Help Do you think i could ever get a girlfriend

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Sorry for pathetic post just looking for opinion based on my text descripti8n. Im 5ft6 and balding at 23 years old do you think i could ever get a girlfriend. I live in Croatia people are pretty tall here... Not trolling just seeing girls on tiktok saying they would only go for tall men is pretty demoralizing. Still its their choice, just i feel like there is nobody out there for a guy like me something like that? Incel forums pretty demoralizing i know what they would say to me but i wanna have an opinion of this forum which even though is suicidal in nature people seem less demoralized pls no ban.

 

[ihateittoo]

you 100% could. whats most important in dating is taking good care of yourself and make an effort into the way you look. theres no formula to dating and everyone likes different things in guys. i personally would have no issue dating a man thats 5'6. it helps to be funny too.

 

[Seneca65AD]

5'6" and balding? That's it? Not trying to make light of your situation but I wish I could send you a picture of a friend of mine. He's got to be 5'5", completely bald and a little chubby. Now, his wife is literally one of the most stunning creatures I have ever seen. Around 5'10", just gorgeous...even my wife says she is absolutely beautiful and one of the kindest people you will ever meet. Yet, no one who knows them ever says "What does she see in him?".

He is kind, funny, a hard worker and absolutely lives by the credo that he will do at least one thing a day to let his wife know that she is still the most important person in his life. I know they did not get together until they were in their mid-30's. The type of attributes he brings to the table are not what are popularized in social medial today; yet, those are the attributes that deliver "life partners" and not just a "relationship".

So, be sociable, be kind, get out there and stay off TikTok. Look for shared interests, etc. I still remember what a friend told me about relationships - look at the most beautiful girls and there are guys who are tired of being in a relationship with them. He used a much cruder term but you get the point. Looks and height can never support a long-term life together. Common interests, goals and values are the foundation of succesful relationships. So, try different things, get to know yourself first and then work on finding relationships. You're 23, indulge, travel, explore - I think you might just be surprised how many romantic interests arise when you are focussed on living.

 

[far from glory]

Hello, my dear friend. I am so sorry you are feeling this way, but let me tell you something: don't let yourself get down. Learn to be strong and find peace within yourself, far removed from all the immoral and base pleasures of the flesh. Focus on yourself—eat well, sleep well, exercise, read, and concentrate on what is good. One day, you will find a girl you love and cherish. I know loneliness is there, but you need to be strong. I also recommend you disconnect from social media; it's garbage for the mind. Anyway...

 

[ImpairedLowlife]

Yes, you could. I'm gonna sound a little different from the rest of the forum; I do strongly believe you should really try to look your best. Incel forums are pretty radical and bad for your mental health tho. Same goes into watching lookism stuff on tiktok and whatnot.
Try to improve things that you can change. Balding can easily be stopped and even reversed to a degree with meds. Go to a gym, get lean, find a proper skincare routine and a style that fits you and work on your mental state. Basically, become the best version of yourself both physically and mentally and you'll 100% be able to eventually find love.

 

[argonian_maid]

I'm sorry you're having a rough time brother.

Social media pushes really mean content. Companies want people upset so that they engage with their platform more. They don't care if it requires/incentivizes mean content.

Incel forums aren't great. They operate just like the social media sites they criticize. Those forums are just going to make things worse regardless if you want to try to get a gf or ctb. I've gone there out of curiosity and I really don't think it's a good place for finding peace. This forum seems focused on helping others find peace from what I've seen.
If you don't like that you're balding try going to a nice salon. Sometimes styling your hair works. They might have products or med suggestions for regrowing your hair. And if not then they'll be able to shave your head and make it look nice. Short hair/bald looks way better than balding with longer hair imo. if you're still uncomfortable with it, there's nothing wrong with wearing cool hats. May as well pamper yourself a bit.

Maybe consider giving yourself a few years to stylize, get strong, and build social skills so you at least have the inner peace of knowing you tried your best.

Sorry for pathetic post just looking for opinion based on my text descripti8n. Im 5ft6 and balding at 23 years old do you think i could ever get a girlfriend. I live in Croatia people are pretty tall here... Not trolling just seeing girls on tiktok saying they would only go for tall men is pretty demoralizing. Still its their choice, just i feel like there is nobody out there for a guy like me something like that? Incel forums pretty demoralizing i know what they would say to me but i wanna have an opinion of this forum which even though is suicidal in nature people seem less demoralized pls no ban.

 

[webb&flow]

tiktok is a tip of the iceberg

explore the world of people & see who you'll find <3 (as well as who will find you as well )

i can't promise instant success; but even having good, kind people around you, who you can have time, company, and emotional intimacy with, can seriously help soothe the emotions that can accompany wanting a partner yet feeling alone <3.

Still its their choice, just i feel like there is nobody out there for a guy like me something like that?

