how do you want to be perceived after death?

[taps67]

Not at all, just like in life.

 

[Somewhat Suicidal]

As someone who genuinely suffered and found a way out. Also for the good times I had for brief period of my life.
But I know that's not how normies perceive suicide. They are after all completely clueless with their perfect happy little lives and all their fake problems. So they will twist the story to fit their emotional needs and that's that.

Thankfully I wont care about anyone perceives anything then. I do now, that's part of the problem.

 

[a4001]

Hopefully as a loser. Someone who's best case scenario was death, who throughout their entire life brought nothing to this world and finally realized that and in a final act wanted to not burden others anymore by leaving this earth.

 

[bakenohana]

don't want to be percieved at all, I just want them to incinerate me, throw me away somewhere and then forget about me

 

[sleepyneko]

i am going to be dead, that's all that matters. if people do end up remembering me, i hope that at the very least my mother doesn't think about me. as for everyone else, they can do whatever they want.

 

[NorthernSunset]

No one will remember, because no one knows the good I do. So I will just return to nature and hope others forget.

 

[CareLessMeaningLess]

I would rather people not remember me at all. But if they do they should remember me not as a selfish coward but as someone who tried.

 

[violetforever]

i can only imagine peoples remembrance of me being as degrading as my life is so i wish it wouldnt happen at all. ive hated being perceieved in all of the time ive spent alive so i feel the same way in death.

 

[RazzleDazzle]

I understand that nobody in my life will understand. Some people will be harsh and judgemental, some will be hurt and sad, nobody will get it. I'm pretty isolated anyway and my family mostly doesn't care.

 

[90377lethe]

I want to be forgiven & then forgotten as quickly as possible

 

[SummerTrip]

I want to be perceived as someone who loved so hard, they weren't able to live without their loved one. Simple as that.
Sadly, knowing the people that'll be handling my cremation and burial, I'll be disgraced and perceived as a sinner, someone that was coerced by a demon or some stupid shit like that. Fuck them…

 

[cyan_cat]

I would prefer if everybody forgot about me as soon as possible, i know that some people still love me and that's the only thing why i still didn't ctb even though i haven't wanted to live for a while. So i would just want them to move on and forget so i wouldn't have to feel like such a bad person

 

[PeaceSeeker83]

As someone who genuinely suffered and found a way out. Also for the good times I had for brief period of my life.
But I know that's not how normies perceive suicide. They are after all completely clueless with their perfect happy little lives and all their fake problems. So they will twist the story to fit their emotional needs and that's that.

Thankfully I wont care about anyone perceives anything then. I do now, that's part of the problem.

I love the term "normies". I use it a lot too. they live in their own little world mixing with other normies in their fake lives. They like to put their positive spin on everything; they might say my death is "tragic" even though it will not be. They will say "he was so young" even though at 43 I feel like I have been around 50 years. The abundance of normies is another reason to leave.

 

[termination2434]

I'm conflicted. Part of me wants to know that a select few people really cared. But mainly I think I would rather not be perceived at all once I'm gone

 

[limenlux]

On a serious note, I don't want to be remembered at all.

On a lighter note, I remember once telling my best friend at the time to eulogize me at my funeral by making up a series of absurd, heinous stories and allegations about me, then end with "and that's why I'm glad he's dead".

 

[achingthroat]

It's sounds superficial but I really want to be a pretty girl in the grave. Since no one can truly know me and my efforts I've done then at least the outside shows I was a cute girl. To make this a reality I must work on myself.

As terrible as I can be at times, I once was kind, resilient, loving, funny, and thoughtful.

If I finally did it, know I tried my best to hold on. Maybe then they'll see how serious my pain has been all these years. Don't be surprised, it was bound to happen.

 

[abstractcat7]

I hate being perceived. I don't want to be remembered at all. Forget me, my existence, who I was, what I did, what I created, forget all of it and let me disappear entirely from this hell. Nobody loves me, why would I want to be remembered? I don't have a very positive view of humanity or the majority of people. I don't want to be in their thoughts.

