horrible news: summer already ruined

[glowing.purple.aura]

I just found out that the vacation I've been anticipating for the past few months (after not going on one for 10 years) is no longer happening—no longer happening for me, that is. The rest of my family is still going of course.

The reason my mom gave me is that I'm just "too mentally ill at the moment" and "way too much of a risk to have in another country."

Right... so it makes perfect sense to cancel the one thing that could possibly help me right now. I know damn well this decision was made solely on the fact that no one in my family likes me and they never wanted me there in the first place. Why would they ever make a decision with my best interest in mind???!

...

So yeah, just like that my number of reasons to live is back at 0. I'm honestly a bit disappointed in myself for not predicting this would happen. When has literally anything (already planned or not) worked out for me in the past few years?!

 

[whywere]

I am so sorry for you, and I hate to say this, but your "parents" ARE crappy, narrow-minded folks period.

I had extremely the worst "parents" and reading your situation brought back such horrible memories and I feel so darn horrible for you, as NO ONE should EVER have to put up with such ignorance ever.

It is like when I tell someone that I have mental health issues and they curl their lip up and roll their eyes AT ME. UNTIL I tell them that it is inherited like type 1 diabetes and other inherited diseases.

Then the low watt bulb goes off in their head and they go "oh!" It is like having to spoon feed a baby, but these ARE supposed to be adults, like right!

I hope with all my heart and soul that your "parents" can overcome their ignorance and see just how much a holiday will help you. They NEED a HUGE EDUCATION on mental health period.

Lots of huge hugs, and with me being 70, tell your folks that an "older" person said that you NEED to go and unwind, enjoy and regroup, NOT be shackled and left behind ever.

Walter

 

[discreetmadness]

I'm really sorry. Is all of your family leaving? If you have the house to yourself, maybe you could go outside and plan your own mini-vacation or a staycation. Go do things that are fun or just that you haven't done in a while. It obviously won't be the same, but it could be the best of a bad situation.

 

[dirkw83]

That's cold

 

[glowing.purple.aura]

UPDATE:

They're back from vacation…

Did they bring me home anything? No.

Did my mom and I argue less than an hour after they got home? Yes!

In that argument, was I told to "just fucking kill myself?" Absolutely!!!

 

[CrawlingInMySkin]

That's horrible, mate. Nobody should have to live like that and nobody deserves it. I'm so sorry you have to go through this, it makes sense you're on this site. Remember you've always got people here, and don't give in to your family. And if you do ctb, I'm sure it wouldn't be because of them. Stay strong, lots of love and peace mate

 

[UserFromNowhere]

UPDATE:

They're back from vacation…

Did they bring me home anything? No.

Did my mom and I argue less than an hour after they got home? Yes!

In that argument, was I told to "just fucking kill myself?" Absolutely!!!

That is harsh and cruel. Disinviting you from a trip pretending they're concerned about your mental health and then telling you off for it afterwards. It's unfortunate that "cruel and unusual punishment" doesn't apply to private matters like this, because I would certainly judge it to be such.

 

[punyama]

UPDATE:

They're back from vacation…

Did they bring me home anything? No.

Did my mom and I argue less than an hour after they got home? Yes!

In that argument, was I told to "just fucking kill myself?" Absolutely!!!

I'm so sorry for that, that's a despicable thing to say to anyone let alone your own child. I have an unsupportive and abusive family too so I can relate.

 

[Passenger4224]

Oh my goodness. These 'family members' sound like the absolute degenerates. Narrow minded jerks make me so mad.

 

[whywere]

UPDATE:

They're back from vacation…

Did they bring me home anything? No.

Did my mom and I argue less than an hour after they got home? Yes!

In that argument, was I told to "just fucking kill myself?" Absolutely!!!

WHAT THE HELL???!!

What type of a concentration camp do you have to endure?

PLEASE do me a favor and if at all possible, GET THE HELL OUT.

NOBODY deserves to be treated in such a matter ever, it is purely plain mean and extremely thoughtless.

My heart breaks into a million pieces every time I read this.

You ARE family and we ARE together, and I hope and pray that you get OUT and then spread your wings and fly the HELL away for good.

Hugs, love and you are a good friend.

Walter