How do adult single men handle the loneliness?

[Panna]

I use real life and fictional tools to curb my urges so that I don't do something I'd regret. The downside is when you condition yourself this way, the tools you use paints everyone, even the most innocent of innocent in a very negative light.

 

[hoping to lose hope]

I use real life and fictional tools to curb my urges so that I don't do something I'd regret. The downside is when you condition yourself this way, the tools you use paints everyone, even the most innocent of innocent in a very negative light.

Porn will rewire your brain into seeing woman as sexual objects but if it helps you refrain from doing something bad go for it.

 

[Panna]

Porn will rewire your brain into seeing woman as sexual objects but if it helps you refrain from doing something bad go for it.

It aint porn, ironically seeing the naked body does nothing for me, its more like psychological gratification, seeing material to satisfy the emotional side since I have trouble understanding it.

 

[StringPuppet]

She does porn so there is a very good chance she has low self esteem and may actually find your so called below average looks you have claimed to have to be a bonus due to her insecurities and fear of abandonment.

She doesn't know what I look like yet that's the weird part about it, I'm too ashamed to show her a pic

A good part of the reason these woman post their nudes at all is to validate their existence and reassure themselves they have value.

Maybe but some do it for the opposite reason too. Honestly she seems pretty secure and comfortable with her sexuality

 

[hoping to lose hope]

She doesn't know what I look like yet that's the weird part about it, I'm too ashamed to show her a pic

If you are serious about getting some sort of non monetary based relationship then interact with her more in a compelling way that will hopefully ensure she does not care as much about what you look like.
Is there a way you can meet in public without her knowing what you look like until you meet?
To be honest if she rejects you based on your looks it is a bullet dodged.

Maybe but some do it for the opposite reason too. Honestly she seems pretty secure and comfortable with her sexuality

Can you elaborate? I did not mean they all do it for this reason but it is very often the case.
A lot of woman are just being smart and exploiting beta orbiters of their bux.

 

[Kramer]

I use real life and fictional tools to curb my urges so that I don't do something I'd regret. The downside is when you condition yourself this way, the tools you use paints everyone, even the most innocent of innocent in a very negative light.

Very vague. You'll have to elaborate

 

[Kramer]

I enjoy watching imagery of any kind that showcases suffering, essentially I am fine with my loneliness until I see women having fun in any capacity outside. I am incapable of having what they have, and being what they are, so by viewing it it gives me something of a positive complex. It makes my life a bit more tolerable. The downside to this method is that I used to only enjoying seeing stuck up ones get their comeuppance, but its gotten to the point where anyone who fits the criteria makes it enjoyable. To be clear, I may feel this way, but I would never do such things to anyone, the last thing I need is to hurt anyone with my actions.

Sounds pretty unhealthy

 

[Panna]

Sounds pretty unhealthy

It is, but aside from going down saint elliots route, (which I wouldn't do) or inflicting pain upon myself, having something to help alleviate yourself without causing trouble for others is very important to me.

 

[StringPuppet]

If you are serious about getting some sort of non monetary based relationship then interact with her more in a compelling way that will hopefully ensure she does not care as much about what you look like.
Is there a way you can meet in public without her knowing what you look like until you meet?
To be honest if she rejects you based on your looks it is a bullet dodged.

I don't mind if she determines I'm ugly, it's a fact I've already come to terms with. I haven't worked up the nerve to show her yet but I will someday

Can you elaborate? I did not mean they all do it for this reason but it is very often the case.
A lot of woman are just being smart and exploiting beta orbiters of their bux.

I can't get into particulars but this girl doesn't seem like she's only in it for the monetary value. Her content is pretty cheap and she doesn't do OF for a living, she has an actual job

 

[Kramer]

It is, but aside from going down saint elliots route, (which I wouldn't do) or inflicting pain upon myself, having something to help alleviate yourself without causing trouble for others is very important to me.

Why not just try and do what other people do? What's stopping you?

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Wish I knew what to do, then I wouldn't need to ctb at all...

