How to get close friends/family?

[Kall]

I never had trusted people in my life: no family, no close friends. It's something that I struggled with during all my life, and I don't know how to get this kind of people. I've already done so much to get better so far but it feels like I improved only on the surface (social skills, health, career,...), and the emotional hole that is inside me is still wide open.

I just wanted to ask: to those who got close friends/chosen family during their life, how did you managed to create such a bond?

 

[Life_and_Death]

i personally havent found it within blood family.

but the very very few people i have found it in well they have bpd so we click through relating.
and im pretty sure thats typically a good place to start. maybe not mental health similarities, but hobbies/interests. i hope to make some friends after i move that relate on a spiritual level, but we'll see. different things like that