NSFW How do people actually enjoy watching porn and shit?

[Cauliflour]

This may sound stupid but how do people watch porn and not feel disgusted with themselves afterwards? Watching that crap just makes me feel like a voyeur even know I know it's all acted, or at least they're aware they're being recorded for the internet (at least I sure hope they know).

This reminds me of a screenshot of a Twitter post I saw a bit ago on Google Images (don't know what I searched up but it was something to do with lesbianism) and it was a feminist claiming that lesbian porn should cease to be made and that it's all just a fetish for weird men but like, did she forget about us? To be fair, lesbianism is portrayed in the media and society as a whole as some quirky sexy thing women do with their friends for the hell of it, some phase for feminists who hate men that can be fixed with a good ol' straight shagging, or in more recent years: you want to look inclusive but you also want to play it safe so you can get all that China money.

Very little porn is made for sapphic women and it shows. There's barely any "healthy" resources to research on when you have teenage hormones going here there anywhere (although to be fair there's not many resources on women's sexual health to begin with) so you have to figure it out based on whatever shit PornHub is serving up. But even if there was like proper sapphic porn easily available, I don't think that feeling would go away. I can't do what I suspect normal people do, and imagine myself in the shoes of someone else. I always view myself as an outside observer and this extends to video games too which I think is one of the reasons why 4th wall breaks that address this intrigue me so much. I honestly can't tell what's worse: the scripted cinematic stuff or the ones where it's just couples recording themselves in bed. The former is obviously fake and gets ridiculous all the time but it feels like watching a film so it's not as voyeur-y, but the latter feels more authentic and makes me feel less like slut for simply existing, but then I feel like I'm interrupting something intimate.

Even without porn I still feel disgusting, and increasingly so. I suspect it's down to multiple reasons which I'm not going to list here for obvious reasons but I both feel like something's wrong with me and the deep rooted misogyny in society at the same time. And no, this isn't some asexual thing. But when I see people joke about losers who spend all day jacking off to hentai it makes me wonder how these people do it. How can they spend a whole day doing nothing but looking at porn? How can they spend a whole evening doing nothing but looking at porn?

 

[fallendevil]

It's an addiction and they 100% do feel disgusted with themselves. I remember having a corn addiction as a child and I always felt so gross, it's gotten better as I've aged though which I'm thankful for. Learning about the abuse and exploitation of the corn industry also turned me off from it, as I realized a lot of the performers were deeply unhappy with themselves.

I feel bad for people with an addiction like this and I don't judge them because it usually starts out as curiosity and when you're already depressed it's so tempting to watch just pure ecstasy from two people.

 

[ALonelyFreak]

Lol rel I've been adult for a while but every time I try I feel like I'm doing something illegal. I haven't watched one full porn video so I wonder why it's interesting to anybody. I'm a sexual person. But I kinda don't like seeing this shit.

 

[Cauliflour]

It's an addiction and they 100% do feel disgusted with themselves. I remember having a corn addiction as a child and I always felt so gross, it's gotten better as I've aged though which I'm thankful for.

I feel bad for people with an addiction like this and I don't judge them because it usually starts out as curiosity and when you're already depressed it's so tempting to watch just pure ecstasy from two people.

Oh I don't see it like that I just see it as like some kind of instruction manual. I'm a visual learner! But lesbian porn is too shit for me to bother watching it enough to cause an addiction.
I've just realised I made a very similar post literally a month ago oops...
I've just realised I made a very similar post literally a month ago oops...

 

[EmptyBottle]

I also wonder how ppl see it as smth enjoyable, one time I got a bit grossed out when I clicked one to see what it was, and didn't return to that site.

The only time I watched a mutual pleasure video was years ago, tho didn't really feel like watching more.

additionally, I wonder how some ppl spend more than 30m in a row on self pleasure.

 

[Cauliflour]

I also wonder how ppl see it as smth enjoyable, one time I got a bit grossed out when I clicked one to see what it was, and didn't return to that site.

