Discussion Do you self harm?

[franos666]

What are you experiences with self-harm? How often do you do it? Which plach do you choose?

Personally I do it mostly on my thights because they are very easy to hide

 

[LastNite]

My pain tolerance is really low. I can never do it. Pain drives me crazy.

 

[puppyboy]

I don't do it so often anymore but I used to cut everywhere Arms, thighs, calves, neck, face..I even have a scar on my stomach from when I tried to dissect myself lol

 

[somethingisntreal]

Used to do it quite often (several times a day at one point) but I've been clean for 6 months(?)

 

[burninghill]

I used to cut my hands and wrist and then I stopped doing that and I switched to the back of my wrist? I don't know what it's called haha. My arm. The blood was very annoying though because I would cut deep and it would take a lot of cleaning, so I started burning myself with cigarettes and I do that every so often.

 

[CrawlingInMySkin]

Left forearm. Don't care if anyone sees. Cuts and scratches on my arm right now, actually, mate.

 

[Oiled Sandwich]

Not gonna lie, I never understood the point of self-harm. If I'm already going through terrible stuff, why would I hurt myself even more? Can someone explain this to me.

 

[buriedinmyhead]

I have in the past, but I don't do it these days because it brings me no relief. I usually just scratch at my skin until it breaks and I start bleeding. I do it on the back of my hand and on my thighs (and now have scarring, yay!)

 

[catlover09]

I used to do it almost every day but ending stopping mostly to do drugs instead

 

[bluupup]

What are you experiences with self-harm? How often do you do it? Which plach do you choose?

Personally I do it mostly on my thights because they are very easy to hide

I cut around once weekly, usually baby beans or deep styro. I punch myself more than I cut, maybe twice a day.

 

[catgirlfailure]

I don't cut but I punch myself, bite my hands and scratch my skin.

 

[dyingisanart]

I have never cut, but sometimes when I can't stand my thoughts and they're too loud I punch myself

 

[Passenger4224]

I whack myself in the head with an object and I feel like after each session my memory gets worse and I get dumber

 

[franos666]

Not gonna lie, I never understood the point of self-harm. If I'm already going through terrible stuff, why would I hurt myself even more? Can someone explain this to me.

Cutting yourself causes your body to release endorphins, which calm you down and ease emotional pain for a short while

 

[Deepdense]

Pain is feeling something rather than nothing.

 

[Oiled Sandwich]

Cutting yourself causes your body to release endorphins, which calm you down and ease emotional pain for a short while

Not going to lie, I never knew that. Now it makes sense to me why people self-harm. The more you know.

 

[ikiruNObungaku]

I often participate in starving myself or bruising myself when I have done something wrong. I think one time someone told me that does not count as self-harm, so I do not tell people it. I would feel really bad if I say I do self-harm, but it is not as severe as someone else. So, I think I do not self-harm? I think what I do is not self-harm from what they say.

 

[EndlessRage]

What are you experiences with self-harm? How often do you do it? Which plach do you choose?

Personally I do it mostly on my thights because they are very easy to hide

I used to. But i sometimes relapse.

 

[iguazo falls]

I often participate in starving myself or bruising myself when I have done something wrong. I think one time someone told me that does not count as self-harm, so I do not tell people it. I would feel really bad if I say I do self-harm, but it is not as severe as someone else. So, I think I do not self-harm? I think what I do is not self-harm from what they say.

whoever said it's not self harm is wrong. don't listen to them, if you're hurting yourself you are self harming.

 

[ikiruNObungaku]

whoever said it's not self harm is wrong. don't listen to them, if you're hurting yourself you are self harming.

Oh, I did not know. From what I was told, I thought severity determines if it can be identified as self-harm. I was confused for a while because I thought it only applied to cutting.

 

[iwkmsssb]

i also cut on my thigh, i don't want people to think im attention seeking if i do it in obvious places, not to say people who do it anywhere else is attention seeking. it's just how the majority of people view them. i also don't want to always be conscious of hiding them so thigh was the easiest. i've been doing it quite often these days but i can't do it rn for a while.

 

[LonelyCauseAutistic]

My pain tolerance is really low. I can never do it. Pain drives me crazy.

Same

 

[iguazo falls]

Oh, I did not know. From what I was told, I thought severity determines if it can be identified as self-harm. I was confused for a while because I thought it only applied to cutting.

sometimes people project or want to invalidate others so they make arbitary gatekeeping requirements. it can be fairly common around SH/ED spaces because theres a lot of people who are mad and feel they haven't been given adequate attention/help even when they escalate their behaviors or need to feel superior to others cuz they feel inferior. or sometimes its a clique thing. regardless of their pain and problems, whoever told you that you weren't hurting yourself was being mean. what matters more is how you think and feel about your behaviors than that person or i, but yes bruising yourself and starving your self is generally self harm/self destructive. cerulean is a different tone to navy but they are both the colour blue.

 

[ikiruNObungaku]

sometimes people project or want to invalidate others so they make arbitary gatekeeping requirements. it can be fairly common around SH/ED spaces because theres a lot of people who are mad and feel they haven't been given adequate attention/help even when they escalate their behaviors or need to feel superior to others cuz they feel inferior. or sometimes its a clique thing. regardless of their pain and problems, whoever told you that you weren't hurting yourself was being mean. what matters more is how you think and feel about your behaviors than that person or i, but yes bruising yourself and starving your self is generally self harm/self destructive. cerulean is a different tone to navy but they are both the colour blue.

This is really insightful, thank you for telling me all of this. I did not know that "gatekeeping" could exist in this kind of space, but that makes me sad to hear. However, I am happy to know this, because for a while I did not know what to call the behavior of starving or bruising.

 

[LaetumCat]

I used to. Cutting mostly. Thighs and left arm. Tried stomach once. I miss it everyday, but I can't because of my family.

 

[groovygoober]

Never got the point of it until recently ,have started doing it but I am usually not alone so its pretty tough and I don't want visible scars so no cutting . I just hit myself or self strangulate like 2 times a day .

 

[charlieee]

I use to do it very often. Been clean since August 2023.
I used to do it on my upper thigh so it's easy to hide, with a razor blade.

 

[rhysion]

used to cut at least 3x a week, sometimes up to 2x a day when stress is worse. last few years have been bruising myself a lot trying not to cut again (healing is more annoying than it used to be). have done legs, arms, some torso. i prefer styro, though have accidentally hit beans before

 

[nowhere123]

I don't self harm or other things, because I know full well that it does nothing to ease my pain...

 

[insekurity]

thighs and left arm too. just shallow cuts, so they heal faster and i dont run out of space (i cut daily). if i cant cut i scratch or bite. i like the scarring cuts give me, its the only proof i can believe that im not faking my mental illnesses and developmental disorders.