completely gone in those moments, however long they were.I do understand though how that might cause people distress and a change of heart. It was definitely the worst of the symptoms I encountered. But I was past the point of panic. I feel like I was in the eye of a storm so to speak. It felt right to me.
Now that fear is back. Fear of the world I've woken up in. How people will react. What will happen to my life now. That's the worst part. I'm sat here alone, full of sadness, and anger and humiliation. And I don't know what to do with any of it. The only time I can focus elsewhere is when I'm replying here. It's all so fucked up
The term friend is used very loosely. I'm very aware that if it were found that this person knew what I was going to do, they could be held accountable as well and I don't want that.I'm so sorry you've had this experience. It takes so much courage to go ahead with an attempt. It must feel utterly crushing when it doesn't succeed.
With regards to your friend that knew about the attempt- I know it's going to be hard for you and them. Still- they do sound to be very understanding- if you were able to share such a difficult thing in the first place. It likely will be an emotional rollercoaster for them but they are your friend- and they know how you were/are suffering. I expect they would want to be there for you. I hope the conversation isn't as bad as you think it will be.
I'm so sorry you are going through this experience but at the same time, I am selfishly so thankful to people like you who share your experiences.
I do have a question- if you don't mind? Was the trachycardia worse than doing strenuous exercise? It tends to be that and the breathlessness that makes me think I might panic. I have experienced minor symptoms like that in a gallstone attack and it was horrible. I've considered buying a small oxygen tank to maybe ease the panic, although I don't really know if that would help. Was it a feeling like you couldn't get enough air in?
I really hope the discomfort subsides soon and you are able to take some time to rest and recover.
Honestly, I am finding these recent failure threads very worrying. I do understand why people are becoming so distraught by them. I do also understand the paranoia that SOME of these threads may not be genuine but rather- some pro life scare tactic. Not saying yours is at all.
Still- everyone- can't we just be kind to the OP? If they are willing to discuss their experience- be grateful and ask the questions you want. I think we all try and become detectives when it fails- to try and work out why- which can help going forward I guess. Still- if you don't believe them- isn't it better just to ignore the thread?
Calling them out to be a liar is pretty insensitive when you have no way of proving it. They COULD well have just gone through the most frightening experience of their life. They're utterly alone- so they come on here to find comfort and maybe 'help' others and get greeted with this! Sorry but it really troubles me.
I guess I'm also wondering why it failed. It does seem like following a strict protocol is more likely to result in a successful attempt. Yet, people have succeeded without it. I'm starting to wonder if it is/will be like a helium thing- when manufacturers realised people were using it to CTB, they started adding a percentage of oxygen. I'm not a chemist or anything but I wonder if they could/will do something equivalent with SN one day.
Anyway, I hope you don't get any long term side effects. I hope you are able to reconcile with your friend. Thank you for being so open about your experience. All the best to you.
They would do anything to help me, they want so desperately to save me, and the cruelty is that they can't. And I'm causing them so much pain. I've pushed everyone else away and this one person sticks around despite it all and all I'm doing is hurting them as badly as I hurt, whether I intend it or not. Fuck depression. Fuck how the luck of the draw is so cruel to some of us. There's nothing fair about any of this.
I've put other people first my whole life, always tried to give, and be kind regardless of circumstances. And yet I'm here.
Fuck all of it
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