NSFW Do you know why you are into in what you are into sexually?

[noname223]

Today, a Slavoj Zizek text dropped. I haven't read it fully yet. But I think one message is that sexuality often involves traumata. I am not sure whether that's true for me. I won't disclose in what I am into which makes this post a little bit boring.

I think I can explain it with my personality and maybe with some form of non-sexual traumata. But most of my traumatas (domestic violence) started with 5 and the bullying started with maybe 13.
I think though my sexuality formed itself pretty early. I think with I had one example with 6. And some other incidents. With the teenage years it rather reinforced what I was into.
I think I never experienced a sexual traumata though there was one weird incident that puzzled me as a child. I don't think it had much infuence. But many people with sexual traumata say that it impacted their sexuality.

I like to be introspective. But this is a question I have not thought much about. And without disclosing much this thread becomes boring. So I will end it here.

 

[SweetMemories]

i am in severe masochistic levels of BDSM because my Dad was a little to friendly with me for the age of 8 - 12. I have had severe acne in my teens, which led to really crazy mobbing and before the newest onset on my tinnitus i coped with the factor, that people treat me like shit. So yes, for me it is all based on trauma. I tried to went through it, but the fact that my mom just sitting besides it and let this happen, while she smoked and drank her beer every day let my therapist stop this procedure. Am i to open with my shitty life? maybe, but it doesn't matter anymore. I have survived the shit of Tinnitus two times, i am not so lucky that i can do it a third time. If anyone finds out the connection, they know, that my life was shitty all day long and i am kinda proud that i made it to 38 years, even with a very, very, very harmful coping mechanism. Because with that condition you don't believe in yourself or think that people are being honest with you. And most aren't. They capatalize on their own greedy behaviours and when you come to things like these forums you really can't believe how genuine and open everyone here is. Society has fucked us up, that's for sure.

for you i would highly suggest that you google all form of emotional trauma you can develope. White torture is nothing you see, but it fucks with your emotional system a lot. it can also be that your brain hides something from you. If you can't experience your childhood in your memories there is a high chance you are traumatized.

 

[dayhell]

I don't know why, for me there doesn't seem to be a connection. As someone who has a glasses kink, it's kind of funny that my dad worked in a glasses factory and I got a job there too. It's just a coincidence through, I work there because it's convenient. But I do like my job.

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

I mean, do you means kinks/fetishes or sexuality? Because I'm a gay man that's "afraid" of cis men—I'd think the trauma would have made me straight.

The kinks though, yeah, to be expected. I got into BDSM much younger than I should have, but it did help me learn about consent after the first time being groomed online. BDSM kink contracts and pre-sex conversations have always fascinated me because no one in my childhood actually communicated well in life.

 

[noname223]

I don't know why, for me there doesn't seem to be a connection. As someone who has a glasses kink, it's kind of funny that my dad worked in a glasses factory and I got a job there too. It's just a coincidence through, I work there because it's convenient. But I do like my job.

I think a psychoanalyst had a field day with this statement.

I mean, do you means kinks/fetishes or sexuality? Because I'm a gay man that's "afraid" of cis men—I'd think the trauma would have made me straight.

The kinks though, yeah, to be expected. I got into BDSM much younger than I should have, but it did help me learn about consent after the first time being groomed online. BDSM kink contracts and pre-sex conversations have always fascinated me because no one in my childhood actually communicated well in life.

I think I am interested in both. Kinks and sexuality.

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

I think I am interested in both. Kinks and sexuality.

Trauma can definitely affect the sexuality, but it's not that common. I've met asexual people who developed it due to trauma, but I've also met many women who are still attracted to men despite basically going into flight response on sight around one.

I think it's more common with certain sexualities/preferences like A-spec and polyamormous people than gay or straight people.

Kinks have a major connection to trauma though. I do have a fetish-ish thing that isn't related to trauma (that I know of), but it also skews a of a more "romantic fetish" than immediately sexual. For me, sex has to have romance.

I'm demisexual too, actually. I did "ignore" it a lot as an adolescent due to hypersexual behavior, though. I just thought sex appeal was how you get guys, but I wasn't attracted to them that way until we bonded—it was just trauma projection until then.

