Discussion Do you guys have friends?

[struggles_inc]

I wonder if you people have any friends in real life or internet. I don't have friends irl and I don't think I'm getting there. I thought I had some online friends but lately nobody's been even remotely in contact, so yeah, no friends.

My family (on the phone once a day) and you guys are the only people I talk to now.

 

[Gonnerr]

Yes in real life. I got less than when i was younger. That's what growing old do to you, more loneliness.

 

[Abyssal]

Friends? No. I'm on friendly terms with people though, but I'm probably just an npc to them.

 

[struggles_inc]

Yes in real life. I got less than when i was younger. That's what growing old do to you, more loneliness.

How did you manage to keep in contact? All my school/university friends dumped me already.

Friends? No. I'm on friendly terms with people though, but I'm probably just an npc to them.

That's such a headache. I mean telling between people actually caring for you and people jUsT bEiNg NiCe. Like you're an npc to them.
One of my friends ghosts me a lot and then proceeds to tell me he cares. Bruh.
UPD: I actually wonder a lot how's that turning out like this. Maybe I have a shit personality or something.

 

[MyLuckyStars]

yeah. mostly friends of mine from high school that i kept in touch with, one of which i run my youtube channel with. signed a lease to live with another as a roommate next year. i havent made a new friend irl since i was like 15, but im okay at staying in contact with people via instagram dm's and whatnot. mind you, i dont see any of them in person very often.

Friends? No. I'm on friendly terms with people though, but I'm probably just an npc to them.

this is what my attempts at making friends in college was like. i could get along with people, but never got invited to things or thought of if i wasnt in the room

 

[Sleeper System]

I had about 6 friends between early to late teens.
After I turned 21 we all drifted apart. It's all love but we have zero contact.
Now, I have 4 friends. 2 of which are slowly drifting out the picture due to just life and different paths. 2 I text every day and might hang out with once or twice a year. Friends from work that I stayed in contact with.

It's enough for me. I don't want too much attachment. I like the idea of people thinking im unapproachable. Just leave me the fuck all.

 

[F@#$]

There's people that tolerate me and a couple people who I can tolerate. Friends? None.

 

[struggles_inc]

Damn how do you guys do that, I envy you even.

 

[mutt]

no friends irl nor online. especially not planning on making friends online after one of my accounts got hacked. havent had any real friends since middle school. been a damn long time. hoping i can ctb soon

 

[Ash’Girl]

I used to have a decent amount of fairly close friends, and a lot of friendly acquaintances. Some drifted as I got older. Others fell by the wayside more recently as they couldn't handle my grief and subsequent declining mental health. Though part of that is that I've just stopped trying, stopped communicating. I'm unable to be myself around them because I'm too depressed and they don't need a draining negative influence and I've lost my lifelong ability to fake it so I just isolate. It's lonely but I think in a way distancing myself from all connections is one of the ways I'm pushing myself to reach the point of overcoming SI enough to follow through on ctb.

 

[ladidabi]

I honestly don't know their intentions. I back away.

 

[struggles_inc]

I used to have a decent amount of fairly close friends, and a lot of friendly acquaintances. Some drifted as I got older. Others fell by the wayside more recently as they couldn't handle my grief and subsequent declining mental health. Though part of that is that I've just stopped trying, stopped communicating. I'm unable to be myself around them because I'm too depressed and they don't need a draining negative influence and I've lost my lifelong ability to fake it so I just isolate. It's lonely but I think in a way distancing myself from all connections is one of the ways I'm pushing myself to reach the point of overcoming SI enough to follow through on ctb.

I always wondered if friends are supposed to support you. I did it at least the most basic stuff like giving a shoulder to cry on.

 

[flightless bird]

not anymore. i'm just disconnected...

 

[Ash’Girl]

I always wondered if friends are supposed to support you. I did it at least the most basic stuff like giving a shoulder to cry on.

I think true friends are supposed to support you, but often people will provide support in immediate crisis but if they don't see any improvement/change they don't know what to do, or it is draining on their energy, so they give up or avoid after a while. I don't think in my case I particularly blame them, they are looking out for themselves. It's very rare to find close connections who are able to just sit with someone and be there as witness to the darkest pits of despair. People tend to want to "fix" you and when it's something they can't or don't know how to fix it makes them uncomfortable.

Though for me it's quite simple. Just be present. Sit in silence with me. Put something to eat or drink in front of me without pressuring me to actually eat or drink it. Be in my space, watch a movie and if I'm crying my eyes out you don't even need to do anything. Hug me, hold my hand, let me cry without useless platitudes. Don't make me feel like I need to hide my emotions. I think I've experienced this with two people in my lifetime, so it is possible, but it's rare.

