Would you like to be a more optimistic person?

[noname223]

I am using dating apps again. And some women find optimism important. I think this isn't something I am compatible with. I can sometimes be over optimistic. But usually I crash again to severe unhappiness. I think I have internalized stragetic pessimism. It protects me from getting my hope too high too fast. It doesn't work always though.

Honestly, I would not want to be an extremely optimistic person. Even though my life quality was better. It relates to my thread "Would you replace your self-hatred with self-love if possible?" or something like that. Honestly, I was more fine with more realism. I considered myself a very rational person. But I have to say there is some cognitive dissonance. I realized my extreme self-loathing is not that rational. Especially, when I compare myself to the people who have bullied and abused me. And most of them have probably have more self-love or at least self-confidence. It feels like a secondary punishment of bullying to become the bully of oneself.

Extreme optimism feels naive to me. I have the feeling it is easy to mock. And it ignores dark moments of life. And the fates of individuals whose life is a living hell.

What about you?

 

[unclejack]

I've never been capable of optimism, except around a specific person. Otherwise it's MJ from Spider-Man - expect disappointment and you'll never be disappointed.

 

[whywere]

Never ever any form of pity party, but at the age of 70 and all that I have been through, gall bladder cancer, and 24/7 chronic pain and a totally messed up CNS (central nervous system), my glass is always half full.

I live and breathe to try as hard as I can to bring smile, and an uplifting feeling to others, as after cancer in 2014 and car crash in 2015, cancer, 1 month alter in diagnosis and I would have been dead. If I did not have my seat belt on in the car crash, dead. I feel that I have a mission to some degree.

To those that would say that either would have been fine to ctb with, the cancer would have SLOWLY killed me in a hospital bed loaded up on pain meds. The car crash, if for some odd reason I did not die, I would have been in a home staring out a window, drooling and if I would have, they thought that I would have lasted for some time in complete agony.

Neither way would have been any form of a way that I would want to leave this planet on.

Walter

 

[LotteEldana]

I often think i would like to be more optimistic; but then i remember that i am rarely disappointed because i always expect the worst case scenario to happen.