Venting being in love is a prison

[emptymiku]

i wish i could turn off my emotions. i wish i couldn't feel any kind of love. the only thing that gives my life value right now is talking to my friends, but especially him.

i hate this.

i wish i didn't have to feel so strongly for someone who will never feel the same about me.

i hope he won't miss me when we part ways. by death or by circumstance, i hope he'll celebrate my absence.

because i'm worth nothing.

 

[Cyc]

I'm in the same situation as you. I'm in love with someone who no longer loves me and it still hurts

 

[SarahThrowsGin]

I've read that turning it off is precisely possible, but not in an instant, and requires quite elaborate self-reflection and either work towards one's ambitions or help from other people, which I guess is not suitable to everyone. Otherwise, I definitely can relate to "to be in love is to suffer", though I was fortunate so far to never have it last too long. But for some people it really just does not pass, which is yet another testament of how torturous this world is. That, and the fact that there are people who think that if you suffer, it is somehow not a "true" love, devaluing your suffering. Yet on the contrary, a lot of instances of (non-romantic) 'love' that does not cause suffering to the lover, seem to be precisely gaslighting: think of unsolicited interventions that masquerade as care but the only person they really care about is their own good image.

 

[lpdsvm]

I sometimes find it hard to read what a person wants. I think they wouldn't mind, but I am not rich enough, good enough, or they might stereotype me. Maybe because of my origin and background. Maybe something else.
Or maybe a small number of people want to actually try but I expect them to do something first because no way will I want anything now with this mess in my life.
I know for sure if I had randomly started I would be in big trouble now.

 

[TheOtakuLurker]

Oddly enough, love isn't a real thing it's just chemicals in peoples head making them feel like their connected to another person. Imagine this where you've been with this person for 5 years would it matter? No. It wouldn't make one even the slightest of happy, yeah it's cool to want to be with someone but putting everything on this one person as feeds into the loop of feeling worthlessness which is why turning all emotions off is the best option.