 

[Gonnerr]

How did you manage to keep in contact? All my school/university friends dumped me already.

That's such a headache. I mean telling between people actually caring for you and people jUsT bEiNg NiCe. Like you're an npc to them.
One of my friends ghosts me a lot and then proceeds to tell me he cares. Bruh.
UPD: I actually wonder a lot how's that turning out like this. Maybe I have a shit personality or something.

I don't know , im a kind guy so people like me., most that i don't see that's because they got family or move away.

I just got lucky in friendship.

 

[moonflow3r]

no, next question

 

[struggles_inc]

no, next question

You have a Nana profile pic whoa

 

[huphup]

I do, I would say a lot of acquaintances and also have friends that invite me to hangout. but I just don't want to see anyone. I feel bad because loneliness is fucking awful, but at the same time I would rather stay alone. It sucks. I also think that I have a Super close connection with anyone> i am hiding parts of myself from people.

That's why im on sasu LOL

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

I could have many, many friends if I wanted to. But I despise human interaction in real life and can't stand most people.

 

[Sluggish_Slump]

Not anymore. After a best friend abandoned me from nowhere I got scared all the other friends would leave me too, it triggered a borderline episode, so I left all the other friends first before they got the chance to do it themselves. People are unreliable (including me). I find isolation much more relaxing.

 

[cranberrys]

I wonder if you people have any friends in real life or internet. I don't have friends irl and I don't think I'm getting there. I thought I had some online friends but lately nobody's been even remotely in contact, so yeah, no friends.

My family (on the phone once a day) and you guys are the only people I talk to now.

2 friends irl. One I've known since elementary school and another since jr high. We've kept in touch due to living close to each other and going to the same university. I've lost all my other friends just naturally over time.

 

[divinemistress36]

I've driven them away with my depression. Nobody wants to be around a severally depressed person

 

[struggles_inc]

I've driven them away with my depression. Nobody wants to be around a severally depressed person

So relatable.

 

[user933957]

I wonder if you people have any friends in real life or internet. I don't have friends irl and I don't think I'm getting there. I thought I had some online friends but lately nobody's been even remotely in contact, so yeah, no friends.

My family (on the phone once a day) and you guys are the only people I talk to now.

well, I guess I do have some people to talk to, but I'm just there you know? if we were in a room full of people I would be abandoned I'm just someone to talk to when nobody else is there. online, I do have one that I talk to everyday with. apart from that no. I mean I wish I could have friends in real life that actually cared about me but I don't, but I don't mind I think.

 

[almaPerdida]

When i was 17, i was very shy and had very few friends. That's when i started to think about CTB, but i said "fuck it, gotta make this life worth living". Then school and my job as intern helped me become an extrovert. I started going to parties alone and met a lot of friends. A few closer ones and the majority more distant.

I am 23 now, and i plan to CTB in March. I will have all i need ready by next week. But i'm feeling pretty guilty because i have close friends who will miss me. I wish i had CTB earlier because it would've been less damage left behind. It's making me feel pretty bad because they have no idea of my intents, it's gonna be a horrible surprise. I will never show signs of thinking about CTB.

 

[Slow_Farewell]

I've had difficulty with friends and making them in general but that was typically because i didnt have an idea of what my ideal friend would be. We never really notice but how we define friends is mostly based on what we are exposed to, either definitions by other people or media.
I was and i guess still am, lucky to have figured out at an early age what I wanted in a friend or how I defined friendship for me, and was able to find people that more or less met the profile (mostly less, but hey, no one's perfect).
As a result, i have about 5 people i could call friends. They check in on me once in a blue moon, usually just sending a message like "Yo, are you still alive" or "Send proof of life" (which is funny to me). We dont meet/talk often, i guess about once a year, and while they dont like the fact that i often go quiet or missing, they figured out not to press so much. Whenever we do meet, though, its like we just picked up from the last time we met. Which I like. A bit burdensome on their part, but theyre used to it.

 

[brokeandbroken]

I wonder if you people have any friends in real life or internet. I don't have friends irl and I don't think I'm getting there. I thought I had some online friends but lately nobody's been even remotely in contact, so yeah, no friends.

My family (on the phone once a day) and you guys are the only people I talk to now.

No not really. I have like 3$ left to my name.. it makes finding friends basically impossible. I'm a walking burden... W/o money especially where I'm from not much you can do most of the year for free. To be honest I don't think I can handle friendships at this point. If I found one I wouldn't know what to do with it.

 

[Doz]

Nope, just a background character in everyone else's life.

 

[cold_severance]

no and never have.

 

[leavingthesoultrap]

Friends come and go for me. I have only one person in my life which is a true friend