Discussion Would you really CTB because of another person?

[Life_and_Death]

yes. one of my reasons is i cant fix the relationship problems im having but i wont ever tell them that. i dont want them to blame themselves. its my fault for fucking up in the first place and loving too much.

(theres more then just that. ive been dealing with abuse for 16-21 years depending on how you look at it, but dudes is a reason for my ctb)

 

[blue_muse]

Personally no; always been alien to those threatening suicide in relationships because, it does nothing but strengthen the stigma towards many of us. Outside of relationships, think it gives too much of an ego boost to someone who's caused another to feel ending their life is the only option.

 

[Nicothe13th]

Yes if they're a significant enough part of the problem.

Take bullying for example, plenty of people cbt because of torment from individuals.

People don't realise the damage done psychologically is often way worse than anything physical that could occur.

Most physical injuries heal too, brain injuries you have to live with for the most part.

 

[lostmyself]

I think that those who ctb over a person were going to no matter what and that was just the icing on the cake.

 

[Ame]

Reading some of the replies to his thread brings up some feelings of sadness. I'm really sorry to those who suffered at the hands of others or found themselves tortured by the uglier aspects of human society. I should hope that you realize that you were not at fault for having been burnt by the trauma of those around you. We are all hurting in some way and sadly some turn to abusing others.

I find that if anything, even though I struggle to wrap my head around how anyone could love me, I am only living for others. I am terrified of what will happen to the people I leave behind and I hate the idea of causing them pain. I also think, on some level, that because I hate myself so much, I want to suffer. Going peacefully would be "too kind". It is sad because it would be lovely to want to live - to participate in life and to have dreams of creating beautiful things. I think that being able to lead a full life would bring happiness to my loved ones but I cannot imagine any of it anymore.

That said, when I do kill myself I am just unfortunate to live in one of those countries where obtaining SN is near impossible, what the heck;; , it will be for me and only for me.

 

[Nicothe13th]

I think that those who ctb over a person were going to no matter what and that was just the icing on the cake.

That's bullshit

 

[lostmyself]

That's bullshit

I disagree there has got to be underlying factors, mental illness for someone to just ctb for one person alone.

 

[autisticalex]

no

 

[Final Escape]

I almost did. I still miss them so much. It's one reason I would like to exit still.

 

[Hirokami]

I've contemplated it before many times and came very close to doing it. After they made me feel worthless for a few years, they left my life as if I meant nothing to them (and I didn't, obviously). I've had my mom and a friend stop me, though.

 

[articledon]

I've been on the other end where my ex highschool sweetheart would tell she would kill herself when we broke up. Being the sensitive type I got back together with her, last thing I wanted was to hurt someone I cared about so deeply

 

[rs929]

It's something you could do.in a state of depression and despair, but it's not rational If a broken heart is the cause. I think that time heals that kind of wounds. Something between 95-100%. Very very close.to.ALWAYS. So the old adaggio "suicide is a permanent solution for a temporary problem" really does apply here. Most broken hearts heal eventually. It may be hell while they laststho.