Help Cope

[ugulamugula]

I can ctb in 1-2 years. What are the best coping methods for those years?

 

[Worndown]

We need to know what stresses are impacting you.

 

[ugulamugula]

We need to know what stresses are impacting you.

Im completely lonely, i have no friends, my Girlfriend broke up with me because i was a piece of shit, i get bullied in school etc. Im a fucking awful person that doesn´t deserve to live anymore. Im just a waste of space. But i don´t want any sympathy, it´s completely my fault, even though im trying to change. Is that enough? I just want something to cope with so i can bear the pain for those last few years

 

[Wojaczek]

i get bullied in school

how old are you?

 

[ugulamugula]

how old are you?

Why? Is it that important?

 

[Wojaczek]

Why? Is it that important?

kinda, kids shouldn't be on here

 

[ugulamugula]

kinda, kids shouldn't be on here

I´m 18, i guess you can count me as a kid

 

[Worndown]

Young in experience, old in pain.
There are ways to get by and hopefully things improve over time.
Time is the big issue.

Others can add their experiences and advice.
We are as much about staying alive as leaving early.

 

[Wojaczek]

I´m 18, i guess you can count me as a kid

you're still young blah blah, things can get better blah blah, you know the drill, give it some time, your reasons for wanting to die sound like every teenagers reason for wanting to die (they are still valid enough reasons of course but still, nothing to kill yourself over imo)

 

[Worndown]

you're still young blah blah, things can get better blah blah, you know the drill, give it some time, your reasons for wanting to die sound like every teenagers reason for wanting to die (they are still valid enough reasons of course but still, nothing to kill yourself over imo)

??

 

[Wojaczek]

??

hm?

 

[SoLowHollow48]

I don't know man. That's just one girl. You can find other girls who can help you grow as a person. If it breaks down, it's usually the fault of two people so it's not entirely our fault. I learned this the hard way. I'd say you try to recover for these 2 years. If shit doesn't work, we're here for you. But for the meantime, just avoid this place like the plague.

Bro, I went to many threads and concluded that the coginitive dissonance of the people here is insane. You don't want to surround yourself with people like that right now. You don't need that shit. You need better friends, better girl, and better standards.

Anyway, I hope you get to focus more on your studies and get into the college you want or at least study a major that you want.

 

[Warum]

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pro choice does not mean encouraging *any* death. especially for someone as young as 18. you can clearly tell the original poster is facing a life challange that many people go through; one that is very well beatable. that is not a life that has to be ended.

 

[chelpus]

pro choice does not mean encouraging *any* death. especially for someone as young as 18. you can clearly tell the original poster is facing a life challange that many people go through

I don't think Worndown gave that reply because Wojaczek was not encouraging OP to die, but rather because of how the comment is worded out.
"your reasons for wanting to die sound like every teenagers reason for wanting to die (they are still valid enough reasons of course but still, nothing to kill yourself over imo)"
This comment may make it seem like the reasons teenagers want to CTB are different and less significant than the reasons adults have, I don't think adding "they are still valid enough reasons of course" would do any better when that same comment is also isolating the reasons younger people have to CTB and may make OP and other younger people reading this feel invalidated. I'm 18 years old, and I can say for myself that's how I felt about that comment.

one that is very well beatable. that is not a life that has to be ended.

How can you confidently say that one's struggles are "very beatable" when you're not in their position? Do you think you could be the judge for a life that is not yours?

For an example, we could use one thing that OP has mentioned, which is their girlfriend breaking up with them. The way that every person would feel after breaking up with a partner are different, we are all unique people, with brains that are wired differently. Just because you may find it easy to move on and recover after losing somebody you love, doesn't mean others would find it as easy as you may do. The importance and attachment that each person have for the ones they love, and the circumstances of a relationship, all differ too. For example, most people may find it easier to recover from losing a toxic relationship that has only lasted a few weeks, whereas it would be significantly harder for them to recover from losing a loving relationship that they were happy with that lasted for years.

When one gets to a point of having their life dedicated to loving and being with their partner, spending most of their time with them, and looking up to a future where they could build a new life and start a family, it's completely understandable that they would feel the want to CTB when they lose the relationship they had with their partner. I believe if that, or any other reason, is a valid and justified reason to CTB, should be completely up to the one who owns that life, not a different person with a different kind of life.

 

[Warum]

I don't think Worndown gave that reply because Wojaczek was not encouraging OP to die, but rather because of how the comment is worded out.
"your reasons for wanting to die sound like every teenagers reason for wanting to die (they are still valid enough reasons of course but still, nothing to kill yourself over imo)"
This comment may make it seem like the reasons teenagers want to CTB are different and less significant than the reasons adults have, I don't think adding "they are still valid enough reasons of course" would do any better when that same comment is also isolating the reasons younger people have to CTB and may make OP and other younger people reading this feel invalidated. I'm 18 years old, and I can say for myself that's how I felt about that comment.


How can you confidently say that one's struggles are "very beatable" when you're not in their position? Do you think you could be the judge for a life that is not yours?

For an example, we could use one thing that OP has mentioned, which is their girlfriend breaking up with them. The way that every person would feel after breaking up with a partner are different, we are all unique people, with brains that are wired differently. Just because you may find it easy to move on and recover after losing somebody you love, doesn't mean others would find it as easy as you may do. The importance and attachment that each person have for the ones they love, and the circumstances of a relationship, all differ too. For example, most people may find it easier to recover from losing a toxic relationship that has only lasted a few weeks, whereas it would be significantly harder for them to recover from losing a loving relationship that they were happy with that lasted for years.

When one gets to a point of having their life dedicated to loving and being with their partner, spending most of their time with them, and looking up to a future where they could build a new life and start a family, it's completely understandable that they would feel the want to CTB when they lose the relationship they had with their partner. I believe if that, or any other reason, is a valid and justified reason to CTB, should be completely up to the one who owns that life, not a different person with a different kind of life.

obviously it is unique but dying over a relationship you had when you were barely an adult is a very drastic decision. encouraging that by saying how everyone experiences it differently is very sick. get a grip and do not encourage young death this lightly. ctb is a veryb ig decision. holy shit some peiople on here