How do people actually enjoy watching porn and shit?

[Cauliflour]

This may sound stupid but how do people watch porn and not feel disgusted with themselves afterwards? Watching that crap just makes me feel like a voyeur even know I know it's all acted, or at least they're aware they're being recorded for the internet (at least I sure hope they know).

This reminds me of a screenshot of a Twitter post I saw a bit ago on Google Images (don't know what I searched up but it was something to do with lesbianism) and it was a feminist claiming that lesbian porn should cease to be made and that it's all just a fetish for weird men but like, did she forget about us? To be fair, lesbianism is portrayed in the media and society as a whole as some quirky sexy thing women do with their friends for the hell of it, some phase for feminists who hate men that can be fixed with a good ol' straight shagging, or in more recent years: you want to look inclusive but you also want to play it safe so you can get all that China money.

Very little porn is made for sapphic women and it shows. There's barely any "healthy" resources to research on when you have teenage hormones going here there anywhere (although to be fair there's not many resources on women's sexual health to begin with) so you have to figure it out based on whatever shit PornHub is serving up. But even if there was like proper sapphic porn easily available, I don't think that feeling would go away. I can't do what I suspect normal people do, and imagine myself in the shoes of someone else. I always view myself as an outside observer and this extends to video games too which I think is one of the reasons why 4th wall breaks that address this intrigue me so much. I honestly can't tell what's worse: the scripted cinematic stuff or the ones where it's just couples recording themselves in bed. The former is obviously fake and gets ridiculous all the time but it feels like watching a film so it's not as voyeur-y, but the latter feels more authentic and makes me feel less like slut for simply existing, but then I feel like I'm interrupting something intimate.

Even without porn I still feel disgusting, and increasingly so. I suspect it's down to multiple reasons which I'm not going to list here for obvious reasons but I both feel like something's wrong with me and the deep rooted misogyny in society at the same time. And no, this isn't some asexual thing. But when I see people joke about losers who spend all day jacking off to hentai it makes me wonder how these people do it. How can they spend a whole day doing nothing but looking at porn? How can they spend a whole evening doing nothing but looking at porn?

 

[amerie]

It's an addiction and they 100% do feel disgusted with themselves. I remember having a corn addiction as a child and I always felt so gross, it's gotten better as I've aged though which I'm thankful for. Learning about the abuse and exploitation of the corn industry also turned me off from it, as I realized a lot of the performers were deeply unhappy with themselves.

I feel bad for people with an addiction like this and I don't judge them because it usually starts out as curiosity and when you're already depressed it's so tempting to watch just pure ecstasy from two people.

 

[ALonelyFreak]

Lol rel I've been adult for a while but every time I try I feel like I'm doing something illegal. I haven't watched one full porn video so I wonder why it's interesting to anybody. I'm a sexual person. But I kinda don't like seeing this shit.

 

[Cauliflour]

It's an addiction and they 100% do feel disgusted with themselves. I remember having a corn addiction as a child and I always felt so gross, it's gotten better as I've aged though which I'm thankful for.

I feel bad for people with an addiction like this and I don't judge them because it usually starts out as curiosity and when you're already depressed it's so tempting to watch just pure ecstasy from two people.

Oh I don't see it like that I just see it as like some kind of instruction manual. I'm a visual learner! But lesbian porn is too shit for me to bother watching it enough to cause an addiction.
I've just realised I made a very similar post literally a month ago oops...
I've just realised I made a very similar post literally a month ago oops...

 

[EmptyBottle]

I also wonder how ppl see it as smth enjoyable, one time I got a bit grossed out when I clicked one to see what it was, and didn't return to that site.

The only time I watched a mutual pleasure video was years ago, tho didn't really feel like watching more.

additionally, I wonder how some ppl spend more than 30m in a row on self pleasure.

 

[Cauliflour]

I also wonder how ppl see it as smth enjoyable, one time I got a bit grossed out when I clicked one to see what it was, and didn't return to that site.

I think what's worse is touching yourself while watching porn. That just feels criminal. Also awkward because timings and stuff like do these people just sit in their own fluids while they go scrolling for the next video?