 

[hoping to lose hope]

It is, but aside from going down saint elliots route, (which I wouldn't do) or inflicting pain upon myself, having something to help alleviate yourself without causing trouble for others is very important to me

You are training your brain to become turned on sexually to abuse.
It is possible to make your brain turned on by paper cups if you trained yourself to make that connection.
I personally do not care what you do or what you consume but will share my opinion and that is that porn is clearly unhealthy.
You will continue to watch messed up porn and then you will need something with novelty to tickle your fancy and move onto actual abuse imagery and other kinds of weird shit.
I have talked to people who have started down the very road you are and ended up normalizing the greatest taboos with the help of pornography plus the insatiable desire for excitement which we all possess and guess what- they were not bad people but sadly had become tainted from their obsession.

I can't get into particulars but this girl doesn't seem like she's only in it for the monetary value. Her content is pretty cheap and she doesn't do OF for a living, she has an actual job

She is supplementing her ego as it is fragile for the reasons I mentioned before and there is no point mentioning the rare exception since it is so incredibly rare.

Wish I knew what to do, then I wouldn't need to ctb at all...

I hope you can find a friend <3

 

[puppy9]

SS, this place to me is family. People here are my families.

 

[hoping to lose hope]

SS, this place to me is family. People here are my families.

Who is the woman in your signature?? You like always have her in your posts you know so I want to know

 

[GravityUtilizer]

Who is the woman in your signature?? You like always have her in your posts you know so I want to know

Villanelle from Killing Eve! Played by Jodie Comer. Sorry to jump in but I'm a big fan.

 

[puppy9]

Who is the woman in your signature?? You like always have her in your posts you know so I want to know

It's from BBC Killing Eve Vilanelle (Jodie Comer)

 

[Pengwin]

Adult women can have company if they want it. Many men are shit out of luck.

Based

 

[Kramer]

Based

4chan? ;)

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I hope you can find a friend <3

I have friends but I'm still lonely having never experienced any form of romance. :/

 

[hoping to lose hope]

Pol is great

 

[Kramer]

It's the best site ever made

 

[MichaelNomad123]

You essentially don't. I'm 32 and I'm still trying to figure out this question. I'm expected to be stoic and invulnerable at all times. I'm told to continue with my life and my wounds will heal. I'm supposed to continue with my passion of art and get a good paying job and someone will come along to help alleviate my emptiness. On the other side of the coin, there are people like my ex-wife whom 3 months after divorcing me and 3 years after cheating on me, is comfortably getting therapy, petting my cat, browsing Tinder for some company and spending her weekends getting the relief she needs from an assortment of support structures that seem to come to easily to women. I know this is an evolutionary trait and I'm not really contesting otherwise, but since everyone is so preoccupied with parking girl turds on men these days, I just wanted to shine a light on what it's actually like for an average, lonely man in 2020.

For 3 months I have been searching for a friend. Like, literally a friend. I have basically no sexual interest in anyone anymore -- it's too fucking difficult to obtain. I just want a friend. Someone to share a moment with. Someone to laugh with, you know? It's not a big fucking ask. There is no cure for your loneliness. I'm sorry. It is the way of the world. There is something sick in our society and you are at the shit end of the stick I'm afraid. My best advice is the advice that was given to me, which is just focus on you. However I don't mean it as a means to further yourself or improve yourself. Just do it as a distraction. Take a hobby and do it everyday until you're really good. It gives you a sense of purpose and satisfaction. It helps during the daylight hours. At night though, you're on your own. I suggest sleeping meds. That's my solution. Forever alone, brother. You might as well pursue some mastery like I am. Be a monk.

 

[Bärchen]

Most of the time ok. Chatting with people online over discord, telegram or here is enough.

 

[Apathy79]

You essentially don't. I'm 32 and I'm still trying to figure out this question. I'm expected to be stoic and invulnerable at all times. I'm told to continue with my life and my wounds will heal. I'm supposed to continue with my passion of art and get a good paying job and someone will come along to help alleviate my emptiness. On the other side of the coin, there are people like my ex-wife whom 3 months after divorcing me and 3 years after cheating on me, is comfortably getting therapy, petting my cat, browsing Tinder for some company and spending her weekends getting the relief she needs from an assortment of support structures that seem to come to easily to women. I know this is an evolutionary trait and I'm not really contesting otherwise, but since everyone is so preoccupied with parking girl turds on men these days, I just wanted to shine a light on what it's actually like for an average, lonely man in 2020.

