Do you wonder how other people will remember you?

[KayGee147]

I'm sure your cat would think that was the correct thing to wonder!

I think he would insist, actually :)

 

[Passersby]

Yeah a little but it's kind of silly to because the way that I die should play no role in how they remember me. They will remember me for who I was and not how I died.

If anyone wants to look down on the way that I died I for 1 won't care because I will be dead and also they should be ashamed of themselves and feel terrible for doing that.

I will not be having a funeral or wake for several reasons and it's been put in writing. Theres no need to worry about that.

 

[Kit1]

I don't really care what people think about me now, let alone what they would think when I die.

On the whole, people tell me that I am a nice person - but it doesn't feel like anyone really knows me as I am just usually smiling when I speak to everyone because I don't want anyone to be be sad.

However the professionals/medics who do know the difficulties I face - NHS staff (especially my GP's surgery) will probably be happy that I am gone though I don't use them anymore. I am unwell now and haven't even bothered to contact them - would rather be dead than be treated by them.

Really don't care what they think.

 

[bigfishlittlefish]

Do you wonder how other people will remember you after you die? I wonder how my high school and college classmates would react to the news. Honestly I don't think anyone would remember me or care that I died, but I think that it would be unexpected because everyone thought that I was really nice and kind. I remember that in high school, I was once voted as the nicest in the grade.

I wonder *if* anyone will think anything of me, whether they'll notice or care that I'm gone.

 

[voyager]

Well, twofold really, when this whole ordeal began in my late teens a (formerly) good friend called me a few months on. We talked and fantasised a bit how people would stand around our graves being sad and all. He knew how I was feeling. At the end he said I can call him anytime, and of course, we never spoke again. I had become a recluse and thus disappeared for years. Rumours were running wild that I was in fact dead. Of course, they would have known better had they just picked up the phone once. I wanted to be left alone anyway and would've blocked them off, but it's not like they knew that. Therefore, I believe for a lot of people on how one is remembered is ultimately more about how they want to present themselves towards others. The deceased is irrelevant.

(Ultimately, only a handful of people ever bothered showing up again)

This was 30 years ago. Now, there's hardly anyone left who even knows I exist, no one close and don't really care what they think. There's only one person who's opinion I value and that's my mum. We had a lot of discussions on this topic and one of the main reasons was that so she would understand that I was in fact not abandoning her and cared for her, but had reached the end of my rope and couldn't go on. Did my best to make her understand but anything more is beyond my control.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

No, I don't. The only social connections I have with people is one online friend (and I don't wonder how she'll remember me) and familial connections, even though I don't talk to the latter much nor do I care about how they'll remember me. I'm almost socially isolated as I'm basically invisible in university like how I have been invisible in high school and college throughout my life

 

[WonderingSoul]

I do a lot. I don't want to be forgotten, even though I'm somewhat of a forgettable person. The only people who'd probably still remember me are 1 or 2 online friends and that's a big IF.

 

[darkenmydoorstep]

Realistically, the sooner they forget me, the sooner they move on so it's probably best they don't.

 

[WAITING TO DIE]

They will remember me as a sad depressed loner hermit who is a socially awkward loser.
Ain't got a problem with what they think. It doesn't matter because they don't matter.

No.

It's none of my business what others think of me.

I love this quote. I'm going to remember it because it makes a lot of sense.

 

[darkenmydoorstep]

True….and it will be even less of our business when we're dead

 

[WAITING TO DIE]

True….and it will be even less of our business when we're dead

Another good quote for me to remember.

 

[suicidal flapper]

My family will be temporarily shocked but most of them view me as a failure and I don't matter to them so it won't last long. They'll probably go off about how the "woke left trans agenda" killed me or something too.

 

[Vesiira]

Do you wonder how other people will remember you after you die? I wonder how my high school and college classmates would react to the news. Honestly I don't think anyone would remember me or care that I died, but I think that it would be unexpected because everyone thought that I was really nice and kind. I remember that in high school, I was once voted as the nicest in the grade.

