Help hoarding

[bluupup]

I hate my room so much, I work so hard for it to be kawaii-kei / cutecore but I ruin it by hoarding. I ran out of room to hide my hoard and its cluttering my desks and making my room look so ugly... I cant get the motivation or courage to throw anything away either... I hate my life so much... what do I do???

 

[Secro]

Maybe give it as a gift?

 

[Lost in a Dream]

My room is worse... Most of my mess is from grocery bags, pop bottles, and Captain Morgan bottles. Not sure what to suggest as I've tried cleaning my mess up to make my living situation more comfortable but still, it somehow gets worse even then.

 

[bluupup]

My room is worse... Most of my mess is from grocery bags, pop bottles, and Captain Morgan bottles. Not sure what to suggest as I've tried cleaning my mess up to make my living situation more comfortable but still, it somehow gets worse even then.

I really hope you can recover from your hoarding, I know its hard. my room used to be really bad when I was addicted to opioids, I couldn't see the floor and I would just pee myself instead of getting outta bed. You got this, man. I know its kinda dumb that someone like me is telling you that it'll get better, but it will. I believe in u <3

Maybe give it as a gift?

Its a bunch of bullshit, nothing worth gifting.. old boxes that are useless for cardboard, rocks, tags for clothes that I don't even have anymore, bottles, shoes that need to be taped together to be wearable, torn up plushies, boxes full of old letters that I don't remember who I wrote to, toilet paper covered in blood..so many boxes of shit under my bed and in my closet.

 

[Aflame5926]

to be honest i got it polar opposite of this. i got 1 closet 2 desk and 2 mattresses stacked on top of eachother which i call bed. there is nothing there. no posters or anything.

from the picture you sent in i only can say its not that messy (unless the ground is).

my room is like 4 times your room i think because it looks very small.

but the thing i want to say it that your room has personality.
probally its also me being clueless because im at the other side of this spectrum. but what part of the pictures is exactly the hoarding part?

 

[Secro]

Its a bunch of bullshit, nothing worth gifting.. old boxes that are useless for cardboard, rocks, tags for clothes that I don't even have anymore, bottles, shoes that need to be taped together to be wearable, torn up plushies, boxes full of old letters that I don't remember who I wrote to, toilet paper covered in blood..so many boxes of shit under my bed and in my closet.

It sounds like you don't really see it as something valuable yourself; there are people who don't even want to throw away literal trash.

 

[FF777]

i'm going to sound like a parent here but... it isn't really "kawaii-kei" yet if it is just a mess..
first of all you need to throw away any actual trash in the room.. and don't put new trash in to it.. get a small trash-can for the room that you can empty out some times..

your main problem is available out-of-view storage space i guess.. my grandpa had a house that was always immaculate and i wondered how he keeps it that way when most people have a lot of stuff in their house... i eventually found out he DOES have stuff it's just he keeps it all in closets and places that aren't visible, and so his house always looks perfectly immaculate.. so i'm not sure how you solve that problem (finding more storage space).. so if you can't get more storage space then i guess you either have to have a cluttered room like you do now or get rid of some of your kawaii junk in there that you aren't super attached to.. do you have an attic you can use? (be careful in attics to make sure you don't fall through the ceiling and paralyze your self)..

and then as far as organizing the room so it actually looks like an intentional set up instead of stuff jumbled every where i might look at pictures/videos of other people that have their weeb room set up and you can compare it to your room and see what needs to be changed to bring your room more in to alignment with looking like a proper set up.. one thing i think you need is more spacing between items instead of just them touching each other..

i don't know if the linkin park poster is intentionally there but if not then it can probably be tossed out.. it isn't kawaii and it isn't really music that i'm fond of very much any way, so it probably doesn't need to be there any more..

but doing all these tasks seems like a lot of work, and it is.. so i'd recommend just doing a little bit at a time.. a method i thought of to use when cleaning up rooms before is i'll clean a square section a day, like one day i'll clean a square meter, and next day i'll clean the adjacent square etc..

actually one option if you wanted (but you would need a lot of temporary extra space) would be to move out all items so the room is clear and then move back in only the things that should be in there and make sure they are displayed like they are intentionally put there..

the dark drawer thing is kind of drab and so you might either replace it or maybe put several big cute stickers on it..

it really takes a ton of effort to get a room in to alignment for being sort of a high-quality display of kawaii/weeb stuff, and so it isn't a task that you can probably surmount just in a few days.. it just depends on what level of quality you want the room to have.. cleaning and organizing a room actually seems like it takes more brain power to think of how things should be than the actual physical effort it takes to move every thing around.. moving stuff around physically is the easy part..

good luck sempai..

