Has anyone here made enemies in the site?

[lofticries]

hmm, not that i know of. i'm a pretty chill person online and irl.

 

[Weary Soul]

Should I report a person who called someone a retard & a dumb fuck & insulted people who have autism, barely any friends & learning disabilities?

Yup. I would not only report them, I would also stand up for the person on the receiving end of that statement. This is bullying, and bullying has no place in life IMO, and especially not here.

(btw @hotelbeneathground, I can never tell when you are being kinda "snarky." If you are, my pologies for responding to the "snark." ;p

That being said, if something like this where to happen - my statement stands. : )

@Morituri_Te_Salutant, it looks like you are gone. May you find peace. My thoughts and love are with you, wherever you may be.

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[Pookie]

Yeah, lots of people hate me because I speak my mind. I don't sugarcoat things and tell people what they want to hear all the time. I used to mentor ex-offenders and had to call them out on their bullshit because tiptoeing around their issues wasn't going to solve anything.

Also my mother is a recovering drug addict and I had to use "tough love" to deal with her. I don't enable people because enabling doesn't do anyone any favours, it only makes matters worse. So that's how I became the opposite of a "people pleaser". Also, I have zero tolerance for bullies. I'm their enemy and they are mine - let the wars begin, yeehaw!

But I don't care about having enemies because they mean nothing to me. The only people who matter to me are my loved ones, people that I get on with/online/offline friends.

 

[motel rooms]

Yup. I would not only report them, I would also stand up for the person on the receiving end of that statement. This is bullying, and bullying has no place in life IMO, and especially not here.

(btw @hotelbeneathground, I can never tell when you are being kinda "snarky." If you are, my pologies for responding to the "snark." ;p

No, this really happened. He said those things to me in 2 posts. I'm not offended that an uncivilized, inarticulate guy called me names, but I'm kind of disgusted that he said I was a retard & a dumb fuck who has autism, barely any friends & social & learning disabilities. That's really insulting to all the people on here who want to die because they actually suffer from those things

 

[Pookie]

No, this really happened. He said those things to me in 2 posts. I'm not offended that an uncivilized, inarticulate guy called me names, but I'm kind of disgusted that he said I was a retard & a dumb fuck who has autism, barely any friends & social & learning disabilities. That's really insulting to all the people on here who want to die because they actually suffer from those things

A guy like that shouldn't be here, he sounds like a bully. I hope he eventually gets banned.

 

[Weary Soul]

No, this really happened. He said those things to me in 2 posts. I'm not offended that an uncivilized, inarticulate guy called me names, but I'm kind of disgusted that he said I was a retard & a dumb fuck who has autism, barely any friends & social & learning disabilities. That's really insulting to all the people on here who want to die because they actually suffer from those things

Oh wow....

O.O

-.-

I am sorry @hotelbeneathground, I thought you might be joking. Actually, I hoped you were because it is hard to accept that someone said that and here of all places.

I know you said you were not offended. But, gotta say, I am offended on your behalf as well as on behalf of all people who have autism, barely any friends (that would include me), and those with learning disabilities.

I get that people come here from all walks of life - and some spout nonsense or cruelty out of their own pain. But this, this is way too far IMO.

Bullying, and that is what it was (to put it kindly) does not belong anywhere, especially here. Like you said (and I totally agree), this kind of behavior is what drives some people here in the first place.

I totally agree with @Pookie. I hope that person was banned. If they are still here, please report them. Because if they did it to you, it is likely they will do it to someone else and it might just end up being the final straw for that person who is attacked in this way.

I realize it was not something I did, nonetheless, I am sorry that was said to you, and to everyone else here by default.

<3

Yeah, lots of people hate me because I speak my mind. I don't sugarcoat things and tell people what they want to hear all the time. I used to mentor ex-offenders and had to call them out on their bullshit because tiptoeing around their issues wasn't going to solve anything.

Also my mother is a recovering drug addict and I had to use "tough love" to deal with her. I don't enable people because enabling doesn't do anyone any favours, it only makes matters worse. So that's how I became the opposite of a "people pleaser". Also, I have zero tolerance for bullies. I'm their enemy and they are mine - let the wars begin, yeehaw!

