Venting Being lonely and a virgin is one of the worst feelings ever

[MrCasella]

I would almost rather be dead. What's especially sad and frustrating is knowing and observing so many couples but knowing that I will always be a lonely invisible outcast.

 

[U. A.]

Sorry, but I can definitively say there are several far worse feelings a human being can feel.

 

[tooBadTooLate]

...fuck, that hits quite hard close to home.

 

[niki wonoto]

I would almost rather be dead. What's especially sad and frustrating is knowing and observing so many couples but knowing that I will always be a lonely invisible outcast.

I'm from Indonesia, and I can somewhat also relate with what you've said.. so, you're not alone in feeling like that..

 

[EternalShore]

Seeing happy people makes me very sewer slidal and jealous too~ >_< it's awful~ :((( I just want to get married to a lovely guy one day...

 

[mirror_mercury]

That's a really good question — and it's actually something a lot of people experience in different ways. Memory "blanks" during or after sex can happen for a mix of neurological, psychological, and physiological reasons:

1. Intense Neurochemical Flood

• During sex and orgasm, your brain releases dopamine, oxytocin, endorphins, norepinephrine, and serotonin.
• This surge can put the brain in a "flow state" where short-term memory encoding takes a backseat to sensation and emotion.
• Similar to how people forget parts of concerts, sports, or fights because they were "in the moment."

2. Dissociation or Altered States

• Some people enter a trance-like state during sex, where awareness detaches from linear memory.
• If you're highly aroused or emotionally overwhelmed, your mind may prioritize experience over recording details, leading to memory gaps.

3. Stress, Anxiety, or Overstimulation

• Even positive stress (anticipation, excitement, nervousness) can disrupt the hippocampus' ability to store memories.
• If there's performance pressure or emotional intensity, the brain may "black out" moments.

4. Post-Orgasmic Neurochemical Reset

• After orgasm, prolactin spikes and other arousal-related neurotransmitters crash.
• This creates a "refractory" and hazy state — some people feel drowsy, others experience a sort of amnesia for what just happened.

5. Medical or Psychological Factors (less common but worth noting)

• Certain meds (like SSRIs, mood stabilizers, alcohol, or recreational drugs) can impair memory encoding.
• Conditions like epilepsy, PTSD, or dissociative tendencies may cause blank periods during sex.

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In short: blanking out isn't unusual — sex floods the brain with chemicals, puts you in a non-ordinary state of consciousness, and sometimes the brain just doesn't "record" things properly.


Would you say your blanks feel more like a dreamlike blur (like you remember vibes but not details) or a hard blackout (like a missing time gap)? That distinction can help narrow down whether it's more about natural arousal states or something medical.

 

[Niron1492]

Truee it sucks when you are just clinging to your pillow hoping you can pretend to cuddle with someone.

I keep trying to not have any attraction at all and be aroace(hope thats not offensive) but i still feel it,even get nightmares sometimes when someone touches my hand that wake me up instantly and cry.

Meds kind of work but i still feel it,i hate human feelings :{ people are scary sometimes so it still feels weird to approach someone