So I guess that's another example of my sexuality not being affected by trauma. If my demisexuality was caused by trauma, I sure was ignoring it a lot... due to trauma

 

[Bethlehem]

I mean, do you means kinks/fetishes or sexuality? Because I'm a gay man that's "afraid" of cis men—I'd think the trauma would have made me straight.

The kinks though, yeah, to be expected. I got into BDSM much younger than I should have, but it did help me learn about consent after the first time being groomed online. BDSM kink contracts and pre-sex conversations have always fascinated me because no one in my childhood actually communicated well in life.

I guessed you were ftm. I know lots of ftm men irl. Most are cool, some annoying just like most people. Not meant to be offensive that I guessed, just an observation.

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

I guessed you were ftm. I know lots of ftm men irl. Most are cool, some annoying just like most people. Not meant to be offensive that I guessed, just an observation.

I assume you guessed from the fact that I called out things that toxic cis men do?

 

[Bethlehem]

I assume you guessed from the fact that I called out things that toxic cis men do?

Gay man afraid of cis men, yeah and that I guess... If that's how you put it. Most homosexual males are not afraid of other homosexual cis males because that's most of who they're attracted to. Trans men are men just like cis men and it's unfair to call cis men toxic and evil but trans men are these pure little angels who are constantly victimised. Most ftms I know are more like the former. He's a bodybuilder and he's got a new girlfriend every few weeks. Between him and his brother I can't tell which one is a natal male. My elder adopted brother is a trans man so I know a lot about this stuff

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

Trans men are men just like cis men and it's unfair to call cis men toxic and evil but trans men are these pure little angels who are constantly victimised.

Me when I make strawman arguments

Gay man afraid of cis men, yeah and that I guess... If that's how you put it. Most homosexual males are not afraid of other homosexual cis males because that's most of who they're attracted to.

Also, it makes sense that cis male sexual assault victims wouldn't be open around you considering the things you say. It's cute that you think your experience is the norm.

 

[Xi-Xi]

God this is going to be a stain on my account forever...

I have a balloon fetish. Like, a major one. And I'm not entirely sure why, it has something to do from when I was a young child, and I linked balloons to masturbation somehow, it... It's weird, ok? Popping balloons is also a huge pleasure point for me...

That being said questions are accepted

 

[Xi-Xi]

Gay man afraid of cis men, yeah and that I guess... If that's how you put it. Most homosexual males are not afraid of other homosexual cis males because that's most of who they're attracted to. Trans men are men just like cis men and it's unfair to call cis men toxic and evil but trans men are these pure little angels who are constantly victimised. Most ftms I know are more like the former. He's a bodybuilder and he's got a new girlfriend every few weeks. Between him and his brother I can't tell which one is a natal male.

Bethlehem, what's wrong with you, dude. Like, just in general

 

[iveseenfootage]

I'm into everything I'm into for very normal reasons thank you very much

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

Bethlehem, what's wrong with you, dude. Like, just in general

I called him out for calling his ex gf that he threatened suicide at a "stupid idiot" for dumping him, for calling her parents slurs, and for using his autism as an excuse. Now he's angy

 

[Xi-Xi]

I called him out for calling his ex gf that he threatened suicide at a "stupid idiot" for dumping him, for calling her parents slurs, and for using his autism as an excuse. Now he's angy

Ew, is this a redditor? I thought I told those guys to stop sending these types of people over here...

 

[Bethlehem]

Me when I make strawman arguments


Also, it makes sense that cis male sexual assault victims wouldn't be open around you considering the things you say. It's cute that you think your experience is the norm.

Is that supposed to be an insult??? Being gay isn't an insult. I'm heterosexual. Why am I the bad guy for saying trans men are men?

God this is going to be a stain on my account forever...

I have a balloon fetish. Like, a major one. And I'm not entirely sure why, it has something to do from when I was a young child, and I linked balloons to masturbation somehow, it... It's weird, ok? Popping balloons is also a huge pleasure point for me...