For 3 months I have been searching for a friend. Like, literally a friend. I have basically no sexual interest in anyone anymore -- it's too fucking difficult to obtain. I just want a friend. Someone to share a moment with. Someone to laugh with, you know? It's not a big fucking ask. There is no cure for your loneliness. I'm sorry. It is the way of the world. There is something sick in our society and you are at the shit end of the stick I'm afraid. My best advice is the advice that was given to me, which is just focus on you. However I don't mean it as a means to further yourself or improve yourself. Just do it as a distraction. Take a hobby and do it everyday until you're really good. It gives you a sense of purpose and satisfaction. It helps during the daylight hours. At night though, you're on your own. I suggest sleeping meds. That's my solution. Forever alone, brother. You might as well pursue some mastery like I am. Be a monk.

I must admit my life outlook is peculiar, choosing to be a hermit long ago, but this idea that being alone at night is a bad thing is just so foreign to me. Are you sure if someone else was there all the time, or even say for a couple hours twice a week, that would be better?

If you want to be a monk with no attachments, the first place to start is the attachment to other people. Let go of that one and the issue dissolves. You remain alone but realise that's the ideal state anyway. Then you can work on the rest. As far as finding meaning or mastering something, the goal of no attachments is a great one for someone who is alone already.

 

[hoping to lose hope]

It's the best site ever made

>he thinks /pol/ is a website
>he thinks a board on 4chan is a website
>a board on 4chan which is a website

 

[Marchioness]

I pay women on Onlyfans to talk to me

Hearing things like this makes me sad I bothered going to college, yay debt

 

[Kramer]

>he thinks /pol/ is a website
>he thinks a board on 4chan is a website
>a board on 4chan which is a website

Nobody goes to the other boards. They're lame. Pol is that site.

 

[hoping to lose hope]

Nobody goes to the other boards. They're lame. Pol is that site.

>he thinks pol is good
All board on forchins are equally bad but pol is the worst one
You know pol has been a weird mix of underageB& and literal boomers for the past 5 years and it was never good before that?

 

[Kramer]

>he thinks pol is good
All board on forchins are equally bad but pol is the worst one

Opinion Descarted

You essentially don't. I'm 32 and I'm still trying to figure out this question. I'm expected to be stoic and invulnerable at all times. I'm told to continue with my life and my wounds will heal. I'm supposed to continue with my passion of art and get a good paying job and someone will come along to help alleviate my emptiness. On the other side of the coin, there are people like my ex-wife whom 3 months after divorcing me and 3 years after cheating on me, is comfortably getting therapy, petting my cat, browsing Tinder for some company and spending her weekends getting the relief she needs from an assortment of support structures that seem to come to easily to women. I know this is an evolutionary trait and I'm not really contesting otherwise, but since everyone is so preoccupied with parking girl turds on men these days, I just wanted to shine a light on what it's actually like for an average, lonely man in 2020.

For 3 months I have been searching for a friend. Like, literally a friend. I have basically no sexual interest in anyone anymore -- it's too fucking difficult to obtain. I just want a friend. Someone to share a moment with. Someone to laugh with, you know? It's not a big fucking ask. There is no cure for your loneliness. I'm sorry. It is the way of the world. There is something sick in our society and you are at the shit end of the stick I'm afraid. My best advice is the advice that was given to me, which is just focus on you. However I don't mean it as a means to further yourself or improve yourself. Just do it as a distraction. Take a hobby and do it everyday until you're really good. It gives you a sense of purpose and satisfaction. It helps during the daylight hours. At night though, you're on your own. I suggest sleeping meds. That's my solution. Forever alone, brother. You might as well pursue some mastery like I am. Be a monk.

There are so many tangents in this thread that I didn't know you were talking to me lol.

Yeah I talked to two cashiers in the past few months. One I had talked to for awhile so we became text friends, which sucks but oh well. She never wants to hang out and every conversation fizzles out because she cuts it by sending a decent sized text but it includes a "take care" at the end. Sucks so bad. She's really cool too. Lots of interests and really cute.

 

[hoping to lose hope]

She never wants to hang out and every conversation fizzles out because she cuts it by sending a decent sized text but it includes a "take care" at the end.

Do you try to red pill her about the JQ is that why?