(P.S.: i should probably state that i'm being facetious as a joke about the linkin park poster before some one yells at me)

 

[bluupup]

It sounds like you don't really see it as something valuable yourself; there are people who don't even want to throw away literal trash.

I know but I cant bare to get rid of stuff. I have a whole fuckin exit sign I stole when I was in middle school, my high school psych book, old sketchbooks, broken toys, dry pens.. I just keep thinking "what if I need this later??" I have a shoebox full of shoe laces

i'm going to sound like a parent here but... it isn't really "kawaii-kei" yet if it is just a mess..
first of all you need to throw away any actual trash in the room.. and don't put new trash in to it.. get a small trash-can for the room that you can empty out some times..

your main problem is available out-of-view storage space i guess.. my grandpa had a house that was always immaculate and i wondered how he keeps it that way when most people have a lot of stuff in their house... i eventually found out he DOES have stuff it's just he keeps it all in closets and places that aren't visible, and so his house always looks perfectly immaculate.. so i'm not sure how you solve that problem (finding more storage space).. so if you can't get more storage space then i guess you either have to have a cluttered room like you do now or get rid of some of your kawaii junk in there that you aren't super attached to.. do you have an attic you can use? (be careful in attics to make sure you don't fall through the ceiling and paralyze your self)..

and then as far as organizing the room so it actually looks like an intentional set up instead of stuff jumbled every where i might look at pictures/videos of other people that have their weeb room set up and you can compare it to your room and see what needs to be changed to bring your room more in to alignment with looking like a proper set up.. one thing i think you need is more spacing between items instead of just them touching each other..

i don't know if the linkin park poster is intentionally there but if not then it can probably be tossed out.. it isn't kawaii and it isn't really music that i'm fond of very much any way, so it probably doesn't need to be there any more..

but doing all these tasks seems like a lot of work, and it is.. so i'd recommend just doing a little bit at a time.. a method i thought of to use when cleaning up rooms before is i'll clean a square section a day, like one day i'll clean a square meter, and next day i'll clean the adjacent square etc..

actually one option if you wanted (but you would need a lot of temporary extra space) would be to move out all items so the room is clear and then move back in only the things that should be in there and make sure they are displayed like they are intentionally put there..

the dark drawer thing is kind of drab and so you might either replace it or maybe put several big cute stickers on it..

it really takes a ton of effort to get a room in to alignment for being sort of a high-quality display of kawaii/weeb stuff, and so it isn't a task that you can probably surmount just in a few days.. it just depends on what level of quality you want the room to have.. cleaning and organizing a room actually seems like it takes more brain power to think of how things should be than the actual physical effort it takes to move every thing around.. moving stuff around physically is the easy part..

good luck sempai..

(P.S.: i should probably state that i'm being facetious as a joke about the linkin park poster before some one yells at me)

I dont have an attic but we have 2 extra closets, so I can put stuff in there. the Linkin park poster is just there to take up door space lol. thank you FF777-kun,, lol

to be honest i got it polar opposite of this. i got 1 closet 2 desk and 2 mattresses stacked on top of eachother which i call bed. there is nothing there. no posters or anything.

from the picture you sent in i only can say its not that messy (unless the ground is).

my room is like 4 times your room i think because it looks very small.

but the thing i want to say it that your room has personality.
probally its also me being clueless because im at the other side of this spectrum. but what part of the pictures is exactly the hoarding part?

my room is very small lol, the ground has a lot of stains from pet urine and paint.. and I just have a lot of useless boxes from figures everywhere.

 

[Dandelion's]

I hoard a lot too my room always looks like a mess I know the struggle.

 

[Lost in a Dream]

I really hope you can recover from your hoarding, I know its hard. my room used to be really bad when I was addicted to opioids, I couldn't see the floor and I would just pee myself instead of getting outta bed. You got this, man. I know its kinda dumb that someone like me is telling you that it'll get better, but it will. I believe in u <3

For what it's worth, I took out a couple bags of trash yesterday and even recycled some plastic that I had stashed in a grocery bag so that's something. Thanks for the reply!