 

[endlesschatter]

I wish to die as someone whose death could inspire a revolution in mental health so that people really understand what mental health is and help the world be a better place so that the world we live in gives healthy atmosphere to one and all to grow and flourish in their best capacity without having to have any limit on that

 

[Somewhat Suicidal]

I wish to die as someone whose death could inspire a revolution in mental health so that people really understand what mental health is and help the world be a better place so that the world we live in gives healthy atmosphere to one and all to grow and flourish in their best capacity without having to have any limit on that

That would be great, but sadly I think it won't be happening. Normies don't understand us at all. They don't bother with our problems and just enjoy their happy lives mostly while complaining occasionally on non-problems.

Empathy doesn't really exist for the mentally challenged and even less for the suicidal. Just narcissistic empathy as one post here so bluntly and perfectly put it... here

 

[selsel]

Well honestly same if i could choose id probably want to be completely forgotten, because anytime people think of me theyd think of how i ctb'd and well… not the nicest thought for them ig

 

[waitingroom]

drunk and high rn and can't stop thinking about my plans for in a few months time. ive never really used this forum, but i think that is out of a fear of connection on my part, and i want to try to broaden my horizons before i die.

how do you want to be perceived after your death?

for me, i hate to admit it, but i want people to never remember me at all. i don't know about everyone else, but i personally have been reminded constantly since i was very young how much ive made people's lives worse. i want freedom from that in my death.

I want to be seen as someone who tried very hard in life. I know my father would hate me for it and he dosent see me as strong anyways, i have the fear of being percieved so i honestly also just want to be forgotten. I dont want my pictures on anyones tables and i dont want my name in anyones mouth ever. I already have had a horrible life filled with horrible people who already talk down on me. the conclusion is, i hope that my name is only heard in movies/videos, and i hope when they hear it they just think of something in the back of their head that they just cant place. something familiar

 

[Dawnfang]

I hope I'm remembered with fondness. I hope my death and the circumstances surrounding it won't poison the memories others have of me. If anything, I hope I serve as a cautionary tale (I know some people in my life don't take mental health too seriously). I hope my loved ones remember the good more than the bad and carry on despite everything.

 

[darksoul999]

I want them to know i tried my best but in the end, fate won,

 

[GWAI]

I could care less.

 

[diealegend24]

drunk and high rn and can't stop thinking about my plans for in a few months time. ive never really used this forum, but i think that is out of a fear of connection on my part, and i want to try to broaden my horizons before i die.

how do you want to be perceived after your death?

for me, i hate to admit it, but i want people to never remember me at all. i don't know about everyone else, but i personally have been reminded constantly since i was very young how much ive made people's lives worse. i want freedom from that in my death.

I don't want my body to be found, so there will be no perceiving. I will go out as if I've never existed.

 

[sorrymommy]

With the possible exception of a few family members, I believe that you, I, and everyone here will be forgotten within a day or two at most. So, for ordinary people, this shouldn't be a concern. But I understand the feeling. We all want to be important.

 

[autisticmessiah]

As long as I'm dead and permanently unconscious everyone on earth can hate me more than Hitler if they feel like it, I don't care at all.

 

[idontwantthisplease]

I want them to remember me as someone they failed.

 

[lexx]

like a victim

 

[iguazo falls]

drunk and high rn and can't stop thinking about my plans for in a few months time. ive never really used this forum, but i think that is out of a fear of connection on my part, and i want to try to broaden my horizons before i die.

how do you want to be perceived after your death?

for me, i hate to admit it, but i want people to never remember me at all. i don't know about everyone else, but i personally have been reminded constantly since i was very young how much ive made people's lives worse. i want freedom from that in my death.

frankly i would like to be understood, but if its difficult to do that while alive then i am kidding myself if it's possible after death. you can't rebuke anything after death. and every detail holds more weight and is interpreted through the lens of grief. i think suicidal people after death rarely get percieved the way they wish, and often times people will do mental gyymnastics as to why we have chosen to die, or continue projecting their own worldview onto us.

a more realistic goal is i would hope to make someone else feel understood as others who have died by suicide have for me.