I have tried so hard to love myself but it is so impossible

[Messgram]

@Messgram I am naturally slim that is the only feature I like about my body. I feel like having brown eyes and black hair has ruined everything else. My weight is only perfect thing I have.

At least I think dark hair and brown eyes are pretty cute. Yes, it's a common trait, but still very beautiful. Just because a trait is common doesn't take away its beauty...
I myself don't think redheads are pretty and I don't really like green eyes, my whole social circle has also said similar things, so we can have a Idea of How subjective this color issue is.

 

[Tackingintothewind]

@OldDrummer I really used to believe that once but when you constantly experience guys always rejecting you and choosing other prettier women over you then you realise looks are everything.

It's too late for me and I am pretty much in the final years of my life. I will ctb in my 30s as this is the best and only option for me.
There is absolutely no help for people with my problem/insecurity. If ever open up all I ever get nothing but sh*t from other women who lecture me about how my comments are "insulting to women with black hair and brown eyes " or "hurtful"
I dont even want to be this way but no one seems interested in trying to help me with this problem that has been troubling.
I now feel like I can't win anymore. I dont belong in this world and no one really understands.
Everyone sees me an inconvenience if I ever open up my feelings.
I was born in the wrong world. I will always be an outsider who will never belong.

"You might not want to hear that you insult women when you say what you say but you do. You cant expect people to want to help you after you have insulted them. It's not how it works."

Oh my god I am not insulting anyone this is how I genuinely feel about my own reflection. I wish I didn't have these thoughts 24/7.
Women are offended then they shouldn't respond to my posts then. Being offended is not an argument. These same women who are offended most likely never experienced insecurities so will find my posts offensive as it something they never seen before

"especially here on a suicide website where you are not the only one who is vulnerable"

I never claimed to be vulnerable

Just go away, just go away

@Messgram I am naturally slim that is the only feature I like about my body. I feel like having brown eyes and black hair has ruined everything else. My weight is only perfect thing I have.

You are... if you can't see that then this I think is the real reason people find you unattractive not your colouring. They're are many dark haired, dark eyed, dark skinned people out there... they make up the vast majority of the world and when you express your opinions on these colourings being ugly... you are calling all of them ugly - that is an insult my friend. At least 90% if not 99% of the population have brown eyes. The same applies for dark hair. That's a lot of people you are calling ugly. Whether you ask black people or white people or any other race about these hang ups you are going to be inadvertently calling most of them ugly.
On a suicide website this is magnified as it could drive someone over the edge.

Now please I've listed things you can do 3 times now. Go do them if it makes you feel good about yourself... great! But if you want to attract guys you're going to have to learn to have more awareness of what you are saying. Men aren't going to be attracted to women who insult their own looks and 99% of men have at least one of those "features" you have mentioned as ugly.