I fantasize about someone saving me

[lemonandcapers]

I have fantasies often where I am at my lowest (maybe even about to CTB), and someone sees my pain. They genuinely care and are concerned, and I cry in their arms and let it all out. Every single grievance I have with the world. And they understand, hold me, and we go grab a meal together. We never speak of it again, but the person remains in my life, and we grow even closer.

I hope that somehow, this person can save me from my issues. I know it's not realistic, and I don't want to place that burden on anyone.

Maybe I just want someone to hear me for once.

Maybe I want someone to solve my issues for me because I have tried so damn hard to do it, and it just does not work.

 

[ZarskoV]

I think we all fantasize about this. You are your own savior. Take care

 

[thebiggestduck17]

Same here, i always dream and imagine a girl coming into my life and caring about me, and trying to help me through my problems. Unfortunately, life is bleak.

 

[death_by_life]

Yeah, I think this is super common. I'll definitely admit to it, anyway. But to paraphrase @ZarskoV we are the only ones who can save ourselves. And maybe for some of us just being here is an attempt to do that. I've also fantasized that I've somehow overcome all my issues, and that's when I meet the person I couldn't have been with if I hadn't "gotten better." Maybe the best part of that fantasy is the getting better part, which definitely makes it fantasy rather than reality.

 

[cato75]

The fact is most people would react the same way we would react in that situation ie be super concerned and super freaked out.

 

[lemonandcapers]

I think we all fantasize about this. You are your own savior. Take care

I understand that I am my own savior. It's hard sometimes to be my own savior when I feel so thoroughly unfixable and broken.

Yeah, I think this is super common. I'll definitely admit to it, anyway. But to paraphrase @ZarskoV we are the only ones who can save ourselves. And maybe for some of us just being here is an attempt to do that. I've also fantasized that I've somehow overcome all my issues, and that's when I meet the person I couldn't have been with if I hadn't "gotten better." Maybe the best part of that fantasy is the getting better part, which definitely makes it fantasy rather than reality.

I guess this is an attempt to save myself by begging for help online from strangers in a similar situation as me. I rely heavily on the opinions of others to guide me through life because I don't trust myself, my opinions, or my beliefs, so this could also be why I want someone else to save me instead of me being that person for myself.

 

[bankai]

I completely understand the sentiment OP.Every person has their own problems though. So if we want someone to come and swoop in and save us. Well. They need to disregard their own problems to do so.

I think you can understand that that's completely unrealistic. But I understand the romance. I also wish I could hold someone and be there for them with no expectations

 

[death_by_life]

I guess this is an attempt to save myself by begging for help online from strangers in a similar situation as me. I rely heavily on the opinions of others to guide me through life because I don't trust myself, my opinions, or my beliefs, so this could also be why I want someone else to save me instead of me being that person for myself.

I can understand that. When things are constantly going wrong it can feel like we can't trust ourselves to make decisions or take care of ourselves, especially when no one has done that for us in the past so we don't feel like we know how. It sucks that there are no easy answers.

 

[Pure Vanilla]

Ive thought similiar but it doesnt even have to be saving me and comforting me, i just want someone who talks to me all the time and cares about me alot, everything else feels boring, games, cooking, sports, its all so dull but conversation with 1 important person is my light, sadly that light always floats away like a chinese lantern

 

[usernamesarehard]

I think this is a pretty common fantasy. People probably don't talk about it too much because 1) they know logically the only person who can save them is them and 2) like you said putting that pressure on someone isn't good. I'm sure I've felt this way before.

One reason I think we dream of this is because we don't have anyone to talk to. Most people aren't suicidal, so they won't understand and they'll either try to make you feel guilty for being suicidal or they just won't be very helpful. A lot of people can't just listen and sympathize.

We all want to be heard. But for various reasons we aren't. We're either rejected or ignored or talked down on. We all want someone to come in and fix the issues we weren't strong enough to fix ourselves.

I think I have this fantasy in a way. I'm hoping my ex comes back and I can have SOME reason to keep going.

Feel free to reach out if you want to have someone listen to you vent. Or don't. I've had this account for years and only became active recently. Trust no one, especially on the internet. Lol

 

[leloyon]

I fantasise about that sometimes, but more than anything, I fantasise about having lived a different life altogether.
There's only so much "saving" that can be done at this point. I just wish I could have a do-over.