Discussion WOULD YOU WANT TO LIVE IF YOU HAD SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU

[Phantomygg]

I feel like things would be diffrent for me if someone loved me, but I feel unlovable and a hindrance to everyone around me

 

[squareminus1]

Just curious. Who would want to live if you had someone who accepted and loved you for who you are? I, for one, would.

I do have someone, but it hurts me more in a way. I just think it's one more person I that I am hurting by continuing to exsist. I want to end my life to save her from being stuck with me.

 

[mehdone]

Just curious. Who would want to live if you had someone who accepted and loved you for who you are? I, for one, would.

I would try for them. That's what I've been doing most of my life.

But, living for someone else isn't really feasible long term, and certainly isn't the same as properly wanting to live.

 

[Duality]

No, I already have family members and friends who love me, but that is irrelevant to me wanting to CTB.

 

[abl2023]

Honestly yeah but that chance is gone now. He ctb almost 6 months ago. He truly was a special and unique person like no other. I just don't have it in me to love someone else like I did with him. It just wouldn't be real love and I wouldn't want to do that to anyone who might think it is.

 

[Jorms_McGander]

There are many who love me. Even some who love me romantically.

The answer is no. Only... somehow, learning to cope with my inborn differences, some way to feel human could help. It's no help to love me. People have tried. After my teen years and leaving the home, it's been my lovers who drop me off at the psych ward lol. It's up to me and I'm not sure I can do it.

 

[vampire2002]

it certainly helps to be loved, but in my experience it doesn't heal everything or take all of the pain away. it eases it, for sure, but i've been suicidal in and out of relationships for years now. love comes and goes but it seems like the one constant in my life is mental illness and the desire to make it stop.

 

[dumbgirlonline]

Nah. I don't care for a deep and personal love tbh,

 

[swandive]

Just curious. Who would want to live if you had someone who accepted and loved you for who you are? I, for one, would.

I have a bf of 2.5 years and I believe he loves me and is faithful. However he lives about an hour from me and lives with his mom at 45 years old. He spends most weekends with me, but I am so alone thru the week. I have 2 teenagers but they barely want to come to my house bc their dad has a big house and nice things for them. I work 10 hour days in a factory to afford small apartment, I home exhausted to empty house and feel my life is meaningless and invisible to the people I care about.

 

[CandycanePuke]

Possibly. I wanted to live for my last partner, but I doubt I'll date anyone between now and my date

 

[chuerdhmproton]

Just curious. Who would want to live if you had someone who accepted and loved you for who you are? I, for one, would.

Yes, give me a yandere girl and my will to live is 100% restored :)

 

[ManByTheRiver]

Possibly, usually mental illness doesn't go away with love. It might give you enough motivation and strength to go on, but it won't heal you unless the source of the pain is from the lack of love.

 

[ifeelsobad]

Yes yes yes times a million

 

[Unattainable666]

Possibly, usually mental illness doesn't go away with love. It might give you enough motivation and strength to go on, but it won't heal you unless the source of the pain is from the lack of love.

makes sense thanks
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Yes, give me a yandere girl and my will to live is 100% restored :)

is a yandere girl?

 

[day]

I've given this thought plenty of times however truthfully I don't think there's much that can make me feel that existence is worth it at all.

No matter who may or may not love me I will always suffer for so many other reasons such as being born in a body that disgusts me.

While love is truly the best thing this existence has to offer it can also bring much more suffering and it hurts so frequently.

So I guess my answer is no, I don't think love would ever prevent me from CTB.

 

[letpour]

No, not at all, I have people that love me and I know that love is one of the things that usually cross my mind when thinking about CBTing. It's not nice to think that the last thing you do on earth will affect a bunch of people. Maybe if it was more of a responsibility, like a pet.
I had a pet while still being suicidal and I guess that keeps your feet on the ground, someone is constantly relying on you for them to live, so it becomes crucial that you keep living. It genuinely did keep me alive until it died.

 

[Don’tDoxMe]

I already have somebody who loves me. I'm his reason for living. It's still not enough.

 

[chuerdhmproton]

makes sense thanks
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is a yandere girl?

Yandere

Yandere is a Japanese archetype used to define a character whose love, admiration, and devotion is so strong that it is expressed as an excessive obsession and possessiveness. They are often seen as characters that are crazily in love with someone. They become so attached to their love interests...

the-dere-types.fandom.com

 

[WonderingSoul]

For me, yes ! I'm a bit surprised by these comments but I can kinda understand. I'd stay if I had someone expressed that they loved and accepted me because in my life right now, it really feels like nobody does. Could be just my brain, but I've been very isolated for the past few years.

 

[itsraining]

I'm not saying this to brag but only to offer insight, I don't want to cause anyone pain by reading this.

I've been in a relationship for 5 years and I still experience mental torment every day. Having someone who loves me and looks out for me can only do so much, every single other aspect of my life still drives me to misery and I can see the toll it takes on my partner. They spend so much time comforting me and making sure I'm alright but I can never give that energy back. It just makes me feel like I'm a horrible partner

 

[Some place nice]

I would want to live if I had a relationship but none of this friends shit I already have one friend who has proven that he is never gonna leave me again. I just want a romantic partner. Something I never had before, but the world has told me time and time again that I don't deserve that love. I can only find that kinda love in fantasy.

 

[carnivalforone]

Romantic love...Then yes , I'd probably stay around. But I know no one will ever want me in that way.......

yeah exactly this

 

[Unhumanly.]

no... I have found out

I cannot be responsible for maintaining such things....
I only disappoint.. leave the one I love in uncertainties and vagueness, it create a big scar in my heart that keep bleeding, bleeding because still longing for the part of me that's not there

My guilt and shame will always haunt me.

So it even kill me more and more from the inside knowing this

 

[MidnightGloom]

I wouldn't want to live even if someone loved me. It wouldn't matter if it was my family or friends, and I don't care for partners.

The love I've received in my lifetime from my parents is controlling and emotionally manipulative, and the love I've received from friends is nothing but baseless words that've easily been backtracked on.

I don't believe there is a possibility of love without harm anyway, and my current lack of love is not my entire reason for wanting to die either.

 

[princexhhn]

absolutely. i used to have someone lol, they left me

 

[UtopianSoliloquies]

I honestly don't know. I'm fortunate enough to have parents who love me but, especially when it comes to my mother, she expresses love in ways that irritate and sometimes hurt me far more than it helps. At the times when I want to CTB the most, they are hardly on my mind. I think that if I had someone who loved me and whom I love back in equal measure, that may just be enough to keep me around for a bit longer, though I have not the slightest inkling of what that's like, so I don't know.

 

[IBM0000]

Just curious. Who would want to live if you had someone who accepted and loved you for who you are? I, for one, would.

No one. I don't want anyone to, neither will anyone.

 

[zeek]

yes, but i think we would end up ctb together anyways.

 

[BoyInTheBox]

Just curious. Who would want to live if you had someone who accepted and loved you for who you are? I, for one, would.

Probably me?

 

[why am i alive?]

Depends if they love me unconditionally and I love them as well i think i would.
But that's impossible so won't work