Does the gender of your suicide partner matter?

[DeletedUser4739]

Some one to talk to is a different story though. I wouldnt care if they were girl or guy. But to actually ctb together face to face is too risky.

i'm feeling that more and more everyday.

 

[bigj75]

i'm feeling that more and more everyday.

The stories I've heard are just too scary. If anything I would bring a gun and have it on you while meeting with your partner and if they try to attack you just pull the gun out on them and bounce.

 

[DeletedUser4739]

The stories I've heard are just too scary. If anything I would bring a gun and have it on you while meeting with your partner and if they try to attack you just pull the gun out on them and bounce.

yeah, that assuming you can obtain and afford a gun. unfortnately, not an option for me

 

[bigj75]

yeah, that assuming you can obtain and afford a gun. unfortnately, not an option for me

True. I understand.

 

[lost illusions]

I have issues with both. But by preference I'd prefer a female. By my nature, I can become protective so taking her life with my own is not an option

 

[BBAABFD]

No preference for me can be male or female.

 

[Taylored]

Depends on if the situation is unique at the time. Most of the time gender wouldn't be an issue.

 

[Roma]

No offence to any guys but I'd pick female myself.

 

[Sayo]

I don't personally believe in partnerships with strangers, due to the potential logistical, ethical, legal, and emotional risks. I understand the appeal, just not for me. And if it were a total stranger, the answer is yes, simply for pragmatic reasons - less chance of running into problems.

I'm not afraid of men, but a lot of pacts seem to have codependent dynamics though even without the sexual elements. I also don't think there's anything particularly wrong with wanting to be close to someone before you die if you're not leveraging any sort of power dynamic (which I do think is very likely to unintentionally happen in a pact), it's just not for me. I've been in codependent semi-sexual situations with women too, I just would be able to better trust a woman/maybe a non-binary person explicitly looking to avoid that. Maybe I'm irrationally biased here because of my personal experiences.

However, anyone I would ever conduct a pact with would almost certainly be male. I guess you could say gender matters far less than familiarity, and gender only matters as a shortcut there. Women seeking women on here seem to share some of my concerns, which is why I feel that way.

 

[ChopSuey]

Personally it wouldn't bother me which gender,but i can see why some people would pick one over the other.

 

[sadak_the_wanderer]

If it weren't for my method of choice (which isn't terribly relevant), part of me thinks it would be nice to have someone present. If I had my druthers, I would want to have someone I would feel comfortable hugging and who would feel comfortable hugging me. I think I would prefer a woman in that case.

However, knowing that one of the reason I'd like to "go" is that I'm typically viewed as an ugly, creepy person, I rather doubt that this is attainable. Realizing this only makes me more lonely. If my death were to reflect my life, I would have to die at one of the poles of inaccessibility.

 

[sanctionedsuicide]

Irrelevant to me even though I believe 90% of men in general are absolutely unbearable, hateful and so narcissistic.

I had the chance to meet one of those 0.1%, friendly, kind and 100% selfless back in college, I would love to say farewell to this ugly world with one of those rare being, it's just not happening nor am I worthy of such.

For me, I find that gender is as relevant as sexual orientation. Stereotypical straight men—into sports, objectifying women, not comfortable with emotions—I can't stand. Not all straight men, but a lot of them. If I find the right guy to leave with (gay or straight), I would have no objection to doing so. But if I had to blindly pick one characteristic of my exit partner, cæteris paribus, I would surely choose gender.

By the way, I'm also in Québec. I'm 24/m. Are you still looking for an exit partner? If so, get in touch with me.

 

[friendly99]

I would prefer a female. For some reason I think they are more trustworthy

 

[stargazer]

I'd prefer a male, my age (24) or older, because I prefer them to have their own house with a garage (live alone) or him and I will have to drive in his car, untracked, somewhere secluded if it's charcoal.

 

[Jenna]

Female

 

[Goldie]

I'm not looking for a partner but if I was I would definitely choose a male. You only need to look at the suicide statistics to see that there are far more successful suicides with men than women. I think choosing a woman would add unnecessary risk to the whole procedure.

I'm not saying that all woman are just crying for help, but overall more men are serious about killing themselves then women and I would trust a man to kill me and/or themselves more than a woman.

Of course I can understand women preferring women because of the inherent risks of sexual assault of someone in such a vulnerable position. I guess it is a matter of asking yourself if your wish to due outweighs the risk of sexual assault.

 

[bigj75]

I'm not looking for a partner but if I was I would definitely choose a male. You only need to look at the suicide statistics to see that there are far more successful suicides with men than women. I think choosing a woman would add unnecessary risk to the whole procedure.

I'm not saying that all woman are just crying for help, but overall more men are serious about it then women and I would trust a man to kill me and/or themselves more than a women.

nooooooo!

 

[Paulsmith]

No I don't have a preference

 

[Jiva]

A idea of a female partner is tempting, because women's are more sensitive. But we want the same method and i understand the language are more important. The gender is unimportant.

 

[Threads]

I'd rather have a Male partner.

Being honest here. If I had a female suicide partner, I'd be worried about having sex. I throughly enjoy sex with strangers, and dangerous and risky sex is a lot of fun.

I know a lot of people say, they arent interested in sex or they are asexual. And I dont discount that, but suicide is a highly personal and emotionally charged thing, and in reality, sex can happen.

Good sex can mess up any suicide plan/pact.

 

[Thoughtforms]

Maybe I'm paranoid but what if they're not suicidal and just want to have sex with your corpse? There are people like this!

 

[AndyCurious]

I feel pretty safe there with a girl as a suicide partner, since there are loads of girls out there, who would never feel turned on by me :)

 

[Sinbad]

Defiantly male, someone close to my age (25-30) I am saying that as a hetro. Not interested in a possible twisted love story.
I wouldn't mind getting N with a fellow death seeker. And afterwards share a cold Blue Moon in some Mexican bar before we go our separate ways to end our suffering.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I seem to connect well and quite quickly with women, more so than men, because I am communicative and open with my feelings etc, but I feel a bit like Threads in that it is a risk. I am impulsive and a pact like this can be a very emotionally charged event.

At the end of the day I would prefer to do this alone.

 

[bigj75]

Maybe I'm paranoid but what if they're not suicidal and just want to have sex with your corpse? There are people like this!

Oh shit i didn't even think about that. But don't think i would care after I'm dead.

 

[BurningLights]

Wouldn't bother me, as long there is a connection and similar thought on how, why etc.
I wouldnt CTB with someone for a stupid reason like they're partner broke up with them.

It would have to be a method in which either of us can't survive either.
I think jumping is the only one where you can safely assume your both gonna be dead.

 

[stargazer]

In hindsight, now I don't think it matters, I just want them to be older than my age or at least my age (24/25).

 

[Retched]

I like the idea of a like-minded female or a like-minded male. Or transgender. Age matters to me more than gender. I like the idea of someone around my age.

 

[bigj75]

drinking buddy before I ctb.

 

[Empty Smile]

I personally prefer female, just how I am. I tend to bond better with them than I do males. For some odd reason, I can talk to a female about my issues better than I can with a male. No idea why that is.

As far as the sex goes, if it happens, it happens, if not, oh well. I've already went almost 5 years without it. Not getting it before I ctb isn't going to kill me(pun intended).