When others have to bring other people down to fulfill a complex they have, I feel nothing but pity for them on the fact they're so low mentally that they have to harass others just so they're not alone in their own misery. We're all suicidally depressed here, so there's no reason that we need to drag each other further down. I'm not a saint in this regard either, I'm prone to lashing out and being a dick multiple times over. The thing I want to see changed is normalizing accountability by owning up to being an ass and saying "I'm sorry for doing this, I'll be more mindful" instead of just either doubling down or running away from the one they've hurt when they're confronted. I get it, hearing someone was hurt sucks, but look past the emotion and see what they're actually saying. Just read the actual words. Take some time to recover from the emotion if needed, and actually read what's being said. If they've got a point in their hurt, just tell them you realize you fucked up and apologize. I never realized saying sorry was difficult to many, but damn. This post got me remembering a few places that existed.