But I don't care about having enemies because they mean nothing to me. The only people who matter to me are my loved ones, people that I get on with/online/offline friends.

I completely agree with your stance on tough love. "People pleasers" (IMO) can do so much more harm than good. And it is sad. I do try to consider where the person is coming from, and what may cause the behavior - however, that being said, sometimes enough is enough.

For example, my ex is a severe alcoholic (he is the one who broke my ribs and gave me the brain bleed), not only did he physically abuse me - he verbally assaulted me (severe verbal abuse, gaslighting, etc.), not to mention stealing everything we had as a family (why I have nothing left after working so hard for so many years despite my anxiety, cPTSD, etc. that had not been treated at the time).

At one point, before the ribs and brain bleed, my ex was dying and would have had I not gotten him to the hospital (and this happened at least 3 times not including 2 rehabs - one of which he broke out of and then trashed someone's business). At the time, I told my father-in-law (FIL) to stop catering to him, and that he needed tough love to recover - he needed to be held accountable and to realize what he had done and how much he had hurt everyone. He has no sense of accountability or empathy coupled with an incredibly violent temper. Needless to say, he made my life sheer hell.

I digress (sorry - he really ruined my life - he is the other reason I am here). In any case, my FIL could not do it. He not only continued to cater to him after I warned him (btw - the nurses warned him too), but actually went out and bought him more alcohol O.O. In essence, because of his need to be a "people-pleaser" he almost killed his own son.

My ex, who I now have nothing to do with, has a rap sheet longer than my arm, and is facing DUI charges for the second time - jail is more than likely among a host of other punitive measures. The sad thing is that he will still not learn. He feels he can do anything he wants at any time and to anyone - his temper is off the charts (never saw anything like it).

I feel for you that you know this kind of behavior, especially since it is your mother. I am glad she is in recovery.

Take care Pookie :)

 

[umbrellaphone]

I'll be honest here. When I'm expressing sympathy or wishing someone the best like some other people do, but the recipient is liking everyone's post save for mine, I get butthurt.

 

[Celerity]

I'll be honest here. When I'm expressing sympathy or wishing someone the best like some other people do, but the recipient is liking everyone's post save for mine, I get butthurt.

Sometimes I miss posts if a bunch of people reply at once. I'm also biased to look for regulars I know on here. Sorry that happened to you though.

 

[Weary Soul]

Sometimes I miss posts if a bunch of people reply at once. I'm also biased to look for regulars I know on here. Sorry that happened to you though.

Sometimes I do the same thing, ie, missing posts and being "biased to regulars." I try to keep up, but sometimes I miss posts and/or reactions (insomnia/TBIs) and the names of people I know here or who I have interacted with before tend to jump out at me first (normal phenomenon). I do not think this is toxic or intentionally harmful, I think it is just being human.

I am sorry this happened to you @umbrellaphone. Please know that if I do this it is not intentional (likely a mistake on my part or my insomnia biting me in the butt).

<3

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[Mentalmick]

Enemies? Here, I don't think so. Real life? Millions. Will Smith being the top of the pile closely followed by Steve Gutenberg. Pair of fucking bawbags.

 

[Pookie]

I totally agree with @Pookie. I hope that person was banned. If they are still here, please report them. Because if they did it to you, it is likely they will do it to someone else and it might just end up being the final straw for that person who is attacked in this way.

I realize it was not something I did, nonetheless, I am sorry that was said to you, and to everyone else here by default.

<3

I completely agree with your stance on tough love. "People pleasers" (IMO) can do so much more harm than good. And it is sad. I do try to consider where the person is coming from, and what may cause the behavior - however, that being said, sometimes enough is enough.

For example, my ex is a severe alcoholic (he is the one who broke my ribs and gave me the brain bleed), not only did he physically abuse me - he verbally assaulted me (severe verbal abuse, gaslighting, etc.), not to mention stealing everything we had as a family (why I have nothing left after working so hard for so many years despite my anxiety, cPTSD, etc. that had not been treated at the time).