 

[brighteyesfan144]

have you tried literotica? i think lesbian fantasy stories might be your game.

personally, i've cranked it to about every kind of porn imaginable, straight/gay/bi, you name it, so i feel uniquely equipped to answer this question... it's an adrenaline rush - it's a dopamine hit, it makes you feel a lot of endorphins and takes away your pain. that's why people do it, and that's why it's addictive like a drug. you can escape into another world or pretend to be someone else when you are looking at porn. you can learn about yourself and what you enjoy.

but for people who haven't had a lot of sex, especially never had sex, I would like to educate that watching porn and having sex are two entirely different sexual acts. you won't learn sex or be good at sex because you watch a lot of porn. both are fun but i'm pretty sure your brain and body are doing two entirely different things when watching porn versus having sex. that's why porn addiction is bad. too much of anything is bad. and no, you shouldn't feel ashamed afterwards. why should you? it's very widespread and a fundamentally human behaviour to touch yourself. nobody should feel ashamed, but if you are doing it so much that you render yourself a bad irl lover, then that's when it becomes a problem and you should quit.

 

[nool]

I get it. Whenever I'm in the mood, I prefer to read fanfiction or look at art from series I like rather than watch porn. It's so damn awkward watching real people. With fiction, it's just that: fiction. I can recognize it's not real and it doesn't feel like I'm intruding on anything if that makes sense.

Plus, I hate the sounds of sex. Moaning and all that is just... so uncomfortable to me.

 

[Cauliflour]

have you tried literotica? i think lesbian fantasy stories might be your game.

personally, i've cranked it to about every kind of porn imaginable, straight/gay/bi, you name it, so i feel uniquely equipped to answer this question... it's an adrenaline rush - it's a dopamine hit, it makes you feel a lot of endorphins and takes away your pain. that's why people do it, and that's why it's addictive like a drug. you can escape into another world or pretend to be someone else when you are looking at porn. you can learn about yourself and what you enjoy.

but for people who haven't had a lot of sex, especially never had sex, I would like to educate that watching porn and having sex are two entirely different sexual acts. you won't learn sex or be good at sex because you watch a lot of porn. both are fun but i'm pretty sure your brain and body are doing two entirely different things when watching porn versus having sex. that's why porn addiction is bad. too much of anything is bad. and no, you shouldn't feel ashamed afterwards. why should you? it's very widespread and a fundamentally human behaviour to touch yourself. nobody should feel ashamed, but if you are doing it so much that you render yourself a bad irl lover, then that's when it becomes a problem and you should quit.

The thing with literature is that it's harder to tell off the bat if it's worth the time or not but like with a video you have comments and you can flick through so you can get a general idea first. Also I know how porn addiction works and I know the taboo around sex is pretty stupid but I'm not a rational person like I'm not a puritan but it's a weird topic whenever I think about it personally because the media makes it weird.

 

[EmptyBottle]

I think what's worse is touching yourself while watching porn. That just feels criminal. Also awkward because timings and stuff like do these people just sit in their own fluids while they go scrolling for the next video?

I'd assume they'd pause, clean up, and maybe repeat

 

[Cauliflour]

Plus, I hate the sounds of sex. Moaning and all that is just... so uncomfortable to me.

Do people actually moan during sex or is that a porn thing?

 

[doomerguy88]

For me I don't know if I hate porn as much I hate the way it is done. For example in most porn videos the woman are wearing really skimpy clothing while wearing to much makeup and have a bunch of fake stuff like fake boobs and long fingernails etc, which is a big turnoff for me. I prefer to just see normal everyday people who don't put a bunch of effort into their look.

 

[nool]

Do people actually moan during sex or is that a porn thing?

I'm a virgin so this is just what I think, but I think people do moan but porn moaning is 100% over the top. Not sure though

 

[amerie]

Do people actually moan during sex or is that a porn thing?

Depends on the person but most people try to keep it quiet to not disturb the neighbors and just exhibit minor noises.

 

[Cauliflour]

Damn I must sound like an idiot now lol. Yeah it's pretty obvious I have no idea how any of this shit works but at least I have an excuse. Do have mixed feelings about most of my sex knowledge coming from a suicide forum at 2 am but hey, we all have to learn somewhere I guess.

