Do you pretend you are fine?

[DivineSpark]

Telling everybody that you are okay despite struggling with pain, anxiety etc

 

[finnago]

It's considered social normal to do so and frowned upon with the latter, hence why I do typically pretend I am fine.

 

[divinemistress36]

Yes, cause its not like they can help my fucked up brain chemistry and dont think most people care about your feelings

 

[pauly369]

All the time.
Im now an oscar - worthy actor for my performance in putting on a happy face, despite the fact that Im dying inside.

Yes, cause its not like they can help my fucked up brain chemistry and dont think most people care about your feelings

Yes, unfortunately true that the vast majority of people have a shocking lack of empathy, especially those who are supposed to be your friends and family.

 

[FishRain3469]

I tell Some people ( usually during my AA meetings if I'm comfortable enough). Other than that I Try my best to carry on with a smile, and not break down like the awkward fck that I am. =/ Fml. -

 

[DivineSpark]

I dont want to make my family and friends worried. So I keep up happy face.

 

[deadbidaylight]

I dont want to make my family and friends worried. So I keep up happy face.

Exact same boat. I already feel enough like a burden that I don't want to add the level of hopelessness I feel on top of that.

 

[divinemistress36]

All the time.
Im now an oscar - worthy actor for my performance in putting on a happy face, despite the fact that Im dying inside.

Yes, unfortunately true that the vast majority of people have a shocking lack of empathy, especially those who are supposed to be your friends and family.

Family is suppose to be the most supportive but they arent

 

[Rose Mine]

Yeah, I break down a lot though from trying to keep things in.

 

[pauly369]

Family is suppose to be the most supportive but they arent

I found that out during the winter of 2023 when I was homeless and living in my car.
Thats when my so - called family showed their true colours.

 

[AshClouds]

I'm actually pretty good at faking it, but it gets tiring at time, but nobody suspects a thing

 

[DivineSpark]

I found that out during the winter of 2023 when I was homeless and living in my car.
Thats when my so - called family showed their true colours.

Sorry to hear that friend....here they offer housing to homeless people. I also live on government support, (41 square meters apartment)

 

[pauly369]

Sorry to hear that friend....here they offer housing to homeless people. I also live on government support, (41 square meters apartment)

Thanks anyway, but Ive got a place to live now.

 

[CatLvr]

Yes, cause its not like they can help my fucked up brain chemistry and dont think most people care about your feelings

Yep. Even people who say they love you grow tired of dealing with it. I rarely say anything to anyone anymore -- except my son and his girlfriend. They understand.

 

[Pluto]

 

[Daenerys Targaryen]

Yes, there is no arrangement

 

[Namelesa]

At this point I can't pretend or hide it anymore. I had to pretend and hide too much for school and in relationships that I don't have the energy or willpower to. I am too sensitive and emotional and have too low mental pain tolerance that any little negative thing will make me upset. I will probably never get my family's trust to allow me freedom as I can't hide my suicidalness.

 

[NonEssential]

My family is aware that I'm depressed and have had suicidal thoughts, but they're unaware to what extent.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Pretend? I am fine. I don't have anyone to "pretend" to anyway, but even if I did, there'd be no pretending involved. I have all my faculties, can make rational decisions for myself, know my own circumstances better than anyone else, believe in autonomy, etc. Even being in pain isn't abnormal, since most of the populace themselves is at one point or another. Maybe they're the ones pretending?

 

[CatLvr]

Awwwwww Your memes usually make me laugh, even when I don't want to but that one broke me. Poor kitty. People don't think so but I can read my "babies" better than humans read each other. I know, not saying much a lot of the time. But anyway this one hurts my heart.

 

[JesiBel]

I have no choice. They've always made fun of me when I open up emotionally. I no longer want to hear people calling me weak or cowardly, or "just try to get over it," or "you'll get over it," or "you're being overly dramatic."
Or the typical phrase "suicide is for losers."
I'd rather not say anything to anyone, it only makes me feel worse.

 

[ForeverCaHa]

I don't really have the energy to pretend anymore. I'm sure everyone around me is aware that I'm not okay. I don't talk about just how not okay I am since I don't want them to spoil my plan, but I don't have it in me to be 'happy' in front of others

 

[Hotsackage]

My mom hates cause I'm to relaxed. Da fun. I mean I don't say shit to anyone anymore, there's no reason to

 

[DarknessAtNoon]

My family knows something is very wrong with me because outside work I'm basically a recluse but I certainly don't share that I'm gonna kms. They just assume I'm autistic or something.

 

[CatLvr]

I have no choice. They've always made fun of me when I open up emotionally. I no longer want to hear people calling me weak or cowardly, or "just try to get over it," or "you'll get over it," or "you're being overly dramatic."
Or the typical phrase "suicide is for losers."
I'd rather not say anything to anyone, it only makes me feel worse.

Well it's okay now. You have friends who understand now. We got you.

My mom hates cause I'm to relaxed. Da fun. I mean I don't say shit to anyone anymore, there's no reason to

There are so many folks here whose parents are just awful people. I'm one but the bitch and her asshole husband have passed away so fuck them anyway. I am so sorry she does this to you.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

Yes. I have to. The alternative is a stupid circus of "help". One time I was driving past a hospital on a particularly bad day and thought maybe I should pull in to the ER and tell them that I... but immediately thought NO WAY am I putting myself through all that and forever being labeled. Just, no way.

 

[itwasnevermeant2be]

Yes. I have to keep a brave face and keep smiling. I've been doing it ever since I could remember.

 

[NoHalfMeasures]

I often say I'm fine, but sometimes the truth slips through the cracks of the mask of happiness.

I really don't like to lie, but it's so hard to be truthful about the pain.

 

[depthss]

yeah, i dont like people pitying me or going easy on me. it happens enough as is, i dont need any more of it

 

[Blueberry Panic]

Yeah I can only get by with gaslighting myself into oblivion
Yeah I can only get by with gaslighting myself into oblivion