Anyone disgusted by the thought of being posted on Social Media after your death?

[robokiller]

I have a lot of "friends", or rather acquaintances, that I am 99% sure would post half-assed Instagram stories with pictures of me, spreading the word that I died. I find even the thought of that disgusting because I am aware that some people I know are so addicted to posting on Social Media that they would go on to share every single detail about their (or other) lives. Also, these people would then go on and write texts about how important it is to reach out to suicidal people (even though they never did; most people only liked me when I had money) which would just further perpetuate this anti-suicide narrative that we have in modern society.

Do you understand my frustration with this?

I will leave a note which will clearly say that I do not want to be posted on SM after I'm gone.

Let me know your thoughts about this dear members of the community.

 

[FuneralCry]

I would never use those shallow and toxic websites in the first place and I barely even know any people, my existence is just so incredibly insignificant. But anyway whatever happens in this world after we are gone could never be our concern, those who are no longer burdened with existence cannot care about anything. I do think in that situation writing a note would be for the best, I would write about how pro-lifers who pretend to care with their empty words disgust me.

 

[Ambivalent1]

My family will post unflattering pictures. Sucks

 

[Vizzy]

I won't be there to witness it anyway so I don't care!

 

[robokiller]

I would never use those shallow and toxic websites in the first place and I barely even know any people, my existence is just so incredibly insignificant. But anyway whatever happens in this world after we are gone could never be our concern, those who are no longer burdened with existence cannot care about anything. I do think in that situation writing a note would be for the best, I would write about how pro-lifers who pretend to care with their empty words disgust me.

You are absolutely right when you say these platforms are toxic, or outright evil and demonic. However, platforms like Instagram etc. are so prevalent among my generation (I'm in my early 20s) that it is inevitable for something like this to happen.

I guess the best I can do is leave a note detailing my anger with people who will do something like this. I am lucky to have some close friends I can trust to take care of this when I'm gone.

Maybe I shouldn't think about this too much, as I will leave this world soon enough…

If ghosts really do exist, you best believe I will haunt these people in their waking life and dreams ;)

 

[Praestat_Mori]

delete you social presences early enough, that's it. And even if someone postet then, it wouldn't affect you as you are not existent in this materialized world anymore.

 

[free_at_last]

I've spent the past few years retreating from SM - removing 'acquaintances', deleting old posts and overall having a general digital 'death cleanse'.

 

[Kerrtu]

Yes! JFC, it's so frustrating and I'm glad you brought this up.

I have a friend from childhood who I don't really keep in touch with - I backed away slowly because I realized he's the type of person who thoroughly enjoys embarrassing people. When I moved out of state, he created a blog about me, complete with awkward photos of me and nonsense. I called him out on it alone, and in front of friends, and he kept saying he'd delete but would end up not deleting it. Then he tells me finally, yes - he deleted the blog. Well, no - he didn't, he left up all the pics of me, and removed himself. The blog is gone now, but it was an unnecessary pain in the ass getting him to take it down.

That said, he sent me an email to wish me a happy birthday (it was on Friday) but it rubbed me the wrong way. It was beyond cringe. He knows I generally don't feel comfortable about my birthday, that my family didn't celebrate birthdays when I was growing up. We lived next door to him for years. The email was full of stale "over the hill" type sayings/jokes, MANY exclamation points…possibly more than I've seen in an email, and it just sucked. I realized how apart we've grown and I don't want to end up on his damn FB or IG after I'm gone.

This birthday, yes - I turned 40. What I wanted was to be left alone but my partner kind of foiled that by coming over, and then that damn email from the childhood friend.

Why this birthday was significant to me? It wasn't about turning 40. It was a marker, a pin marking it 10 years from my first major attempt, my attempt at recovery, the rape…it was a day of reflection basically, which was interrupted by an email parade of exclamation points, void of depth.

I drafted a response yesterday - I was going to tell him, since he's all over FB and IG, not to mention me on social media. Well, it's official - I'm sending that email later today. I know when I CTB, he's going to plaster me on his FB and IG and I would loathe it.