Update: I also bagged up some pop bottles today and put them in the trunk of my car so I can take them to the store for cash.

 

[bluupup]

For what it's worth, I took out a couple bags of trash yesterday and even recycled some plastic that I had stashed in a grocery bag so that's something. Thanks for the reply!

that's great!!!

 

[otomedissection]

My habit has always been keeping (mostly) paper goods and letting them pile up in random places. Things like business cards, notes, packaging I thought was cute, receipts, wrapping paper, candy wrappers, stationery, etc. Junk journaling has been a really helpful way to get rid of the clutter without the guilt I feel for throwing things away. It's pretty fun and also gives my brain something to do. I usually use a hole punch directly onto different paper/cardstock scraps and measure out the space between each hole to fit whatever ring binder I have. Or you can just glue them onto a different sheet of paper for a collage-type display! For random stuff that you can't hole punch or glue, you can also get thin zipper pouch dividers to add to binders too.

 

[ruhyytey5o86]

Sorry if this sounds like enabling but this doesn't look all that bad (maybe the floor is worse idk). It shows your character and personality with the way it's decorated.


That said, I have a bunch of crap that I haven't touched or used for so long, and probably wouldn't have noticed if it had disappeared 5 years ago.


In the USA and their love of self-storage rentals, the recent trend I noticed are black plastic totes. They are pretty damn strong and the lids are designed to stack on top of each other (typically).


I use label maker to mark what's inside of each tote but you can also use a sticky note covered with clear robust packing tape.


Then for the items itself, I used to put them in Ziploc bags but now i use a handheld small stretch wrap roll and wrap stuff in plastic to protect it. As a bonus for stretch wrap, the stretch wrap slightly sticks to itself so if a ton of items is wrapped and inside of a tote box, they kinda "lock" together and won't bounce around and break everything.

Bubble wrap and tape works to.


Honestly, with the pictures you sent, you can probably fit all of the decorations (minus posters) in about 8 tote boxes stacked together

 

[bluupup]

Sorry if this sounds like enabling but this doesn't look all that bad (maybe the floor is worse idk). It shows your character and personality with the way it's decorated.


That said, I have a bunch of crap that I haven't touched or used for so long, and probably wouldn't have noticed if it had disappeared 5 years ago.


In the USA and their love of self-storage rentals, the recent trend I noticed are black plastic totes. They are pretty damn strong and the lids are designed to stack on top of each other (typically).


I use label maker to mark what's inside of each tote but you can also use a sticky note covered with clear robust packing tape.


Then for the items itself, I used to put them in Ziploc bags but now i use a handheld small stretch wrap roll and wrap stuff in plastic to protect it. As a bonus for stretch wrap, the stretch wrap slightly sticks to itself so if a ton of items is wrapped and inside of a tote box, they kinda "lock" together and won't bounce around and break everything.

Bubble wrap and tape works to.


Honestly, with the pictures you sent, you can probably fit all of the decorations (minus posters) in about 8 tote boxes stacked together

that's a good idea, I just feel like I have a bunch of stuff on top of my desks like old cardboard, bottles, wrappers, old packaging I think looks cute, empty tape rolls, and other things like that..

My habit has always been keeping (mostly) paper goods and letting them pile up in random places. Things like business cards, notes, packaging I thought was cute, receipts, wrapping paper, candy wrappers, stationery, etc. Junk journaling has been a really helpful way to get rid of the clutter without the guilt I feel for throwing things away. It's pretty fun and also gives my brain something to do. I usually use a hole punch directly onto different paper/cardstock scraps and measure out the space between each hole to fit whatever ring binder I have. Or you can just glue them onto a different sheet of paper for a collage-type display! For random stuff that you can't hole punch or glue, you can also get thin zipper pouch dividers to add to binders too.

maybe I should try this!

