Venting Feelings of inadequacy

[bubblebunny]

Hi,
I hope everyone is atleast doing okay! I've been struggling my whole life with feelings of inadequacy because i never had a serious relationship! I'm 20 and I never felt like anything really happened, men don't like me in that way!

It really hurts my self confidence, so does anyone maybe know how to get over it, and just accept no one likes me? As in just accept that I'll be single cause no one likes me that way.

I tried multiple times to make peace with it but deep down I always want it. Feeling this way is really making things worse for me so how do I make peace?

 

[ToastInTheShell]

I don't think you should just give up! 20 is a very young age to completely write yourself off. Lots of people don't start dating until their 20s (or maybe I'm just coping haha /j).

That being said, if you do want to make peace with romantic solitude I'd suggest making/maintaining platonic connections or just learning to be by yourself more often (i.e. take up a solo hobby, etc.). Coming to terms with the fact that you don't need a relationship should help you move on. It's what helped me at least; I realised that the hollowness I felt wouldn't be filled by a romantic partner, it would probably only make it worse and make things bad for both of us. Not all people are the same, so that's just my perspective.

I hope you do find peace with yourself one way or another <3