Thank you for bringing this topic up, OP. Very much appreciated. I needed to vent.

Edit: Email has been sent

 

[absolomonisgone]

I would never use those shallow and toxic websites in the first place and I barely even know any people, my existence is just so incredibly insignificant. But anyway whatever happens in this world after we are gone could never be our concern, those who are no longer burdened with existence cannot care about anything. I do think in that situation writing a note would be for the best, I would write about how pro-lifers who pretend to care with their empty words disgust me.

sometimes you make me wanna die before my timeline. my timeline is 1 oct 2023. but you make it .. why not do it now?

 

[winamp]

I would be so mad if someone close ever did that

it reminds me of people who post pictures or videos of their loved ones in a casket on various social media sites it's very disrespectful in my opinion

also I dislike news stories too where they show your picture and interview people

I feel like death or funerals are something that are private and intimate due to the amount emotions surrounding it

it's hard for me to explain but you would think people would have the decency to respect your wishes and most importantly privacy when you're no longer here

 

[OceanBlue]

Yeah, I'm already repulsed by their annoying normie takes. Wish no one ever found out, don't want my name mentioned by people I couldn't stand. But nevermind, soon enough they will die too.

sometimes you make me wanna die before my timeline. my timeline is 1 oct 2023. but you make it .. why not do it now?

"you" should be "u" for universe. FC is just a messenger.

 

[inmyhead]

Ugh yes I was thinking about this earlier today and imagining all the shit people will post. I'm sure there will be a lot of it haha. I can't be bothered with it, it's all performative.

And the fact is plenty of people who would barely give me the time of day will say how 'devastated' they are and go to my funeral. I wish I could be there to tell them to fuck off.

 

[ringo99]

I wouldn't care. I'm already dead.

 

[MusicEnjoyer:D]

Hmm, i dunno. I think I would be flattered by the exposure, even if people did it for their own reasons

 

[tiny_dancer]

I have also thought about this and specifically wrote a note about this as my final wishes, for NOBODY to post about me on social media, and for my family to ask anyone who does to take it down. My death is already going to be so misunderstood, I refuse to let it be used by the attention-seekers for their own benefit.

 

[Little_Suzy]

I'm going to be OK. I'm not famous. My death will not be featured on the cover of People!

 

[LaVieEnRose]

If I'm hell-bent on disappearing, I can't worry about what happens in the world afterwards. I'm sure I'll receive a lot of judgment, pity, and scorn, at least if life is anything to go by, but st least they won't affect me then.

 

[MeltingBrain]

If they decide to post pictures . I hope they post the ones where I look good, lol .

 

[purity]

yeah, it would definitely suck to be misunderstood by people who care and used for clout by people who don't. doesnt bug me out too much though cause id be dead.

 

[lachrymost]

I dread the "lost her battle with mental illness"... No, the world was just shit and I had standards.

 

[Proxycake]

They'd make me look horrible. I know there are people I used to know out there who would smile and laugh at my death as well, I'd rather not.

 

[Angel of Spades]

I have a lot of "friends", or rather acquaintances, that I am 99% sure would post half-assed Instagram stories with pictures of me, spreading the word that I died. I find even the thought of that disgusting because I am aware that some people I know are so addicted to posting on Social Media that they would go on to share every single detail about their (or other) lives. Also, these people would then go on and write texts about how important it is to reach out to suicidal people (even though they never did; most people only liked me when I had money) which would just further perpetuate this anti-suicide narrative that we have in modern society.

Do you understand my frustration with this?

I will leave a note which will clearly say that I do not want to be posted on SM after I'm gone.

Let me know your thoughts about this dear members of the community.

I'm not sure I'd have much of a choice. I know there are lots of people who would definitely post some shitty Insta story or send pictures they have of or with me out as posts in order to honor me or some bullshit. I'm not at all pleased about the truth of this, because, just like you said, everything they say would just be bullshitting for their audiences: pitiful remarks, untrue sentiments, and otherwise making our relationship out to be more than what it is in order to garner sympathy, likes, and views.

