Anybody else have troubles asking for help?

[kovkay]

I always had problems asking for help. Whether it be a school assignment, a move that I can't get in martial arts, or going to a counselor/therapist/doctor - I always have to struggle with everything until mental exhaustion. And at that point, I'd rather give up than ask for assistance.

I think it's a combination of my social anxiety and memories of a mean elementary school teacher who would yell at people asking for help. I had this teacher for four years and she taught most subjects.

In high school physics, after struggling with a problem in class, I asked to go to the washroom, and went outside and ran laps to "burn off" the frustration. When I decided to get help for my anxiety/depression from the school counselor, I walked around the school crying. If I'm sick, I always wait until the pain is unbearable.

It's always been something that negatively affects my life.

Thoughts? Anybody in the same boat?

 

[Dead beat dad]

I always had problems asking for help. Whether it be a school assignment, a move that I can't get in martial arts, or going to a counselor/therapist/doctor - I always have to struggle with everything until mental exhaustion. And at that point, I'd rather give up than ask for assistance.

I think it's a combination of my social anxiety and memories of a mean elementary school teacher who would yell at people asking for help. I had this teacher for four years and she taught most subjects.

In high school physics, after struggling with a problem in class, I asked to go to the washroom, and went outside and ran laps to "burn off" the frustration. When I decided to get help for my anxiety/depression from the school counselor, I walked around the school crying. If I'm sick, I always wait until the pain is unbearable.

It's always been something that negatively affects my life.

Thoughts? Anybody in the same boat?

Absolutely feel this brother

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

brother

I think this is one of those women that write like men that you get attached to and then ask to marry you in the chat.

 

[timf]

Asking for help ingeneral can seem to be a hill too high to climb. Alternatively you might try asking a small specific question that would open the door to a larger issue.

 

[Mentalmick]

I find it near impossible. I usually just suffer in silence, then flip out and do something stupid.

 

[LittleBabyNothing]

Isn't that why half of us are here? i gave up asking for help when it kept slapping me in the face. Trust and rely on no one and you can't be let down, saves a load of disappointment in life

 

[WhiteDespair]

My situation is that I rarely believe I need to ask for help. Only when things get out of hand do I get the message.

 

[kovkay]

Asking for help ingeneral can seem to be a hill too high to climb. Alternatively you might try asking a small specific question that would open the door to a larger issue.

One time I worked up to the courage to ask an instructor to watch me cut some metal with oxy-acetylene torch to figure out what I was doing wrong. Well, I happened to make the perfect cut while she was watching and she was like "that's a great cut, good job" She walked away and I went back to making awful incomplete cuts with my torch popping out every 10 seconds.