I think what's worse is touching yourself while watching porn. That just feels criminal. Also awkward because timings and stuff like do these people just sit in their own fluids while they go scrolling for the next video?

 

[nool]

I get it. Whenever I'm in the mood, I prefer to read fanfiction or look at art from series I like rather than watch porn. It's so damn awkward watching real people. With fiction, it's just that: fiction. I can recognize it's not real and it doesn't feel like I'm intruding on anything if that makes sense.

Plus, I hate the sounds of sex. Moaning and all that is just... so uncomfortable to me.

 

[EmptyBottle]

I think what's worse is touching yourself while watching porn. That just feels criminal. Also awkward because timings and stuff like do these people just sit in their own fluids while they go scrolling for the next video?

I'd assume they'd pause, clean up, and maybe repeat

 

[Cauliflour]

Plus, I hate the sounds of sex. Moaning and all that is just... so uncomfortable to me.

Do people actually moan during sex or is that a porn thing?

 

[doomerguy88]

For me I don't know if I hate porn as much I hate the way it is done. For example in most porn videos the woman are wearing really skimpy clothing while wearing to much makeup and have a bunch of fake stuff like fake boobs and long fingernails etc, which is a big turnoff for me. I prefer to just see normal everyday people who don't put a bunch of effort into their look.

 

[nool]

Do people actually moan during sex or is that a porn thing?

I'm a virgin so this is just what I think, but I think people do moan but porn moaning is 100% over the top. Not sure though

 

[fallendevil]

Do people actually moan during sex or is that a porn thing?

Depends on the person but most people try to keep it quiet to not disturb the neighbors and just exhibit minor noises.

 

[Cauliflour]

Damn I must sound like an idiot now lol. Yeah it's pretty obvious I have no idea how any of this shit works but at least I have an excuse. Do have mixed feelings about most of my sex knowledge coming from a suicide forum at 2 am but hey, we all have to learn somewhere I guess.

 

[autisticmessiah]

Cartoon porn which doesn't involve real people doesn't make me feel anywhere near as gross as real life stuff so I just stick to my furry porn lol

 

[telekon]

i guess what i want to add is porn is not for everybody and if you don't like it, don't subject yourself to it, but don't judge other people either. there sure is a lot of reasoning for why it exists and why people like it. with that said, there probably is something dark or unhealthy about the act of consuming pornography, and if you can touch yourself without it, then that's probably much healthier.

 

[Cauliflour]

i guess what i want to add is porn is not for everybody and if you don't like it, don't subject yourself to it, but don't judge other people either. there sure is a lot of reasoning for why it exists and why people like it. with that said, there probably is something dark or unhealthy about the act of consuming pornography, and if you can touch yourself without it, then that's probably much healthier.

To be fair, I like to look on watchpeopledie for fun late at night more frequently than I look up porn so maybe this is just a me thing.

 

[EmptyBottle]

To be fair, I like to look on watchpeopledie for fun late at night more frequently than I look up porn so maybe this is just a me thing.

I also use that site sometimes

 

[Dejected 55]

I mean... excluding the illegal stuff that should not exist at all and anyone involved in creating illegal porn should be locked up... as long as it is legal between consenting adults... I don't see the problem. Like anything else, don't watch it if it doesn't appeal to you.

I wouldn't watch porn at all if it were possible for me to be in a relationship. I go months and years at a time without porn and it's no big deal. It's not like I'm choosing porn instead of real connections... I'm partaking in porn because I have no real connections.

But porn is not for everyone, and it's perfectly okay to not want any part of it and to think it is gross or however you feel about it.

I don't like mushrooms or anchovies. I don't feel like I have the right to prevent other people who like those things from eating them. I just stay the hell away from those foods.

 

[Hollowman]

Do people actually moan during sex or is that a porn thing?

Yes they do

 

[Nightfoot]

It never really was my thing. I likened it to watching people eat when you're hungry lol.

