How does sex affect your suicide?

[Zer0]

I'm 21 and never had sex and i'm obsessed with this,. Usually i get frustrated when i think about sex but if it happens to be a continuous thing for days ( months sometimes ) the frustration builds up and make me fell worse than the normal days with the normal problems and pushes me towards my premature end.
What you think about it? What is your personal experience? Do you plan to have sex one last time before cbt?

 

[Psilo]

27 here, Im totally messed up.

 

[Help_Me]

27 here as well. I'd like to, but i have no one to have it with

 

[Zer0]

27 here, Im totally messed up.

Could you explain?

27 here as well. I'd like to, but i have no one to have it with

Same heere, i'm afraid the only way i will ever heve sex is if i pay someone.

 

[Psilo]

Could you explain?

27, desocialized, no real job, still living with my folks, never had any relationship nor real friends. Ctb is the way to go, for me.

 

[Dead beat dad]

I'm 21 and never had sex and i'm obsessed with this,. Usually i get frustrated when i think about sex but if it happens to be a continuous thing for days ( months sometimes ) the frustration builds up and make me fell worse than the normal days with the normal problems and pushes me towards my premature end.
What you think about it? What is your personal experience? Do you plan to have sex one last time before cbt?

Hey friend, I'm so sorry to hear about your frustrations with this.
Maybe I have something useful that might be able to help.
Sex is nice, but it is overrated.
Bit like pizza, nice, in fact you never really have bad pizza, but mind blowing out of this world pizza is a very rare thing, because pizzas are all very similar.
Sadly the more you build it up, the more it will be a let down when it happens, bit like if you're expecting the most amazing pizza in the world but you just get a average run of the mill pizza.
I know there is this societal pressure to have sex and I think that this makes it something it's not.
In the end sex and pizza are like a lot of things in your life when your glass is half empty, nice to have but ultimately a disappointment that you could have gone without.
I hope that you find what you're looking for friend, and take it from someone who HATES having sex, you're not missing much.
DBD

 

[Walilamdzi]

I'm 22 and I've had sex with... I think 9 people. It doesn't really affect my suicide at all, although a lot of those happened when I was kind of ill, so it wasn't great for people to take advantage of that. Out of those, only two were stable relationships.

 

[throwaway777]

im 21 and never had too .. tbh i hate it and it feels so disgusting to me how humans lose any control over their bodies when under that impulse ..also its one of the reasons im alive now and suffering so yeah i hate it

 

[Olach]

Hey friend, I'm so sorry to hear about your frustrations with this.
Maybe I have something useful that might be able to help.
Sex is nice, but it is overrated.
Bit like pizza, nice, in fact you never really have bad pizza, but mind blowing out of this world pizza is a very rare thing, because pizzas are all very similar.
Sadly the more you build it up, the more it will be a let down when it happens, bit like if you're expecting the most amazing pizza in the world but you just get a average run of the mill pizza.
I know there is this societal pressure to have sex and I think that this makes it something it's not.
In the end sex and pizza are like a lot of things in your life when your glass is half empty, nice to have but ultimately a disappointment that you could have gone without.
I hope that you find what you're looking for friend, and take it from someone who HATES having sex, you're not missing much.
DBD

I have never tried the pizza :)

 

[Final Escape]

All you really need is porn, your hand, and some lube lol! Jus kidding! But yea I know that's not the same thing as being wanted, physically participating, with someone u actually like who turns u on. I never know what to say to virgins because being female and reasonably attractive, u just don't have this issue. The issue for girls\women is the emotional repercussions of sex if the guy is just using u for sex and u happen to attach, or even worse u end up pregnant by some random guy.

Women can use men for sex as well but it's more damaging to us to do this than if a guy has casual sex. The downside for women is u are highly sexually valuable when young but u have the same thing happen when u get older and u are no longer attractive to men. So guys start out low value when young and often don't finally have sex till they gain some status, financial stability. So that's the bright side for young men. If u work on yourself, u gain value and desirability to women over time.

