Venting Fellow autistics do you feel overwhelmed by every aspect of living?

[thelostautistic]

I just feel overwhelmed all the time to the point where I shut down and don't do anything to change my situation and improve my life Life feels like a huge to do list that I can't keep up with. My brain constantly tells me I need to: eat healthily, eat 3 meals a day, keep up with my hygiene, educate myself on world topics, engage with my hobbies or find new hobbies, maintain my friendships, keep my space tidy, think about my future, plus so much more. I just can't handle being alive. This is so silly but everything just feels like it's too much all the time.

 

[fallendevil]

Not to diagnose you with anything more, but have you considered you might have ADHD or some type of learning disability like dyslexia or dyspraxia?

Perhaps you simply could use a hand with all of these things and it's not your brain malfunctioning, but trying to protect you from stressing yourself out or doing something that is not biologically intended for you. Getting a tutor, meds, accommodations, or a self help coach/personal trainer will help you a lot I feel. Of course money plays into this and I understand if it's just not possible, I'm in the same boat.

 

[Asya]

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[thelostautistic]

Not to diagnose you with anything more, but have you considered you might have ADHD or some type of learning disability like dyslexia or dyspraxia?

Perhaps you simply could use a hand with all of these things and it's not your brain malfunctioning, but trying to protect you from stressing yourself out or doing something that is not biologically intended for you. Getting a tutor, meds, accommodations, or a self help coach/personal trainer will help you a lot I feel. Of course money plays into this and I understand if it's just not possible, I'm in the same boat.

I don't believe I have dyslexia or dyspraxia. But I have suspected I could have ADHD for some time. I had a joint Autism and ADHD assessment in 2024 and I got diagnosed with just Autism. I would like to get a second opinion though. I have luckily been able to try ADHD medication through someone I know and it did help me a lot but it was negatively impacting my health. I think I'm just finding it hard to accept that my struggles will never fully go away. I think I want to live but not like this. I've never thought about self help coaches or personal trainers. Thank you I'll have a look into that. I'm sorry you're in a similar situation. It's really hard

 

[Pluto]

 

[thelostautistic]

How did you find this picture of me?

 

[OnMyLast Legs]

I'm probably on the spectrum. People have said I seem autistic and I'm odd socially. I absolutely get what you're saying about the list of tasks. All the things you have to do in life seem so overwhelming to me. I've stopped doing all of them and started rotting on the couch all day.

I have obligations coming up. I want to CTB before them but I know I won't. I'm cognitively deconstructed enough to just not think about it.

 

[Mr.Tristesse]

Yes I'm not cut out for life at all and never was. There were periods of somewhat greater functioning but those are long extinct.

 

[fallendevil]

I don't believe I have dyslexia or dyspraxia. But I have suspected I could have ADHD for some time. I had a joint Autism and ADHD assessment in 2024 and I got diagnosed with just Autism.

Oh I didn't mean a specific learning disability, just something along those lines. Yes it's not magic and you shouldn't take meds everyday.

Im glad I could help

 

[isthisit?]

nope

 

[INYGTRMTFMO]

Any one aspect of my life would be mildly draining, but managable, in and of itself.

But then life is never just one aspect. I wake up, be a spouse and a mom, then an employee (and with that a mentor, a social worker, a coworker, ect), then come home and be a mom and a spouse again. And, in between that, a daughter, a sister, a neighbor, and a person. With cooking and cleaning and driving and errands. And then there's leisure and working out in the few cracks left. Let alone self actualization or community engagement.

 

[timetogo46892]

oh my God yes I've struggled with that for so long. it's so difficult dealing with change or even just taking care of myself.

Multiple people just moved into my home suddenly and it's so so much. I feel so fucking overstimulated lately it feels like reason enough to ctb. Every little thing bothers me and I feel like a bad person complaining about it because it's often completely reasonable things like cooking or talking. I feel like I just can't handle it. It's making me think about my future and honestly it makes me feel weak and like I don't have any chance of recovery.

 

[thelostautistic]

oh my God yes I've struggled with that for so long. it's so difficult dealing with change or even just taking care of myself.

Multiple people just moved into my home suddenly and it's so so much. I feel so fucking overstimulated lately it feels like reason enough to ctb. Every little thing bothers me and I feel like a bad person complaining about it because it's often completely reasonable things like cooking or talking. I feel like I just can't handle it. It's making me think about my future and honestly it makes me feel weak and like I don't have any chance of recovery.

You're not a bad person for struggling with these things or complaining about themOur brains just work differently and that's ok. I'm really sorry you're struggling too

 

[Busridin'26]

Yupppp AuAdhder and hard relate to this whole thread.

 

[locustsabound]

Yeah I have AuDHD and find it impossible to cope with every day expectations of living. The fact that I've to eat multiple times a day??? clean the dishes each time?? wash myself and brush my teeth EVERY DAY?? Its hard.

 

[em4250]

Yeah, doing anything at all feels so unbelievably difficult, and it's hard to even find the desire to put in all the effort to just do basic tasks.

 

[Fresh Soju]

All the time, and it doesn't help majority is caused by other people. It's only getting worse as the world and it's neurotypical people are desensitized, so they keep making more and stronger stimuli in every aspect and it's getting hard to cope with at this point.

Wish I could live far away from everyone.