Discussion WOULD YOU WANT TO LIVE IF YOU HAD SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU

[Unattainable666]

Just curious. Who would want to live if you had someone who accepted and loved you for who you are? I, for one, would.

 

[an_alias]

maybe some people love me. I think my mother does. But her love disgusts me and I disgust myself by saying that, but it's the truth. She's too close to me and it's haunting. I feel the exact same way with basically everyone else I know. I feel very sociopathic and that only drives my thoughts of CTBing further

 

[HollowDrop]

I have someone who loves me and that someone is my cat. She is indeed the reason I am alive right now, the way she sleeps with me every night and the way she follows me everywhere I go in the apartment. And the way she comes to comfort me when I'm crying. I gave her a safe home and love when she was alone, and she is returning all of that love. I will hang on for her, seeing her healthy and happy is my joy.

 

[hamvil]

I have a wife that loves me but still i want to make it end. IMO a life cannot be build on one pillar ony, you need a job, friend interests, and love. Ah forgot t to tell she loves me but from my side the flame is long gone.

 

[SmollMushroom]

I would if I were loved by a person I love.

But the way you phrased it, would not be enough for me to want to live. There are many kinds of love one may receive, not all of them are healthy.

 

[WAITING TO DIE]

No.
I just want to cease existing forever.
Nothing interests me anymore.
Not love, not money, nothing.

 

[Aim]

I really wanted to live, i had everything. But i lost everything due to mental illness. Which i will never recover from, the guilt. And also my mental illness is a disorder, so its many years in therapy. lost all hope. lost all motivation. Even if i ever got loved again. i would still want to die. i dont deserve to live. and i dont want to either. so!

 

[Praestat_Mori]

Love and being loved is certainly a part in life that can make one less suicidal. Maybe someone even wants to live then. But it's not the only part and it may not help everyone.

 

[loopdaloop]

No. It would just add guilt onto the suicidal ideation rather than reducing it.

 

[voyager]

There was a time when I thought it might help, despite knowing that it wasn't where my issues stemmed from. A perfect other, complete devotion, trust and loyalty. The perfect union. Even hell itself wouldn't seem so bad with this person. But that's the point, it's hell, and love alone can't compensate everything else lacking, especially once you reach a point where you might not even feel love anymore, no matter how much you "love" and adore this person and they you.

 

[Kundalini Guy]

Yes but I go no one so I don't bother

 

[haibane]

No, i just want to die in peace. I never where in love in my entire life. Even when i was in a relationship i wasn't really close to her. Ig love is not for everyone.

 

[R_N]

I don't see "love" the same naive way I saw it when I was younger, so nah.

Keep that irrational chemical cocktail off me lol. I would rather try drugs If I ever decided to go that route ( both not happening).

 

[pole]

I don't know.

It's possible others can have love for me. However, the problem is that I would struggle to feel that love.

It would be buried underneath the brokenness. My lack of self-worth and esteem has made me feel unlovable and disgusting, and the deep sense of hatred towards myself makes me feel repulsed at any thought of someone feeling that way about me.

It would take someone sticking around, being patient, and helping me feel the way they do about me. Even then, who knows if it'll be enough. The problem is, I don't believe that's possible. So many other people, who are actually healthy and doing well in life, most will not waste time and stand around waiting when they don't have to.

Easier to accept being alone.

 

[FuneralCry]

I see it as preferable to cease existing under all circumstances, only the thought of ceasing to exist comforts me. I just have no interest in this futile and torturous process of decaying from age, I see that as something harmful, undesirable and best avoided. Existing is nothing more than meaningless and pointless suffering all with the risk of ending up in a situation of much worse torment always there, existence wasn't worth having in the first place.

 

[Free_me]

Love is just validation, that's all it is. Someone likes me enough and values me, therefore my life is valid.

Of course I'd stick around if so, but that's just not an option for me. Even if someone loved me I'd never let them in anyway.

 

[greebo6]

Romantic love...Then yes , I'd probably stay around. But I know no one will ever want me in that way.......

 

[CanIStopTryingNow]

No. Love is essential, but it's not enough. I know that I am loved, but it cannot cure my mental illness.

 

[Ernest1964]

The more relationships that are in my life, the more complicated my life becomes. Do I NEED love? No. Would it be nice to be loved? Yes... but it is something to which I aspire or even desire. I believe that I am respected in my professional life and as a person, I'm not sure I could ask for much more. I am not happy, but there's nothing wrong with being content.