 

[Dead beat dad]

I have never tried the pizza :)

It's on par with sex

 

[Zer0]

Hey friend, I'm so sorry to hear about your frustrations with this.
Maybe I have something useful that might be able to help.
Sex is nice, but it is overrated.
Bit like pizza, nice, in fact you never really have bad pizza, but mind blowing out of this world pizza is a very rare thing, because pizzas are all very similar.
Sadly the more you build it up, the more it will be a let down when it happens, bit like if you're expecting the most amazing pizza in the world but you just get a average run of the mill pizza.
I know there is this societal pressure to have sex and I think that this makes it something it's not.
In the end sex and pizza are like a lot of things in your life when your glass is half empty, nice to have but ultimately a disappointment that you could have gone without.
I hope that you find what you're looking for friend, and take it from someone who HATES having sex, you're not missing much.
DBD

Lots of people already told me that, IRL and on the internet but my mind can't accept it, all the time I'm thinking about sex as a experience that will change everything in my life to a good thing, and since I can't get it the frustration only gets worse.

All you really need is porn, your hand, and some lube lol! Jus kidding! But yea I know that's not the same thing as being wanted, physically participating, with someone u actually like who turns u on. I never know what to say to virgins because being female and reasonably attractive, u just don't have this issue. The issue for girls\women is the emotional repercussions of sex if the guy is just using u for sex and u happen to attach, or even worse u end up pregnant by some random guy.

Women can use men for sex as well but it's more damaging to us to do this than if a guy has casual sex. The downside for women is u are highly sexually valuable when young but u have the same thing happen when u get older and u are no longer attractive to men. So guys start out low value when young and often don't finally have sex till they gain some status, financial stability. So that's the bright side for young men. If u work on yourself, u gain value and desirability to women over time.

I'm kinda porn/masturbation addict because it makes me free of that feeling of "wanting to be wanted" for a time. I'm in a situation where if a random girl asked me to have sex I would because I lost all hope of things going right with someone I like so for me now empty sex would be enough.
I don't think my value as a man will grow because I look "average/good" but my personality is boring.

 

[seekingoblivion]

So guys start out low value when young and often don't finally have sex till they gain some status, financial stability. So that's the bright side for young men. If u work on yourself, u gain value and desirability to women over time.

Man fuck this. I'd rather fuck escorts at least you both clear on what you want from the get go and there's no bullshitting in between. My dad got ruined by a woman who thought him "valuable and desirable" after he made bucks. Motherfucker ditched my mom (who married him when he was just getting started in life) for her and when the bank got dry she ditched him like he was last century's news. Truth is there's young dudes fucking all over even if it's a lot harder for us than women it's just that some of us ugly as fuck. Some of us both inside and out(Yours truly). Some mostly inside but a little outside too. A few outside. And some just inside. But yeah I'm not busting my ass tryna be a millionaire just to finally be "sexually valuable". I'm stressed enough as it is with life and my job (and I'm hypertensive already) and if it means ain't nobody can love me then that's okay. My grave will give me all the love and warmth I need. Hookers can give me the nasty stuff I need fore I die.

 

[Kikoo Loool]

Hey guys,
If you really want to have good sex for a first and maybe only time in your life, save money and bang an escort. Take time on dedicated websites to find some who do good gfe (girl friend experience). In some countries there are legal brothels where you can find kind girls.

 

[seekingoblivion]

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I hope that you find what you're looking for friend, and take it from someone who HATES having sex, you're not missing much.
DBD

Never met anyone who actually HATES it before. When was the last time you did the nasty?

 

[Dead beat dad]

Never met anyone who actually HATES it before. When was the last time you did the nasty?

Fuck knows, I've done it maybe once or twice in the last year (I have a full time partner who I live with, she knows how I feel and it is nothing personal and is actually very understanding).
Trouble for me is that because I'm so constantly fatigued, if I lay down I just need to rest, the thought of having to have sex fills me with anxiety.
Ironically depressing.
DBD

 

[Final Escape]

Man fuck this. I'd rather fuck escorts at least you both clear on what you want from the get go and there's no bullshitting in between. My dad got ruined by a woman who thought him "valuable and desirable" after he made bucks. Motherfucker ditched my mom (who married him when he was just getting started in life) for her and when the bank got dry she ditched him like he was last century's news. Truth is there's young dudes fucking all over even if it's a lot harder for us than women it's just that some of us ugly as fuck. Some of us both inside and out(Yours truly). Some mostly inside but a little outside too. A few outside. And some just inside. But yeah I'm not busting my ass tryna be a millionaire just to finally be "sexually valuable". I'm stressed enough as it is with life and my job (and I'm hypertensive already) and if it means ain't nobody can love me then that's okay. My grave will give me all the love and warmth I need. Hookers can give me the nasty stuff I need fore I die.