 

[princexhhn]

Watching real people bang feels weird to me. I just stick to the R-18 tag on pixiv… fictional feels different.

 

[gottacheckout]

View attachment 175866This may sound stupid but how do people watch porn and not feel disgusted with themselves afterwards? Watching that crap just makes me feel like a voyeur even know I know it's all acted, or at least they're aware they're being recorded for the internet (at least I sure hope they know).

This reminds me of a screenshot of a Twitter post I saw a bit ago on Google Images (don't know what I searched up but it was something to do with lesbianism) and it was a feminist claiming that lesbian porn should cease to be made and that it's all just a fetish for weird men but like, did she forget about us? To be fair, lesbianism is portrayed in the media and society as a whole as some quirky sexy thing women do with their friends for the hell of it, some phase for feminists who hate men that can be fixed with a good ol' straight shagging, or in more recent years: you want to look inclusive but you also want to play it safe so you can get all that China money.

Very little porn is made for sapphic women and it shows. There's barely any "healthy" resources to research on when you have teenage hormones going here there anywhere (although to be fair there's not many resources on women's sexual health to begin with) so you have to figure it out based on whatever shit PornHub is serving up. But even if there was like proper sapphic porn easily available, I don't think that feeling would go away. I can't do what I suspect normal people do, and imagine myself in the shoes of someone else. I always view myself as an outside observer and this extends to video games too which I think is one of the reasons why 4th wall breaks that address this intrigue me so much. I honestly can't tell what's worse: the scripted cinematic stuff or the ones where it's just couples recording themselves in bed. The former is obviously fake and gets ridiculous all the time but it feels like watching a film so it's not as voyeur-y, but the latter feels more authentic and makes me feel less like slut for simply existing, but then I feel like I'm interrupting something intimate.

Even without porn I still feel disgusting, and increasingly so. I suspect it's down to multiple reasons which I'm not going to list here for obvious reasons but I both feel like something's wrong with me and the deep rooted misogyny in society at the same time. And no, this isn't some asexual thing. But when I see people joke about losers who spend all day jacking off to hentai it makes me wonder how these people do it. How can they spend a whole day doing nothing but looking at porn? How can they spend a whole evening doing nothing but looking at porn?

You gave yourself an amazing set up for a great doodle but you missed the bus

 

[Cauliflour]

You gave yourself an amazing set up for a great doodle but you missed the bus

was it not funny...

 

[gottacheckout]

was it not funny...

It was funny but when I read title I was thinking "doodle porn"

 

[unluckysadness]

I realized that when I watch porn for 15 minutes, my brain does not overthink (and I overthink all the time). It's the only time I'm in the present momen. That's why it can be so addictive. It can also give relief for pain like migraine. But be careful if you watch porn. It's not good at all for the brain. But when you don't have a partner and as it's freely accessible, it's difficult to resist. I don't think I'm addicted but I must be careful. Sometimes I can stay 1 week to 10 days without watching this shit, and then I'm proud of it. Now I try to find some "ethical porn" because some videos are just awful. I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't take drugs (only valium for my rare disease), I try to avoid junk food, so porn is my main sin. But people who don't like porn must consider that it's mostly used to relieve stress after a shitty day at work. Masturbation gives help for a better sleep too. And brain likes dopamine and porn is an effective way to easily get dopamine

 

[GhostInTheMachine]

I like sex, it's not that deep tbh. I've rarely ever felt digusted with myself after watching porn.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I haven't watched porn in decades. In my twenties, I suppose I was curious though. It's all kind of changed for me in a way. I don't even have any desire for the real thing now. So, I don't exactly have the embarassment of knowing I'll never be confident, fit or attractive enough to do the stuff they get up to. It's somehow easier emotionally now that it's mostly all fantasy.

But, it still helps to occasionally do the deed- as it were- as a release of stress, an endorphin rush etc. So, what little memories I have of the small amount of porn I did see, I sometimes play around with in my mind to produce the desired result. I'm pretty lucky really that my imagination doesn't need all that much to go on.

