You don't know how much this mindset and words can hurt to hear as a man .
Alright let's assume 99.99 percent of men are terrible. Why is it fair for the remaining 0.01 to hear these words about themselves. If I belong to a gender that is considered violent and rapist why should honestly any man live ? What's the point? If my existence makes women suffer it's my responsibility to kill myself
* Sorry for derailing the thread here OP *
I've just responded to your other thread about 'man hating' on the forum. I was curious to see where the complaint originated from so, I traced it back to here. Maybe there were other threads too though.
In response to your response. Yes, it's sad that women have such a profound distrust of men. Still- it's reasonable to question why- surely? Plus, to try to look for examples. I think the member you responded to made a fair point that a (worryingly large) proportion of men absolutely do abuse women and absolutely, some mechanisms in society ignore and enable it.
They maybe took it too far saying most men were 'awful' (although, maybe that has been their experience.) They did also specify that all men weren't 'disgusting' though.
There was no mention that men should kill themselves there though! The person was simply saying that as a society in which there is rife violence against women, women are wary of men and some have a very low opinion of them. Plus, why aren't the systems that ought to protect men and women from domestic violence working? That seems reasonable to me.
It's actually men as well as women who campaign for more to be done against domestic violence. They want their male 'brothers' to be held liable to account if they are violent because they care about women too. They may feel embarassed about being part of the same gender but, they don't retaliate with more hostility or, guilt tripping. How dare you be afraid and wary of me! They simply act decently to prove that there are still good men out there- which of course, there are.
Honestly though- to complain about a complaint about domestic violence. By saying effectively- you can't complain about being raped, hit, abused and then ignored by the authorities- because it hurts my feelings as a man, could be viewed as another way to silence women.
It's absolutely unfortunate that some women and men who have encountered sexual and domestic abuse will now carry a distrust/ disgust of the opposite sex. That's why we ought to be doing more to prevent it though. That certainly doesn't mean all women hate men or vice versa.
And, it's only the most extreme that want all the opposite sex dead. I don't think I've run into any personally. Maybe some of us like the idea of living in matriarchal societies or, only women groups but again- who can blame them- if they've been brutalised?
It just feels a little like you're assuming- this woman hates men so therefore, all women do- which isn't true. Our opinions are defined by our experiences. This woman and all others want us dead. Which also isn't true. They simply want to stop a percentage of your gender raping and abusing them whilst society is ineffective to stop them. That's fair- surely?