I understand what you are saying and in these times the normal order is screwed up so I don't blame u for feeling this way. Under feminism which is what we have these days women were allowed to alter our behaviors. Normally under the patriarchy most men can find a mate and not when they are like much older because at one time not only was the economy better but society had strict social norms with good reason.

Currently women are held up as having rights over men, freed from responsibility, allowed to have kids indiscriminately often with men who don't want to take responsibility or cannot provide, and the state pays for it through taxation off the productive men primarily this screwed things up badly. You end up with more single mothers(terrible for kids) easy divorce, breakdown in morality.

It didn't used to be this way, and men and women were at one time held to the same standards within their respective gender roles. You couldn't just bail out of a marriage and destroy a man. You had to wait till marriage to have kids in order to ensure that you had a loyal provider for your kids who is the biological father. When you give either sex absolute power over the other sex through the state, they become corrupt.

If you change the incentive structure back to no state intervention than women will go back to changing their behavior to adapt. When the social consequences accrue to the person behaving badly they change their behaviors. When the families of women are stuck with the costs of the out of wedlock pregnancy, parents will be more invested in getting her to marry early and pick a responsible man.

 

[seekingoblivion]

Fuck knows, I've done it maybe once or twice in the last year (I have a full time partner who I live with, she knows how I feel and it is nothing personal and is actually very understanding).
Trouble for me is that because I'm so constantly fatigued, if I lay down I just need to rest, the thought of having to have sex fills me with anxiety.
Ironically depressing.
DBD

I'm sorry to hear it causes you anxiety. I can get how it can be unappealing if your mood is low or something similar (extrapolating from my experience with porn and"self love". I'm a couple of months in of no self induced nutting). You a lucky man though to have someone who's understanding of your issue with sex.

 

[FTL.Wanderer]

I'm 21 and never had sex and i'm obsessed with this,. Usually i get frustrated when i think about sex but if it happens to be a continuous thing for days ( months sometimes ) the frustration builds up and make me fell worse than the normal days with the normal problems and pushes me towards my premature end.
What you think about it? What is your personal experience? Do you plan to have sex one last time before cbt?

You're brave for having this discussion publicly. There's a lot of medical evidence about the physiological and emotional benefits of physical intimacy--and even evidence that it can't be replicated effectively (by today's surrogates). So it's understandable that many people experiencing chronic frustration of one of human evolution's strongest urges would feel very distressed. I don't know what the solution is--you can Google more evidence about how ineffective the many online and in-person paid seminars and other social interventions are at helping people in this situation. But I wish culturally we'd stop bashing (or worse, labeling as monsters) people for being honest about struggling with unmet needs. It's no more effective than lecturing suicidal people that we need to appreciate life and just keep living.

On the bright side, technology may put a major dent in this problem in the next decade. If you ever want to talk more about it in private, PM me. Peace to you, brother.

Hey friend, I'm so sorry to hear about your frustrations with this.
Maybe I have something useful that might be able to help.
Sex is nice, but it is overrated.
Bit like pizza, nice, in fact you never really have bad pizza, but mind blowing out of this world pizza is a very rare thing, because pizzas are all very similar.
Sadly the more you build it up, the more it will be a let down when it happens, bit like if you're expecting the most amazing pizza in the world but you just get a average run of the mill pizza.
I know there is this societal pressure to have sex and I think that this makes it something it's not.
In the end sex and pizza are like a lot of things in your life when your glass is half empty, nice to have but ultimately a disappointment that you could have gone without.
I hope that you find what you're looking for friend, and take it from someone who HATES having sex, you're not missing much.
DBD

Hey @Dead beat dad I'm vegan. Closest I've ever come to pizza is doughy homemade flatbread with olive oil, large-size sea salt chunks, basil pesto, open-flame grilled portobellos thin-sliced, and pan-seared spring vegetables. Does that count? :) For what it's worth, that dish knocks me out Every. Time.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

No effect at all … if I never have sex again, I'm cool with it. I just want to be dead.