I always do wonder this. However, thinking too much about it makes me go crazy a bit. I feel people from highschool and old friends would think it's sad, but they'd move on. Everyone will. They eventually do! I start to think that I won't see who cares and who didn't, does it truly matter? That's what I believe now. I used to always think about this question though. I'd imagine people leaving me comments on my social media about how much they "miss me." However, we won't know if any of that happens. Or if it even will. There will be people who care, people who don't. People who it won't affect at all. Kinda weird to know we will never know.

 

[penguinl0v3s]

They'll remember that I was always depressed and really externally expressive about it.

 

[アホペンギン]

Whatever is happening in this world as well as what other people think of me isn't any of my concern once I'm dead but I do sometimes think about how they'd think of me but if I predict that they'll think of me negatively, it doesn't bother me.

The only thing that makes me worrisome is how people will feel after my death, more importantly whether or not they're sad. I want to avoid hurting people as much as I can but what they think about me, doesn't affect me.

I do think that my parents will call me cowardly for what I did and possibly my siblings too. They are one of the main reasons why I'm currently struggling with suicidal ideation in the first place but they refuse to admit that they're in the wrong. It is understandable that they'd think of me negatively but like a human, they'd most likely miss my presence as well.

As for my friends, I know they'll be happy that I've finally found peace. My only friends at the moment are those who I have met on SS so I know how they'll think about me. They'll miss me so much when I'm dead, I know it. And the feelings are mutual, I'll also miss them so much if they happen to make their departure before I do.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes, I do wonder. Will they be shocked? I guess some would be. Others would know it's something I always thought about and wanted really. It's hard to judge how people would react. Would they be compassionate or angry? Thinking it was selfish. Will some bullshit about the bright future I could have potentially had? Even though I must be over half way through my life and it's been a very mixed bag but basically- it's been one long struggle.

Someone posted an article about a father who had CTB recently in the UK. It got me thinking- do they always write an article/ obituary? In which case- If it were still possible- I'd be pissed off if they just blamed mine on mental illness or depression- like they always do. I want to CTB because life is shit! It's not my crazy response to it. It's because it doesn't feel worth the effort.

 

[gbi2]

I don't really think about it and I wouldn't know or care. I've lost so much hope for people understanding right and wrong anymore that I doubt they'll even have an accurate memory of what I was like anyway. I want to go because I can't face this anymore, but if it was a friend who had been through what I have and they ended their life. I'd be letting the people who I know are to blame what I think of them. But most people I know have no motivation for action or seeking justice. Even just speaking up in a moment it happens would be a start but nobody does. Don't get involved seems to be most peoples stance when leaning of a wrongdoing.

 

[haibane]

I don't think about it a lot tbh but i dont it that anyone will remember me. And i like it that way, not being remembered is the closest thing to non existence.

 

[MidnightGloom]

I've always been a very reclusive person and an unknown presence. Not many people notice I exist in the first place. I doubt I'd be remembered and sometimes I have mixed emotions regarding that. However , it is very comforting to know that eventually everybody will be forgotten in the world.

 

[SVEN]

I'm hoping they forget.

 

[ceriseange♡]

It kind of scares me tbh but I think about it all the time. It's always made me really anxious to think that no one perceives me the way I perceive myself and I have a hard time trusting people who act friendly with me (mostly bc I feel like they don't like me because I did something wrong). I know there are people who would technically care and I think about their reactions a lot, but it just doesn't feel like most of the people in my life would really be too affected because they have tons of others to lean on.
I don't want to leave anyone hurting, but I guess once I'm gone it wouldn't really matter to me anyway

 

[Meimi18]

I think about it sometimes. A very selfish part of me hopes they'll miss me, another part hopes they'll forget about me completely and move on with their lives.
I want them to be satisfied with this relationship though, so I hope they'll at least think of me as a decent person lol