At one point, before the ribs and brain bleed, my ex was dying and would have had I not gotten him to the hospital (and this happened at least 3 times not including 2 rehabs - one of which he broke out of and then trashed someone's business). At the time, I told my father-in-law (FIL) to stop catering to him, and that he needed tough love to recover - he needed to be held accountable and to realize what he had done and how much he had hurt everyone. He has no sense of accountability or empathy coupled with an incredibly violent temper. Needless to say, he made my life sheer hell.

I digress (sorry - he really ruined my life - he is the other reason I am here). In any case, my FIL could not do it. He not only continued to cater to him after I warned him (btw - the nurses warned him too), but actually went out and bought him more alcohol O.O. In essence, because of his need to be a "people-pleaser" he almost killed his own son.

My ex, who I now have nothing to do with, has a rap sheet longer than my arm, and is facing DUI charges for the second time - jail is more than likely among a host of other punitive measures. The sad thing is that he will still not learn. He feels he can do anything he wants at any time and to anyone - his temper is off the charts (never saw anything like it).

I feel for you that you know this kind of behavior, especially since it is your mother. I am glad she is in recovery.

Take care Pookie :)

Thank you for your kind words regarding my mother. My "father" unfortunately also has addiction issues; he's a narcissistic alcoholic so I understand completely where you're coming from when you wrote about your ex.

I'm sorry you had to endure all that trauma with your ex. Violent alcoholics are impossible to live with and I'm glad you found the courage to leave him becuase so many women can't leave, don't know how to leave (because their identities have been obliterated) or are too scared to leave because their exes have threatened to kill them if they leave, which unfortunately happens all too often. The most dangerous time in a relationship with an abuser is when you leave them.

The only reason my mother stopped taking drugs is because she ran out of money and no one else would enable her by giving her more money. She'd used everyone up by that point. That's why I always tell people DON'T GIVE HOMELESS PEOPLE MONEY! They're going to waste it on drugs or alcohol. Rather give them something more substantial like clothing or sleeping bags, that sort of thing,

Unbelievable that your FIL is enabling your ex like that. That's not real love.

You take care too and hugs to you.

 

[LastLoveLetter]

Did Morituri disable their account?

I really hope they are okay, it would be sad if they felt they had to leave. I remember them writing that they felt they could freely express their feelings here, so it would be a shame for them to lose such a valuable source of support.

If you are reading this, I hope you are okay Morituri and that you feel able to return, if that's what you want (and if not, I wish you all the best). Sending hugs

 

[Broken Buzz]

I was a regular here some months ago and got along fine with most people. The few arguments I had were cases of me being an asshole, overreacting or misinterpreting what had been said, I always apologised in the thread, and again in private when I recognised I was at fault. But somehow I picked up someone who took a dislike to me after misinterpreting a self-deprecating joke I made, as an insult to their intelligence. That led to a number of death threats away from the site, which I took seriously. I had to abandon that account and leave.

These days I'm far more hesitant to post for fear of history repeating again.

 

[Celerity]

I was a regular here some months ago and got along fine with most people. The few arguments I had were cases of me being an asshole, overreacting or misinterpreting what had been said, I always apologised in the thread, and again in private when I recognised I was at fault. But somehow I picked up someone who took a dislike to me after misinterpreting a self-deprecating joke I made as an insult to their intelligence. That led to a number of death threats away from the site, which I took seriously. I had to abandon that account and leave.

These days I'm far more hesitant to post for fear of history repeating again.

Yikes. Wtf?

 

[Broken Buzz]

Yikes. Wtf?

It was very dark, I still have no idea who that person was, or what their motivation was. Another friend from the site, in poor health, got spooked by what had happened to me, fearing it may happen to her too and that it was somehow related to FT26 and their gang, she had a heart attack. She was okay, but it was horrible.

 

[Celerity]

It was very dark, I still have no idea who that person was, or what their motivation was. Another friend from the site, in poor health, got spooked by what had happened to me, fearing it may happen to her too and that it was somehow related to FT26 and their gang, she had a heart attack. She was okay, but it was horrible.