 

[Dead beat dad]

You're brave for having this discussion publicly. There's a lot of medical evidence about the physiological and emotional benefits of physical intimacy--and even evidence that it can't be replicated effectively (by today's surrogates). So it's understandable that many people experiencing chronic frustration of one of human evolution's strongest urges would feel very distressed. I don't know what the solution is--you can Google more evidence about how ineffective the many online and in-person paid seminars and other social interventions are at helping people in this situation. But I wish culturally we'd stop bashing (or worse, labeling as monsters) people for being honest about struggling with unmet needs. It's no more effective than lecturing suicidal people that we need to appreciate life and just keep living.

On the bright side, technology may put a major dent in this problem in the next decade. If you ever want to talk more about it in private, PM me. Peace to you, brother.


Hey @Dead beat dad I'm vegan. Closest I've ever come to pizza is doughy homemade flatbread with olive oil, large-size sea salt chunks, basil pesto, open-flame grilled portobellos thin-sliced, and pan-seared spring vegetables. Does that count? :) For what it's worth, that dish knocks me out Every. Time.

I'll accept vegan pizza, but it's still in the arguement, just using vegan pizza IMO.
Ps: mass respect for you vegan lifestyle choice

 

[Zer0]

You're brave for having this discussion publicly. There's a lot of medical evidence about the physiological and emotional benefits of physical intimacy--and even evidence that it can't be replicated effectively (by today's surrogates). So it's understandable that many people experiencing chronic frustration of one of human evolution's strongest urges would feel very distressed. I don't know what the solution is--you can Google more evidence about how ineffective the many online and in-person paid seminars and other social interventions are at helping people in this situation. But I wish culturally we'd stop bashing (or worse, labeling as monsters) people for being honest about struggling with unmet needs. It's no more effective than lecturing suicidal people that we need to appreciate life and just keep living.

On the bright side, technology may put a major dent in this problem in the next decade. If you ever want to talk more about it in private, PM me. Peace to you, brother.

I think the only solution is to have physical intimacy with someone, but is not that easy for me, i am too insecure and when i am aroung girls it gets worse so i always do something wrong ( most times i lack attitude and girls give up on me ).
I don't thik the technology will help me cause the affection part sounds relevant too, one of these days i will try to get a hooker just to see if my mind give me a rest but my hopes aren't high, at least the "Virgin" label will get out of my head.

 

[FTL.Wanderer]

I think the only solution is to have physical intimacy with someone, but is not that easy for me, i am too insecure and when i am aroung girls it gets worse so i always do something wrong ( most times i lack attitude and girls give up on me ).
I don't thik the technology will help me cause the affection part sounds relevant too, one of these days i will try to get a hooker just to see if my mind give me a rest but my hopes aren't high, at least the "Virgin" label will get out of my head.

Hope something good happens for you soon.

 

[Mr2005]

I was 21 when I had sex for the first time. Now I'm 32 and hope having it vigorously enough kills me

 

[Solo]

I've accepted that i'll be a virgin forever. unmotivated, insecure, borring, worst of all i look way younger than my age. My plan is to buy a hooker then ctb the day after with N. Got half the funds currently.

 

[Mr2005]

Looking younger than your age isn't anything to complain about.

 

[Solo]

sure its nice to look young when ur like 40 but thats the only upside

 

[TAW122]

It affects me a minor way in which that I have this 'chip' ingrained in me that I would not be able to remove until I have experienced what 'sex' feels like, physically speaking. This 'chip' would be called the virgin chip, and while yes, it is something that is a social construct and doesn't have a physical impact nor change my life (other than society's definition of me never having sexual intercourse in my life), it does sadden me a bit of not being able to 'experience' something so fundamental and basic that most people get easily (or take for granted even).

 

[Worthless_nobody]

Looking younger than your age isn't anything to complain about.

I'll have to disagree on that one. Personally I feel like being told you look like a highschooler in your late 20s is just not a compliment. For someone in their 40s sure...but in your 20s when you want to be taken seriously and not treated like a "cute" kid it feels demeaning to look much younger than your age.

edit: my comment is not really referring too sex life but just how people who look way yonger are treated in general

 

[Xaphous]

I also look much younger than my age but now I'm 29 and still virgin which is a dehumanizing feeling. Suppressed sexual energy is truly awful and if it doesn't lead to rage it could probably cause a disease in your body. I would pay a hooker but they're ugly in my area, and why would I go where 900 guys have already been before me. So I'll die a virgin probably because I don't have a choice anyway.