Help How to make friends + how to stop getting romantically attached to friends

[sheburnedmedown]

It's been a long time since I've had a real life friend. I dont have a job nor school so I mostly resorted to online friends but even that is hard now. All my previous online friendships failed because they either vanish or it just doesn't work out because I'm socially inept.

Used to be friends with this one polish girl, she was pretty and also weird. It was a perfect combo. Being with her felt like heaven because she was very non judgemental and kinda fun to talk with but ended up liking her more than a friend way. Being gay sucks. It was never gonna happen. Tried to tell myself that I just want her as a friend but then when she started to soft launch her situationship shit or whatever the jealousy happened and ended up taking out my anger on her but framed the reasoning as something else. Apologized for it but the damage was already done so knew it was wraps. She was way out of my league tbh.

All my past friendships with women almost always turn out this way. And the worst part is that most of them are online so imagine if I somehow managed to have an irl female friend (which is never going go happen because women can sense that I'm a loser and avoid me)

 

[Arioso]

maybe it'd be better if you tried being friends with men instead, but beware of budding romantic interests from their part as it might turn into what you're just describing.
so i guess your best bet is making friends with homosexual men, or at least with non touch-starved men

 

[sheburnedmedown]

maybe it'd be better if you tried being friends with men instead, but beware of budding romantic interests from their part as it might turn into what you're just describing.
so i guess your best bet is making friends with homosexual men, or at least with non touch-starved men

I can always keep my gender hidden or say I'm a dude but the problem is I don't have anything in common with dudes in terms of interests nor do I play any video games so I don't know what we'll bond over
Im crippingly fembrained I think

 

[Arioso]

I can always keep my gender hidden or say I'm a dude but the problem is I don't have anything in common with dudes in terms of interests nor do I play any video games so I don't know what we'll bond over
Im crippingly fembrained I think

what are your interests?

 

[SackOfCrap445]

I can always keep my gender hidden or say I'm a dude but the problem is I don't have anything in common with dudes in terms of interests nor do I play any video games so I don't know what we'll bond over
Im crippingly fembrained I think

make friends with gay guys, thats your main option

 

[sheburnedmedown]

what are your interests?

Mostly music I suppose. I dont create nor play any instruments though (but I'd love to man)

 

[Arioso]

Mostly music I suppose. I dont create nor play any instruments though (but I'd love to man)

please do yourself a favor and buy yourself a used up electric guitar and a cheap external audio card.
the amount of stuff you can do with just a guitar and a computer is nothing more than amazing. making your own music all by yourself is extremely fulfilling, it's the best decision i've made in my life
btw what music do you listen to