How does sex affect your suicide?

[memataporfavor]

Sex is one of the few activities I truly love, but even that I get to screw up by my reckless behaviour. I get so fixated on having it a lot w no matter who that I end up hurting myself rather than actually enjoying it like a normal person. And I cant stop myself. I could say that it's one of the things that keeps me alive atm but at the same time one of the things that's killing me slowly (even if just by destroying my mental health even more)

 

[TheREALDisgustingMe]

I see a lot of people here basing their self-worth on whether or not they're a virgin. Please don't do this - it's completely wrong. Just because you've had sex once does not mean you're suddenly a better person, or that your issues will fix themselves. I wanted to kill myself before I lost my virginity, and I do after I've lost it. Regardless of whether or not you've lost your virginity - you're all beautiful people with each different great qualities.

Yeah. A lot of you guys are partially (if not majorly for a few of you) basing your own self worthiness on the corrupted rule and view from society regarding whether you simply had sex or not at all. I can understand how especially difficult this is to deal with in areas where such pressure is placed a lot more on the person such as in schools and certain workplaces or how much one would want to desire it since it's that enjoyable to so many, but at the end of the day, it's still just a quick moment of pleasure. That's pretty much it.

I can only blame our society for this type of mindset. There's really no need to feel ashamed of yourselves at all for not having sex, no matter what any other petty hairless ape says to you otherwise. How much people in our ridiculously narcissistic, pro-life society heavily view another one's own worth as a man or woman simply based on whether they are a virgin or not is one of the many little reasons why I really cannot stand people in general. The type of people that basically made it as some kind of absurd imaginary rule that sex is oh so necessary and one of the most important factors in life itself when there's obviously so much more that's a lot more important, meaningful, and/or satisfactory in life (including even simple hobbies like listening to music, watching tv or a movie, reading a book, playing games, etc, in my opinion).

 

[housecat]

I think sex can be helpful, as it can help your mood, stress, emotional stability, confidence, etc. It of course won't work miracles, but it has helped me a little when I have been struggling and over-thinking. My husband hasn't had sex with me in years, and the sense of rejection, lack of release, along with the reduced intimacy and bond have been quite draining. It's also an additional source of frustration to have only been in a heterosexual relationship.

 

[ayanonikki]

hmmm, i'm a 17 year old girl who has never had sex. i've had one boyfriend and when i was with him i had little desire for physical contact except just hugging him because it felt comfortable and safe. i am so insecure in my appearance and myself as a person, i don't want a boyfriend/girlfriend again if i do commit suicide. i don't want someone pressuring me into any 'sexual progression' as i would call it. you know, waiting for your first kiss with one another, then waiting a period for oral sex, then penetrative sex. horny teenage boys seem to have that all planned out, and i can't be fucking arsed with following their bullshit, to be honest. petty things like that don't faze me any more at this point.

i am comfortable dying as a virgin. i find something beautiful in it... but maybe that's because i'm a girl. it's never the same for boys. but, if it's worth anything, the last thing someone is going to be thinking about is their sex with you or your lack of a sex life after your suicide (let's hope they're not that weird). although i do feel i'm missing out on an important aspect of life, it's kind of a whatever subject to me. i'll stay innocent... ha. in one sense i suppose.

 

[ScorpiusDragon]

I love sex and it's one of the few things I still find pleasure in. Back when I was on meds, my sex drive went down a lot, but ever since I stopped taking meds, my sex drive went up again. My boyfriend and I haven't had sex in a long time because he almost never seems to be in a mood anymore. It's a bit frustrating, but I don't think the lack of sex is related to my desire to ctb.

 

[freemefrompain]

sex is overrated trust me! In fact, if I could go back in time I'd just stay a virgin as it can often make you feel worse and lower self esteem even more if you're feelings aren't appreciated.

 

[Shamana]

I was chemically castrated by SSRI's since I was 20, so havn't had a sex life since I was 19. The only thing that's ever given me joy is chasing girls. I love womanzing even if it doesn't lead to sex, but obviously the whole game is ruined. I think it's mental to prescribe psyc drugs that destroy sex lives and ruin people's ability to feel empathy and love.

When I did have sex though, I enjoyed, but also felt that it was slightly overrated. I think having libido is more rewarding than sex itself.

 

[Painted Bird]

Sex is overrated indeed, just like @freemefrompain said. I'm 38 and I never want to have sex again in my life. I've had more than enough, even though I lost my virginity really "late", at the age of 25. So sex doesn't affect my suicide, I don't want to do it again before ctb.

 

[Azazel]

I've seen a lot of different opinions on this thread. There are a lot of things that can influence one's sexual experience. In my case (19 years old, having had sex with one person during a few months), I can say that my experience was good, I enjoyed it, not because of the sex itself, but because of the person I was having it with. To me, sex is a cool thing to have, but it's extremely overrated. The most pleasureable "sexual expiriences" that I'ved had have been with myself. It's been a long time since I last had sex with someone else and I don't really miss it. But as I said, everybody's expirience is different

 

[azucaramargo]

Man fuck this. I'd rather fuck escorts at least you both clear on what you want from the get go and there's no bullshitting in between. My dad got ruined by a woman who thought him "valuable and desirable" after he made bucks. Motherfucker ditched my mom (who married him when he was just getting started in life) for her and when the bank got dry she ditched him like he was last century's news. Truth is there's young dudes fucking all over even if it's a lot harder for us than women it's just that some of us ugly as fuck. Some of us both inside and out(Yours truly). Some mostly inside but a little outside too. A few outside. And some just inside. But yeah I'm not busting my ass tryna be a millionaire just to finally be "sexually valuable". I'm stressed enough as it is with life and my job (and I'm hypertensive already) and if it means ain't nobody can love me then that's okay. My grave will give me all the love and warmth I need. Hookers can give me the nasty stuff I need fore I die.

Ugly and you don't belong in the same sentence. You're god-damned incredible.

 

[Sanguinius]

not really, after sex, i usually want to kill the other people, not myself as usual.

 

[seekingoblivion]

Ugly and you don't belong in the same sentence. You're god-damned incredible.

Had an exhausting day at work and this just made my day. YOU'RE god-damned incredible!!