Girls, is this message creepy?

[Life_and_Death]

i agree with @OkFaithlessness. theyre on a suicide forum, im sure their life is hard enough as is without getting picked on whats suppose to be a safe place. also some people werent exactly being nice from the start, so to say he asked for it, really isnt true. unless someones being a complete ass and doesnt care that they are, NOTHING is being asked for.

 

[Victoria]

So was this on Facebook messenger? Has she read the message? Has she replied? Has she blocked you? Don't keep us hanging!! X

 

[Busticket]

So was this on Facebook messenger? Has she read the message? Has she replied? Has she blocked you? Don't keep us hanging!! X

Yes I sent it's on Facebook messenger.
So far there is no response.
I am not sure she saw it yet.
I will update you once I know for sure don't worry.
I will open a thread about it.

 

[Victoria]

Yes I sent it's on Facebook messenger.
So far there is no response.
I am not sure she saw it yet.
I will update you once I know for sure don't worry.
I will open a thread about it.

I want to make it clear despite my opinion I'm rooting for you and would be so happy if you got a good reaction.

 

[Life_and_Death]

Yes I sent it's on Facebook messenger.
So far there is no response.
I am not sure she saw it yet.
I will update you once I know for sure don't worry.
I will open a thread about it.

if its on fb her pfp would take place of the circle if shes read it (at least i would think it works the same world wide). if you arent friends and this is the first message to her then theres a possibility its hidden and she hasnt seen it (my friend sent my other friend a message and i had to tell him it was there), or she did it but it wouldnt tell you until she says so. (just fyi)

also why cant you update this one??

 

[Busticket]

if its on fb her pfp would take place of the circle if shes read it (at least i would think it works the same world wide). if you arent friends and this is the first message to her then theres a possibility its hidden and she hasnt seen it (my friend sent my other friend a message and i had to tell him it was there), or she did it but it wouldnt tell you until she says so. (just fyi)

also why cant you update this one??

I don't think she has seen it yet.
I will wait a few days and see what happens.
And you are right I will just update here.

 

[OceanBlue]

These type of messages indicate that a misogynist is pretending to be a 'nice guy'. If you're not appreciative, you can normally expect something bad in return (like resentment, insults etc.)
It's obvious the OP does not respect the recipient.

BTW, don't refer to women over 18 as girls.

 

[Life_and_Death]

BTW, don't refer to women over 18 as girls.

i refer to all women as girls.

 

[OceanBlue]

i refer to all women as girls.

You shouldn't, it's infantilizing (sexism).

 

[Life_and_Death]

You shouldn't, it's infantilizing (sexism).

no, i just feel physically uncomfortable saying the word women. and not everyone sees it that way.
oh and btw im female. i didnt know i was insulting myself by saying whats comfortable for me

 

[sadbadpsychogirl]

i hate to say it but she probably did see the message and just doesn't want to hurt you so she ignored it.

 

[whywere]

That is AWESOME!! Yes, yes go for it. Back in the 1970's I did that, it was by a letter, snail mail, BUT it worked and she reached out to me and we had a great time, till her parents found out about me, and that was a good bye, her parents were controlling. Always remember that nothing ventured, nothing gained. One only lives ONCE, and better to go all in than would have, could have, should have later on. You are a VERY kind and loving soul, one can always tell by your posts, and a young lady would be so lucky to have you as her boyfriend. GOD speed and I am sending you all my caring and knowledge that YOU are a beautiful, kind person who deserves all the best. Walter

 

[OceanBlue]

no, i just feel physically uncomfortable saying the word women. and not everyone sees it that way.
oh and btw im female. i didnt know i was insulting myself by saying whats comfortable for me

My initial comment was for the OP. If you care to look into it: behavior of individuals has different consequences depending on power dynamics.
Also, internalized sexism exists.

I mean, you're defending the op.. means you're missing all the red flags, so be careful when dealing with men.

 

[Life_and_Death]

My initial comment was for the OP. If you care to look into it: behavior of individuals has different consequences depending on power dynamics.
Also, internalized sexism exists.

I mean, you're defending the op.. means you're missing all the red flags, so be careful when dealing with men.

maybe they just arent the best at getting their point across and needs a little help and thats why they made this thread. just a thought that maybe not everything is horrible and negative and has more than 1 possibility

 

[OceanBlue]

Another point: Most people found the message creepy, some women told him not to send it.

Did he care? No. He sent it anyway because his needs are more important, who cares if the recipient feels uncomfortable.

 

[Fragile]

Another point: Most people found the message creepy, some women told him not to send it.

Did he care? No. He sent it anyway because his needs are more important, who cares if the recipient feels uncomfortable.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but he was asking for opinions, not orders or directions. No one is obligated to do what people on the internet tell them to do lol.

 

[Life_and_Death]

Another point: Most people found the message creepy, some women told him not to send it.

Did he care? No. He sent it anyway because his needs are more important, who cares if the recipient feels uncomfortable.

he also never stated whether or not he made the edits suggested, for all we know he did

 

[motel rooms]

i hate to say it but she probably did see the message and just doesn't want to hurt you so she ignored it.

I hope she was with a friend who can read much faster than her

Just kidding, all you hopeless romantics rooting for OP

 

[MountKecske]

You shouldn't, it's infantilizing (sexism).

This is a conflicting issue because women means wife of a man and wife means servant. We have to come up with a new word and it has been tried such as wimmin, womon, wombyn, but I think it should be an entirely different word not just derivations of the original.

 

[LastFlowers]

You shouldn't, it's infantilizing (sexism).

I think it's fine in certain contexts, I actually would prefer to be called a girl than a woman, but that might be a subconscious desire to harken back to the youth that was stolen from me.
Still, I don't think it's that deep unless the intent is to be condescending.
I have referred to adult women as girls too, especially if they're under the age of 30, and it wasn't because I thought they were an infant.
I've even referred to my own mother and grandmothers as "girls" before..

 

[ClairyFairy]

I think jk Rowling is here

 

[motel rooms]

I think jk Rowling is here

The elderly trans person who wrote those twenty Lord of the Rings sequels?

 

[LastFlowers]

The elderly trans person who wrote those twenty Lord of the Rings sequels?

There were 7.

 

[Symbiote]

If she doesn't answer back, don't send another one ;)

 

[motel rooms]

If she doesn't answer back, don't send another one ;)

You just know he's been considering it...

 

[Symbiote]

You just know he's been considering it...

Plot twist, he's already been sending one a day for the last 4 years.

 

[Mentalmick]

Incoming:

 

[motel rooms]

Plot twist, he's already been sending one a day for the last 4 years.

 

[Fragile]

Sorry, Op, the community has deemed it acceptable to mock you despite the fact that you said that this is part of your reason.

We are very accepting and inclusive, as you can see.

 

[Busticket]

Sorry, Op, the community has deemed it acceptable to mock you despite the fact that you said that this is part of your reason.

We are very accepting and inclusive, as you can see.

Don't worry I ignore all of the offensive replies.
I focus on those like you and life_and_death and Victoria and all those who offered me respectful advice and support.