 

[thelastmessiah]

Cartoon porn which doesn't involve real people doesn't make me feel anywhere near as gross as real life stuff so I just stick to my furry porn lol

 

[brighteyesfan144]

i guess what i want to add is porn is not for everybody and if you don't like it, don't subject yourself to it, but don't judge other people either. there sure is a lot of reasoning for why it exists and why people like it. with that said, there probably is something dark or unhealthy about the act of consuming pornography, and if you can touch yourself without it, then that's probably much healthier.

 

[Cauliflour]

i guess what i want to add is porn is not for everybody and if you don't like it, don't subject yourself to it, but don't judge other people either. there sure is a lot of reasoning for why it exists and why people like it. with that said, there probably is something dark or unhealthy about the act of consuming pornography, and if you can touch yourself without it, then that's probably much healthier.

To be fair, I like to look on watchpeopledie for fun late at night more frequently than I look up porn so maybe this is just a me thing.

 

[EmptyBottle]

To be fair, I like to look on watchpeopledie for fun late at night more frequently than I look up porn so maybe this is just a me thing.

I also use that site sometimes

 

[Dejected 55]

I mean... excluding the illegal stuff that should not exist at all and anyone involved in creating illegal porn should be locked up... as long as it is legal between consenting adults... I don't see the problem. Like anything else, don't watch it if it doesn't appeal to you.

I wouldn't watch porn at all if it were possible for me to be in a relationship. I go months and years at a time without porn and it's no big deal. It's not like I'm choosing porn instead of real connections... I'm partaking in porn because I have no real connections.

But porn is not for everyone, and it's perfectly okay to not want any part of it and to think it is gross or however you feel about it.

I don't like mushrooms or anchovies. I don't feel like I have the right to prevent other people who like those things from eating them. I just stay the hell away from those foods.

 

[Hollowman]

Do people actually moan during sex or is that a porn thing?

Yes they do

 

[Nightfoot]

It never really was my thing. I likened it to watching people eat when you're hungry lol.

 

[princexhhn]

Watching real people bang feels weird to me. I just stick to the R-18 tag on pixiv… fictional feels different.

 

[gottacheckout]

View attachment 175866This may sound stupid but how do people watch porn and not feel disgusted with themselves afterwards? Watching that crap just makes me feel like a voyeur even know I know it's all acted, or at least they're aware they're being recorded for the internet (at least I sure hope they know).

This reminds me of a screenshot of a Twitter post I saw a bit ago on Google Images (don't know what I searched up but it was something to do with lesbianism) and it was a feminist claiming that lesbian porn should cease to be made and that it's all just a fetish for weird men but like, did she forget about us? To be fair, lesbianism is portrayed in the media and society as a whole as some quirky sexy thing women do with their friends for the hell of it, some phase for feminists who hate men that can be fixed with a good ol' straight shagging, or in more recent years: you want to look inclusive but you also want to play it safe so you can get all that China money.

Very little porn is made for sapphic women and it shows. There's barely any "healthy" resources to research on when you have teenage hormones going here there anywhere (although to be fair there's not many resources on women's sexual health to begin with) so you have to figure it out based on whatever shit PornHub is serving up. But even if there was like proper sapphic porn easily available, I don't think that feeling would go away. I can't do what I suspect normal people do, and imagine myself in the shoes of someone else. I always view myself as an outside observer and this extends to video games too which I think is one of the reasons why 4th wall breaks that address this intrigue me so much. I honestly can't tell what's worse: the scripted cinematic stuff or the ones where it's just couples recording themselves in bed. The former is obviously fake and gets ridiculous all the time but it feels like watching a film so it's not as voyeur-y, but the latter feels more authentic and makes me feel less like slut for simply existing, but then I feel like I'm interrupting something intimate.

Even without porn I still feel disgusting, and increasingly so. I suspect it's down to multiple reasons which I'm not going to list here for obvious reasons but I both feel like something's wrong with me and the deep rooted misogyny in society at the same time. And no, this isn't some asexual thing. But when I see people joke about losers who spend all day jacking off to hentai it makes me wonder how these people do it. How can they spend a whole day doing nothing but looking at porn? How can they spend a whole evening doing nothing but looking at porn?

You gave yourself an amazing set up for a great doodle but you missed the bus

 

[Cauliflour]

You gave yourself an amazing set up for a great doodle but you missed the bus

was it not funny...

 

[gottacheckout]

was it not funny...

It was funny but when I read title I was thinking "doodle porn"