I guess it's like any addiction though. They probably keep needing more and more to get the same hit.

I don't think it's as intense when we do it lots though. I went through (naturally probably) hornier stages in my youth. Now, I don't feel the need for it so much. But, the longer waits seem to make the experience more intense. I wonder if that's the same for actual sex.

I find the whole thing interesting I suppose- never having had a partner. A friend once mentioned in conversation how rare female orgasms were. But then, they had a partner and were disgusted by the idea of masturbation. I sort of felt sorry for her to be honest because, they're really not rare!

I also wonder about sex in general. Do all people orgasm during very loving, tender sex? Do they have to picture other things to get them off? Is that distressing for their partner? Does the kind of sexual partner they most need match the type of personality they'd want to be married to and live with? It all seems very complicated to me. I'm often pretty grateful I'm single and can fantasize whatever I want plus, not be embarassed about my own body- most of the time. That's not to knock what others want to do of course. So long as they aren't hurting anyone (without their consent- Lol.)

 

[Cauliflour]

A friend once mentioned in conversation how rare female orgasms were. But then, they had a partner and were disgusted by the idea of masturbation. I sort of felt sorry for her to be honest because, they're really not rare!

Society has conditioned women that such things are dirty...unless you're married and are trying to have children. I guess it's the same for men but like a lesser extent or something idk sexism is weird. It is kinda sad though cause there's not much info on female sexual health as it's considered taboo...

 

[Dejected 55]

While stereotypically men "don't care" about women's orgasm... let's be blunt and say it is primarily women to blame for stunting their own sexual enjoyment... at least in Western culture anyway. I can't speak to the east where there are those female circumcision mutilations and punishments for women not being virgins... that stuff is sick and crazy and horrible and is primarily driven by men, maybe out of jealousy maybe just for control...

But here in Western culture... Most men, even the super religious ones are going to want to be with a woman who enjoys sex. Even if that man stereotypically doesn't care about her orgasm as long as he has his... he still wants her to enjoy it so she'll want to give him more of it. It just makes logical sense. Granted a lot of men won't be good at bringing a woman to orgasm or maybe not care to try very hard... but if she is able to do it for herself and enhance her enjoyment however... that man is going to be all for it. Very few western men want a starfish robot to "use" no matter what you might hear in the media.

Now... women are traditionally the ones shaming other women for enjoying sex too much... telling her she shouldn't enjoy it so much, definitely shouldn't touch herself, and shouldn't give her man too much attention... etc.

Women are kind of women's worst enemies in this regard. Where they could be helping each other out and encouraging, often they are competing with each other. Men might compete to "get" a particular woman or have the most women or some stupid manly competition like that... I don't know of any men who would seek to restrict other men or tell them not to masturbate or not to place importance on their orgasm or whatever.

It's a weird flex... and women kind of get screwed (figuratively not literally) by both men and women. Men will often use women for their own pleasure and not worry about the woman immediately after... and women will discourage other women from enjoying sex too much.

My only sex has been with escorts, so you never quite know when they really orgasm or when they fake it for you. I never wanted fake, though... so I always tried. One escort told me she had never orgasmed with a client before. Another woman was screaming so much she had to grab a pillow and bury her face in it. Most of them were just sort of there... and one woman did not orgasm at all, for sure, because she told me. She braced me initially saying she rarely orgasmed even on her own, and she honestly told me I wasn't doing it for her. Technically that is the only one I know for sure wasn't lying, because why would you lie about not having one?

For what it's worth... I always orgasmed. I never had problems there. I did fake WHEN it happened a couple of times. With condoms, she can't be 100% sure when I finish... and a few times I kept going after to try and bring her something until I just couldn't handle the sensation. So I was faking for a good cause in those situations.

 

[tunnelV]

I feel like a lot of people do feel disgusted but are addicted. I don't respect people who watch it though. I couldn't take a man seriously who viewed it.