That being said questions are accepted

YOOOO A REAL LOONER thats mad. Do you like seeing Ur balloons feel pain or do you like keeping them safe and loving them?

God this is going to be a stain on my account forever...

I have a balloon fetish. Like, a major one. And I'm not entirely sure why, it has something to do from when I was a young child, and I linked balloons to masturbation somehow, it... It's weird, ok? Popping balloons is also a huge pleasure point for me...

That being said questions are accepted

YOOOO A REAL LOONER thats mad. Do you like seeing Ur balloons feel pain or do you like keeping them safe and loving them?

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

Is that supposed to be an insult??? Being gay isn't an insult. I'm heterosexual. Why am I the bad guy for saying trans men are men?

Is your head on backwards?

The point is that no one said trans men are pure angels. Trying to bring that into the conversation is something called a strawman argument. Google "logical fallacies," you can do it.

 

[Bethlehem]

Bethlehem, what's wrong with you, dude. Like, just in general

Suicidal. Life is shit. I have 'controversial' opinions apparently.

Is your head on backwards?

The point is that no one said trans men are pure angels. Trying to bring that into the conversation is something called a strawman argument. Google "logical fallacies," you can do it.

You seem to put some weird divide between trans men and cis men.

My brother is a guy just like I am

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

Suicidal. Life is shit. I have 'controversial' opinions apparently.

Most of us are suicidal, man, that's the point. You don't have "controversial opinions," you call people slurs, manipulate your partners, and claim all women hate you.

You seem to put some weird divide between trans men and cis men.

My brother is a guy just like I am

Are. Are you reading my messages backwards? What is going on.

 

[Bethlehem]

Most of us are suicidal, man, that's the point. You don't have "controversial opinions," you call people slurs, manipulate your partners, and claim all women hate you.

Are. Are you reading my messages backwards? What is going on.

Call Kim Jong un and tell him he's no longer the worst guy ever. It's me apparently


Balloon guy please get back to me I need to know.

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

Call Kim Jong un and tell him he's no longer the worst guy ever. It's me apparently
Balloon guy please get back to me I need to know.

This is so funny

"I GUESS I'M THE WORST MOM EVER" vibes. Like when your confront a toxic un-self-aware parent and they start stroking their own victim complex.

 

[Bethlehem]

This is so funny

"I GUESS I'M THE WORST MOM EVER" vibes. Like when your confront a toxic un-self-aware parent and they start stroking their own victim complex.

Wow bro way to expose your problems with your mother.

I'm stroking my own Weiner

What do I need to do to become a 'good' person to you???? Take those dumb pills the doctors give me?

 

[Xi-Xi]

Suicidal. Life is shit. I have 'controversial' opinions apparently.

Alright, I'll stop bothering you.

YOOOO REAL LOONER thats mad. Do you like seeing Ur balloons feel pain or do you like keeping them safe and loving them?

Oh? So you've heard of us. I'm really quite suprised, to be honest.

It really depends on my mood to be honest. If by "feeling pain", you mean bursting them, then yes, I perfer my balloon to pop. However, sometimes, I'm in to fragile of a mood for that, so on those days, I'll let them be, and just goon next to one while watching Looner porn (which yes, is a thing)

 

[martyrdom]

I'm stroking my own Weiner

What the fuck are you implying here?

 

[Bethlehem]

Alright, I'll stop bothering you.

Oh? So you've heard of us. I'm really quite suprised, to be honest.

It really depends on my mood to be honest. If by "feeling pain", you mean bursting them, then yes, I perfer my balloon to pop. However, sometimes, I'm in to fragile of a mood for that, so on those days, I'll let them be, and just goon next to one while watching Looner porn (which yes, is a thing)

Yeah I saw some old guy on yt talking about how he loves to protect his balloons and when they pop all hell breaks loose. How many balloons do you have, do you like inflation porn and how does one have sex with a balloon? Im curious but I'm not looking it up lol.

I'm so scared of balloons. When one pops next to me my whole nervous system just ignites. I thought that the pop would hurt me if any balloon shrapnel landed on me. I thought it would burn.

What the fuck are you implying here?

It's a pretty hollow statement.

An immature joke.