 

[paintedbutterfly676]

I do have people who love me. And it doesn't heal anything. I can't ask them for help without feeling like a burden. I hope I can make them happy, I don't feel like they're happy when they are around me

 

[BlazingBob]

No because being loved wouldn't magically fix my physical health problems, which are making my life not worth living. Then there's the mental health problems. Like other people have said it's just not enough. I'm too far gone. I've been trying for over 3 decades to deal with my mental health issues and I'm worse now than ever. I just don't want to be here anymore.

I have someone who loves me and that someone is my cat. She is indeed the reason I am alive right now, the way she sleeps with me every night and the way she follows me everywhere I go in the apartment. And the way she comes to comfort me when I'm crying. I gave her a safe home and love when she was alone, and she is returning all of that love. I will hang on for her, seeing her healthy and happy is my joy.

I feel the same way about my dogs. I'm still here because of them but let me tell you it's getting extremely hard to hang on but I have to because they depend on me.
Cats are great. So much easier than dogs.

 

[ClaudeCTTE]

Maybe...
But it's something that would only happen in my dreams...
Perhaps it helps me delay my plans...
Because even though I feel like a ghost to the world, I would at least like someone to know I exist and accept that I'm not like the others...
But what am I saying?...
If my obsessions invade me day and night...
In an attempt to escape the loneliness that's driving me crazy every day...
And in the search for pleasure...
Only to ultimately ruin everything and return to that hole I've wanted to escape from...

 

[SpencerSees]

I wouldn't. Love can't fix everything. I used to think it could, or at least give me the motivation to get better. Of course, that's not how it works.
I'm in a committed relationship, where we are both accepting of each other. No matter how accepting my boyfriend is, i'll always find something to be upset about. And he can't help me. I wouldn't let him anyways. I just want someone to want me, but my brain would never accept it once someone does.
Not everyone can be saved, unfortunately

 

[ThisUnrest]

Yes, I'd feel much better if I had someone. Being alone scares me.

 

[Lookoutbelow]

I have a wife that loves me but still i want to make it end. IMO a life cannot be build on one pillar ony, you need a job, friend interests, and love. Ah forgot t to tell she loves me but from my side the flame is long gone.

I have a wife that doesn't love me. That is why I am going to jump. So, yes if I had someone who loved me I would want to live.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I would have said yes at one point. Now, I'm not really sure. People who love you can still leave you. Maybe it would make life worthwhile if it was the fairytale happy ending version of love. I'm not sure how common that is. I'm so independent now too. I can't really imagine having to make joint decisions on everything. I think that would annoy me!

 

[letmejoindeath]

No one will ever fucking love or trust me. Just something I have come to terms with.

would it make a difference? At this point no I don't think so. It's been shit so long I wouldn't care if the rest of my life was happy.

 

[hamvil]

I have a wife that doesn't love me. That is why I am going to jump. So, yes if I had someone who loved me I would want to live.

what if you had a wife that loves you but you did not love her back?

 

[Orbitc]

I don't believe in love - people are polygamous. I work as an individual escort - every day I see how men cheat on their wives. I hate men and I will never believe if someone tells me that he loves me - I am sure that men say this to use a woman for free))

 

[P@in]

I really wanted to live, i had everything. But i lost everything due to mental illness. Which i will never recover from, the guilt. And also my mental illness is a disorder, so its many years in therapy. lost all hope. lost all motivation. Even if i ever got loved again. i would still want to die. i dont deserve to live. and i dont want to either. so!

I am really sad to hear that.

But I think any person deserves to live if they want so, and didn't cause others a felony... (There are some mental illnesses that actually don't make people suffer - the oposite, they are in extacy most of the time, thrilled with happiness, which isn't a normal behavior... and the psychiatric doctors are here to "help")

And any person deserves to die if they want so, after a good consideration, in my opinion.
The will to die came to you from your illness, and the mental pain is strong (as you say)...
Wish you all the best.



In my situation, I had some depressive thoughts, but always wanted to live and get better in life.
But as an physical illness struck me, and I suffer constant mild-moderate pains 24/7 (chronic pains...) It makes me nervous and unhappy. It's affecting my mental situation.
I would like to love and maybe even make a family.
But with such a condition I am obliged to resist that wish. It will do no good if a husband and a father is sick, and might ctb one day, leaving them alone and affecting their lives with this decision.

I don't believe in love - people are polygamous. I work as an individual escort - every day I see how men cheat on their wives. I hate men and I will never believe if someone tells me that he loves me - I am sure that men say this to use a woman for free))

Lust and love are different things.
Some men can't hold it and cheat, some are more resistant to lust and prefer to stick to their beloved woman.
Depends on the genes and education.


Women also can be very unpleasant.
Did you hear about a man that found out that all his kids are not from him? The wife used him to raise them but all of the kids are from another man. And that's something that happened a lot in the human history.

Nature is a b!tch... I must say