Even if I were to say something about not wanting anyone to spread the word, I'm sure that eventually it would come out and people would post about it. There are people who I want to know, and I'm confident they may respect me, but I know that there are others who don't care as much abut me, and once they find out it's game over.

 

[tfnb]

I hate thinking about all the people who will make my death about themselves, making some long post about their experiences with me or the things they could never say or whatever to gain sympathy from other people.

It's just a hurt train, like any other social media train.

 

[Goodgirlryeo101]

Tbh honest I couldn't careless as I will be gone…I will be at eternal peace and I won't care what the hell of this world would be doing without me … I even careless on how other people are doing at the moment without me. I have my own issues to be worried about and I only care and want death. That's all I care about honestly.

 

[JustWantOut500]

Not so much concerned about being posted about in general, but my name being used for "suicide awareness" absolutely makes my skin crawl. I fully believe anyone in our position deserve a painless, peaceful way to go if that's what we decide. So the idea of my name being used to keep people suffering just does not sit right with me at all.

 

[quwroflucilfer3]

I have a lot of "friends", or rather acquaintances, that I am 99% sure would post half-assed Instagram stories with pictures of me, spreading the word that I died. I find even the thought of that disgusting because I am aware that some people I know are so addicted to posting on Social Media that they would go on to share every single detail about their (or other) lives. Also, these people would then go on and write texts about how important it is to reach out to suicidal people (even though they never did; most people only liked me when I had money) which would just further perpetuate this anti-suicide narrative that we have in modern society.

Do you understand my frustration with this?

I will leave a note which will clearly say that I do not want to be posted on SM after I'm gone.

Let me know your thoughts about this dear members of the community.

I know for a fact my shitty sister would make some elaborate post about me even though she doesn't give a shit about me. She will try to turn my suffering into an opportunity for attention. Even in death, I find my lasting memory and legacy to be repulsive. I want to have never existed at all.

 

[TAW122]

I used to have such concerns, but after all, especially having been around for more than three decades, I have noticed that I have little control in how people will react or behave upon the news of my demise (into the future). I could hardly ever convince or persuade people in life (when it comes to debates, arguments, and other matters - not CTB related), so I don't see how I would shape their reactions postmortem and of course, I would not be around to experience it as I would be gone. Therefore, it would be a waste of my energy to ponder about their reactions or even put efforts to "explain" or get them to "understand". While some people may find solace and closure into getting people to understand and feel like they have had the weight lifted off their shoulders, I certainly don't feel that way, but each person/individual's situation is unique.

 

[InSearchOfLess]

well Im dead so no, I also don't use social media myself nor do I concern myself with the opinions of others anyways, go ahead I welcome someone to let my dead self live rent free their head.

 

[90starve]

I have a lot of "friends", or rather acquaintances, that I am 99% sure would post half-assed Instagram stories with pictures of me, spreading the word that I died. I find even the thought of that disgusting because I am aware that some people I know are so addicted to posting on Social Media that they would go on to share every single detail about their (or other) lives. Also, these people would then go on and write texts about how important it is to reach out to suicidal people (even though they never did; most people only liked me when I had money) which would just further perpetuate this anti-suicide narrative that we have in modern society.

Do you understand my frustration with this?

I will leave a note which will clearly say that I do not want to be posted on SM after I'm gone.

Let me know your thoughts about this dear members of the community.

i hadn't even thought about this until reading this post.

i definitely don't think i'd want people posting about me online - the only two people who my CTB would genuinely sadden are mature enough to know not to - which gives me comfort to know.

anybody else who may feel the need to post about my death will be insincere - and i think it would be disrespectful to show sympathy after death when none was shown during life.

however, i think i could make an exception for any foundations/ charities that are started due to my CTB - this would be for a good cause, rather than somebody's selfish desire to fill their ego.

 

[leftdreaming]

Last time I attempted, my step father made a "we need your prayers for leftdreaming and my mother!" post on Facebook fishing for likes or whatever. His mother had a common cold while I was hospitalized, so I know for a fact he just wanted likes. He also got mad at me when I begged him to delete it.

Our suffering is not a some means to fish fake internet points.