They do not speak for all women.

They speak for themselves only.

You're right; that is their choice. And there are countless women who feel and choose far differently.

In the end, it is impossible to make universal statements of what women or men want, because there are billions of women and men.

Love is best understood through connecting and developing. Try to find some good people whom you can connect with well, and try to find a good fabric you can knit yourself into . Befriend people of all sexes and genders so you can develop a richer view of the world. This will not only assist in romantic love but in all kinds of love.

There are such people in the world who will love you, Ratchet. You are more than your appearance. People who will love you not merely for what you look like, but for your interests, your personal passions, your values, your ideas, your expression, anything about you is something someone can love.

Find a "personhood" you enjoy being. People say "just be yourself", but if you know of a potential "yourself" that does not quite exist but that you feel you would enjoy, by all means, feel most free to try it out <3.

Be who you will love to be. And if you instrinically love and enjoy expressing yourself as that kind of person, and then someone comes along and loves you for that, then you have two victories: you enjoy being that kind of person, and you enjoy being loved for that personality.

But if someone embodies a personhood they actually don't enjoy, and is loved for that personhood, then that is a muted victory; they enjoy the love, but not what they do to attract it.

However, you do not have to immediately be who you most enjoy being. A good way to explore self-expression is to socialize in general, and ideally develop bonds and maybe even small groups you feel part of. Pay attention to how you feel expressing yourself in this way or that, and how the group is affecting how you feel about yourself and your perceptions of yourself.

Self-expression can also be explored in private, by engaging in what we are drawn to; hobbies, interests, passions—be it playing the guitar or searching up assorted philosophical topics. Whatever you like. It's also enjoyable in itself.

Anyways, identity is not set in stone, and our self-perception changes depending on who we feel we are presenting to, and who we care about.

You are a whole person. With so many parts and aspects. Everyone has ugliness and beauty in them. At times ugliness and flaws can make a person even more beautiful as well, by accentuating the vulnerability of humanity. Vulnerability relates with love, too. But regardless; beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. What one person says is ugly, another may find truly beautiful.

I can't promise you'll run into your next romantic partner tomorrow. But there is so so much love in the world, and so many people to meet, so many amazing realizations to be had. I encourage you to explore all this <3. Who knows, perhaps romantic love will be along the way as well :). But may you have good friends by your side, too, supporting you in all your ventures . And if you struggle with having enough love and connection in general in your life (as countless people these days do), may such soothe of good bonds come to you, day by day, minute by minute .

 

[ant03]

Sorry for pathetic post just looking for opinion based on my text descripti8n. Im 5ft6 and balding at 23 years old do you think i could ever get a girlfriend. I live in Croatia people are pretty tall here... Not trolling just seeing girls on tiktok saying they would only go for tall men is pretty demoralizing. Still its their choice, just i feel like there is nobody out there for a guy like me something like that? Incel forums pretty demoralizing i know what they would say to me but i wanna have an opinion of this forum which even though is suicidal in nature people seem less demoralized pls no ban.

You still can get atractive being bald, i mean, there are countries where bald men represent over ⅓ of the male population and they are not facing a demographic collapse for that (well, they are facing a demographic like the entire world now, but they are not doing worse that the rest).

The only way you are going to become a forever alone if if you have some high level of social anxiety/phobia or lack basic social skills.

 

[ant03]

And dont take social media post as some metric for the general population opinion. The algoriths deliberately feeds you content that makes you angry in order to catch your attention.

 

[coolcow1289]

You can't control what other people do. Plenty of guys in your shoes get girlfriends. But your worth isn't dependent on whether women are attracted to you. You have to love yourself first. Build yourself. Finding a partner comes later. It's the last step really.

 

[Gild-Holm-’Ur]

I can confirm what Seneca said. I'm a shy introvert. I didn't even kiss a girl until I was 26. I have had two girls fall passionately in love with me. First woman was the waitress at the cafe next to our hotel. She wouldn't let anyone else wait on me. Second, woman texted me 'when I was going to ask her out.' Unlike Seneca's friend, I wasted what I had twice. But well if I didn't, I probably wouldn't be on this forum.

My advice would be trying to find situations where you can meet people. Then don't pressure yourself and don't self sabotage.

 

[sheburnedmedown]

Although Croatia's average female height is around 5'6ft, there's still plenty of >5'6ft women there too. The point I'm trying to make, based on what I see, females generally prefer dudes that are taller than her at the minimum and you can also fall under that category. Minoxidil can help the baldness. The chances are never zero. You got this. Rooting for you man
To add, a lot of women on tiktok have the worst and the dumbest echo chamber. This is not just with women though but everyone that frequently uses that app is like that. Low attention span really screwing their brain. The opinions of such people shouldn't hold this much value. Though I don't blame you for letting it get to you since there's such a large amount of people that use that app. Best is to just delete tiktok