 

[Minfilia]

vouching for the junk journal/collage idea! if you do not want to use wrappers or receipts i.e. for crafting *but* want to keep them, i like having a little photo album!
if you have any soda or energy drink cans, you may repurpose them into something useful -- like cutting the top off (be careful) and putting a perfume/mist/etc bottle inside. i've seen people doing this and it honestly looks real cute. or a pencil holder!
if you got any ramune bottles, some people use them as planters :) doesnt have to be real flowers or plants, as long as it fits inside. make sure to wash the bottles and cans carefully before reusing them though

 

[bluupup]

vouching for the junk journal/collage idea! if you do not want to use wrappers or receipts i.e. for crafting *but* want to keep them, i like having a little photo album!
if you have any soda or energy drink cans, you may repurpose them into something useful -- like cutting the top off (be careful) and putting a perfume/mist/etc bottle inside. i've seen people doing this and it honestly looks real cute. or a pencil holder!
if you got any ramune bottles, some people use them as planters :) doesnt have to be real flowers or plants, as long as it fits inside. make sure to wash the bottles and cans carefully before reusing them though

you all have really good ideas and I'm super thankful people are caring enough to give me advice.

 

[UltraAlter]

I relate so hard. The motivation (or lack there of) is killer. For what it's worth, your room doesn't look too bad. When I was at my worst (younger, still living at home so only had my room to store stuff) I barely had any bed space. I can't believe I let my friends in my room like that. I'm still bad now and too embarrassed to let people come over, but it used to be so much worse.

Do you have a friend who can come round and help you declutter? That's how I keep it somewhat under control now. My partner helps me go through my piles and throws out things he knows I don't need or want without me looking. If I see it I will always find some ridiculous reason to keep it so he only asks if he's not sure. It's very helpful.

Goodluck

 

[kittypsst]

For a kawaii core aesthetic, I'd take a pic of every static figure, and replace with origami, papercraft or articulate dolls (Nendoroid, Obitsuroid, BJD). You don't have to buy or sell yet, just clean, box and rethink what surfaces hold. The first two can be thrown away or given if they feel out of place. The later have more weight so it's easier to keep a smaller collection without cluttering too much. Spares and extra clothes can be stored away.

You could try some folding videos, I once learned how to, and it can make space in the drawers. Like, fold a towel in half (cuts the longer side in half), then take the smaller side, fold a third in, and fold another third in, overlapping like a burrito. Take that soggy noodle, and loop the side with the fabric sticking out inside the side with the fold. You should notice a couple layers from the burrito step, they hold on strong enough to make a frisbee.

Also is the wardrobe crooked or just a perspective thing? I can't remember the name for the pieces, but it's an easy fix with a hammer and an extra nail if the old one fell down.

 

[Lost in a Dream]

you all have really good ideas and I'm super thankful people are caring enough to give me advice.

Maybe the advice could help both of us!

 

[bluupup]

I relate so hard. The motivation (or lack there of) is killer. For what it's worth, your room doesn't look too bad. When I was at my worst (younger, still living at home so only had my room to store stuff) I barely had any bed space. I can't believe I let my friends in my room like that. I'm still bad now and too embarrassed to let people come over, but it used to be so much worse.

Do you have a friend who can come round and help you declutter? That's how I keep it somewhat under control now. My partner helps me go through my piles and throws out things he knows I don't need or want without me looking. If I see it I will always find some ridiculous reason to keep it so he only asks if he's not sure. It's very helpful.

Goodluck

it helps a lot when my sister just kinda sits in my room while I declutter. her being there keeps me motivated.

For a kawaii core aesthetic, I'd take a pic of every static figure, and replace with origami, papercraft or articulate dolls (Nendoroid, Obitsuroid, BJD). You don't have to buy or sell yet, just clean, box and rethink what surfaces hold. The first two can be thrown away or given if they feel out of place. The later have more weight so it's easier to keep a smaller collection without cluttering too much. Spares and extra clothes can be stored away.

You could try some folding videos, I once learned how to, and it can make space in the drawers. Like, fold a towel in half (cuts the longer side in half), then take the smaller side, fold a third in, and fold another third in, overlapping like a burrito. Take that soggy noodle, and loop the side with the fabric sticking out inside the side with the fold. You should notice a couple layers from the burrito step, they hold on strong enough to make a frisbee.

Also is the wardrobe crooked or just a perspective thing? I can't remember the name for the pieces, but it's an easy fix with a hammer and an extra nail if the old one fell down.

the wardrobe is perspective, I've been in this room since I was 10 and its stayed up perfectly. honestly, its quite a surprise.
ty for the advice!

Maybe the advice could help both of us!

yeah!!