Literally? Goddamn!

 

[Broken Buzz]

Literally? Goddamn!

Genuinely. We chatted daily on WhatsApp and suddenly she disappeared. I assumed she'd lost her phone, or the weather had wiped out a phone mast nearby or something... But when she surfaced again four or five days later to apologise, she said she'd been in hospital after a heart attack triggered by the stress. She was terrified of being 'doxxed' by the person who was sending me death threats, and having an angry mob turn up at her door. I felt horribly guilty for that.

 

[Celerity]

Genuinely. We chatted daily on WhatsApp and suddenly she disappeared. I assumed she'd lost her phone, or the weather had wiped out a phone mast nearby or something... But when she surfaced again four or five days later to apologise, she said she'd been in hospital after a heart attack triggered by the stress. She was terrified of being 'doxxed' by the person who was sending me death threats, and having an angry mob turn up at her door. I felt horribly guilty for that.

Damn. I'm so sorry. Glad she's okay though. I have worried about being doxxed before.

 

[Phoenix]

My old account made many enemies in the chat room due to the fact i wanted to talk about things that weren't morbid 24/7. Didn't make me popular with some particular users who also seemed to get special treatment from mods

 

[Pookie]

My old account made many enemies in the chat room due to the fact i wanted to talk about things that weren't morbid 24/7. Didn't make me popular with some particular users who also seemed to get special treatment from mods

That's strange, I've seen people make jokes and talk about lighthearted stuff on morbid threads without people hating them. And obviously what I mean about jokes is that they weren't making fun of the OP, but being satirical about the subject matter. I enjoy a bit of satire and dark/twisted humour myself. I think a lot of people who've experienced trauma have a dark sense of humour. Cops and paramedics are known for their dark humour, it's their way of coping.

I made a lot of enemies because I made a joke thread about a suicide method but unfortunately forgot to put it in the off-topic section:

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/where-can-i-get-a-python.57773/

 

[Weary Soul]

I was a regular here some months ago and got along fine with most people. The few arguments I had were cases of me being an asshole, overreacting or misinterpreting what had been said, I always apologised in the thread, and again in private when I recognised I was at fault. But somehow I picked up someone who took a dislike to me after misinterpreting a self-deprecating joke I made, as an insult to their intelligence. That led to a number of death threats away from the site, which I took seriously. I had to abandon that account and leave.

These days I'm far more hesitant to post for fear of history repeating again.

Sadly, just like in life, there will be people who do this kind of stuff here, if not worse.

I understand how frightening this can be.

My ex and I were once chatting in a small talk way, and all of a sudden he mentioned burying me 6 ft under in his mother's back yard. Another person on an internet chat site threatened to slit my throat. So I get the need to walk away from a death threat. (I also have guns and a Rottweiler now).

I hope this person has been banned.

I am so sorry you had to experience this. Life is hard enough without this kind of BS.

<3

 

[Foreversad]

Nah ..just a guy not polite and another guy who spammed and i ignored nothing "tragic' or severe

 

[cloudgazer26]

Probably. I made a post that was insensitive and more than likely hurt feelings.

 

[suicidesheep31]

Probably. I made a post that was insensitive and more than likely hurt feelings.

me too and I worry for the person I did hurt

 

[All Things Must Pass]

I wouldn't say enemies, but some people got butthurt for a benign comment I made and a janny warned me for it.

 

[Mentalmick]

Rottweiler now).

Some doggy pics would be nice.

 

[DetachedDreamer97]

Not sure about enemies, but I'm for the most part invisible, even in chat. And people tend to doubt me or accuse me of being what I'm not from time to time. But… Ah well… I'm okay with a few of my disciples. Which for the few who are, thank you. I have much love for you.

 

[Weary Soul]

Some doggy pics would be nice.

So sorry I missed this. I would be happy to pm a pic, but I am a little cautious about putting it in main in case, by some remote chance, someone I know regognizes her. She is a beauty : ) (And a big baby - ha!)