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WornOutLife

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My personal experience:

When I was extremely depressed and suicidal, the last thing on my mind was having sex but that advice would suck right?
I mean, I would be literally telling you to be more depressed haha.

So, here's some more tips:

-Block the porn websites you usually visit.

-If you talk to girls, don't think of them as sex partners. They're just friends.

-YOUR MIND IS THE BOSS. If you really try to, you'll stop thinking about sex and won't get horny that frequently.

Btw, why would u wanna do this? As long as you don't exceed, masturbation and sex are good.
 
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killedbypsychiatry

killedbypsychiatry

drugging kids is abuse
Jan 27, 2021
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You don't have to answer this if it is too personal for you, but shouldn't a hormone therapy help with that? Like testosterone pills or something, apparently this makes sex possible for castrated men. Have you tried something like this?
My hormones are fine, however I've tried hormone therapy in the past and unfortunately it doesn't do anything, the castration is due to brain/ neurological damage, thanks for the suggestion tho :)
What the actual fuck, why? I am so sorry.
My parents decided it was a good idea to drug up their child, which ended up causing problems in my development during puberty, and causing a type of neurological/ brain damage that causes complete, permanent sexual disfunction along with many other shitty stuff.
 
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wordsonscreen

wordsonscreen

Peanuts aren't nuts! They're seeds!
Jan 21, 2021
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Is there any herbs or medication that can remove my sex drive? It is making me depressed.
what about pasta? like covering everything in it and not showering? always have pasta with sauce in ur pockets? Can be effective technically :p or just like... wear wet socks haha

But fr, embrace your sex drive, if you can <3 :) It is a gift. Many people lose it due to medication, surgery, trauma etc.
Just some suggestions- please ignore if it feels triggering or not good! <3 I get that what I'm saying is different from what you are wanting. But if you do want to tap into your drive in a way that feels right, here are some ideas-

Buy some sex toys that would feel good for you! Tons of options. And if touching yourself does not feel good anymore, explore why. Explore the hows- what are new ways that it can feel good? Maybe sexting someone you connect with (can be tricky, sounds like you are struggling so I would refrain from this)? Maybe tuning in more and detaching orgasms or pleasure from another's body or porn or any social concepts- make it just your own and be fully with what you're feeling? ALTERNATIVELY, use your sexual energy in another way. Learn to channel it into cooking, art, working out, creating something- it is genuinely a thing and can help a ton. Sexual energy really is life energy- there is no fundamental separation.

I hope you find whatever is right for you! Listen to your body- it has better answers than us.
 
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ZardozOmega

ZardozOmega

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Mar 4, 2020
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what about pasta? like covering everything in it and not showering? always have pasta with sauce in ur pockets? Can be effective technically :p

But fr, embrace your sex drive, if you can <3 :) Buy some sex toys that would feel good for you! Tons of options. And if touching yourself does not feel good anymore, explore why. Explore the hows- what are new ways that it can feel good? Maybe tuning in more and detaching orgasms or pleasure from another's body or porn or any social concepts- make it just your own and be fully with what you're feeling? ALTERNATIVELY, use your sexual energy in another way. Learn to channel it into cooking, art, working out, creating something- it is genuinely a thing and can help a ton. Sexual energy really is life energy- there is no fundamental separation.

Just some suggestions- please ignore if it feels triggering or not good! <3 I hope you find whatever is right for you!
embrace the coom! CVJubI7j 400x400
 
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wordsonscreen

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Gosh. It genuinely makes me so fucking sad that everyone on here says SSRIs :( because they are handed out like fucking candy :/ jesus.
 
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demuic

demuic

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Gosh. It genuinely makes me so fucking sad that everyone on here says SSRIs :( because they are handed out like fucking candy :/ jesus.
It's extremely dangerous but they don't want to tell you that, and how extremely high the possibility is that it will happen to you.

As evidenced by many people here, it can permanently ruin your sexual function and it will never go back to the way it was before.
 
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ZardozOmega

ZardozOmega

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Gosh. It genuinely makes me so fucking sad that everyone on here says SSRIs :( because they are handed out like fucking candy :/ jesus.
I personally liked taking SSRIs, they helped me, but they did make it almost impossible to cum. I quit them cold turkey and that same day I had a major mental breakdown and had to quit school. It happened again in another school.
 
gus.nixon

gus.nixon

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Like others have said, ssri medication (antidepressants) do tend to reduce someone's sex drive. From personal experience, I've found that opiate drugs (morphine, heroin, etc) really cuts out sex drive too. Not sure what your deal is, but have you just sat with your feelings as they appear? I've noticed that when a sexual urge appears in my thinking and if I don't immediately react to it, it tends to just go away (and rather quickly too).
 
Neowise

Neowise

We fly and fly but never reach our destination.
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causing a type of neurological/ brain damage that causes complete, permanent sexual disfunction
There is surgery that could help, perhaps? I mean I'm no expert, I assume you have considered every possible option already and I'm just being useless as always lol. I'm sorry for what was done to you.
 
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I personally liked taking SSRIs, they helped me, but they did make it almost impossible to cum. I quit them cold turkey and that same day I had a major mental breakdown and had to quit school. It happened again in another school.
This sounds so rough! Am sorry :/ I hope maybe you've found alternatives with your doc?
 
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BornofDust

BornofDust

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Personally I think you can do this by channeling that sexual energy into other things, such as working out and exercising, creating art to help express those feelings into your work in more artistic ways. Going on adventures if you want. At least that's mu suggestion. Also turn that energy into extra motivation to accomplish other goals you wish to accomplish if you have any, use that sex drive and turn it into a general drive in however you wish. At least thats my suggestion.
 
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It's extremely dangerous but they don't want to tell you that, and how extremely high the possibility is that it will happen to you.

As evidenced by many people here, it can permanently ruin your sexual function and it will never go back to the way it was before.
calculated risks I guess. We have to weigh the pros and cons :( no perfect solutions exist yet
Personally I think you can do this by channeling that sexual energy into other things, such as working out and exercising, creating art to help express those feelings into your work in more artistic ways. Going on adventures if you want. At least that's mu suggestion. Also turn that energy into extra motivation to accomplish other goals you wish to accomplish if you have any, use that sex drive and turn it into a general drive in however you wish. At least thats my suggestion.
This is cool! Similar to what I was thinking! :)
I've given up already
<3 I understand. Sending you lots of love. Sorting out meds can be exhausting- I feel you. I hope you have the support you need.
 
wannago

wannago

Relief
Dec 4, 2020
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I basically get rid of mine whenever I need to with SSRIs. All of them have affected it in different ways - sometimes I prefer having no libido at all, although when I start chatting to someone that preference usually changes, so I stop taking them temporarily, bang. Their effects on libido usually last like a week and a half after stopping the med for me, personally. I've been kinda traversing through the SSRIs/SNRIs, both of which I think affect it. Maybe less so on the SNRIs. My libido was more or less completely dead on fluoxetine (Prozac), Citalopram and Escitalopram (Lexapro).
I've said this in the past, but I'm certain that a key function of antidepressants is to affect libido. Sometimes it feels gross, sometimes it distracts you at the worst of times, sometimes you just don't need the weight of the libido on your shoulders.
If it doesn't work, try others.
Any stimulants at all will raise the sex drive.
I personally try to refrain from jacking off almost completely because it makes me feel like shit for the next week or so (seriously, it's dumb). Way easier to achieve on SNRIs or SSRIs. My current antidepressant is moderately sexually functional though, which is annoying to me. I've been a lot happier being able to control impulse though.
 

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