Would you be willing to have kids?

[Jessica5]

Wouldn't it be kind of selfish, since they never asked to come into the world?

 

[ExitStageLeft]

I never wanted children.

 

[Ghost2211]

Already have them.

 

[ZardozOmega]

Fuck no.

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

No! Never wanted and now that I'm suicidal less.

 

[Superdeterminist]

I can feel a deep programmed urge to have children within me, a desire which came about at some indeterminate point a few years ago and which hasn't ceased.

My mind persistently bothers me with a particular romanticised ideal of raising a family - I think many people fall prey to similar thoughts. Yet, even if I had the opportunity (I don't), I can't really justify having children, because I would probably remain a suicidal person, which I think would be unfair to them, and because of the seemingly limitless potential for suffering this world has to offer.

If there were an enforced right to die, I would have many less qualms about bringing new life into the world, because I would be put at ease by the fact that at least theycould end it peacefully if they decided it was too much. This is an option which has been denied to me and it means that life can become a hell from which there is practically no escape, and to me, that is unacceptable.

 

[Wisdom3_1-9]

I used to really want kids. I wanted to share my love and share my life with them. I wanted to give them opportunities I never had. Now, I think I'd be a terrible parent. I don't want to subject anyone to my awfulness, nor the world's awfulness.

 

[oneess]

I remember I was fixated on not wanting children since 2nd grade and never ever and I mean NEVER understood why so many of the peers I had wanted children so blindly, and guess what, they still do

 

[Sarahlynn]

Absolutely not. I think putting a new, innocent person into this fucked up world is cruel to the poor kid. Most kids end up just fine, but then you have the ones that end up like me. Life is not good.

That is just one of the reason why I don't want kids, I don't really like kids all that much tbh, and I do not have the energy to take care of one, amongst other reasons.

 

[ruudd]

It was always a dream of me to have kids and a girlfriend and starting a family. I think i would be a great dad, but i am failing in life, shit job and not much money, so no girls interesting in me. I was when i was young very fat, than i did lose it al now i have horrible belly and i shame for it and a ugly face also. I lost hope in life, i am still young (26) but the most horrible things did happend in life, parents died, my brother is a retard, friends did stole the jewelry of my dead parents and that's just a part of all the horrible things.

 

[noname223]

I am more or less an Antinatalist. My decease is caused by my genetics so i am very convinced that i will never have children. I do not want them to get tortured.

 

[Tabbyql]

I have never wanted kids, 0 interest. Plus even if I did it wouldn't be fair, this world is hard and mental illness runs through our family. Also if I struggle to look after my self how can i possibly look after a baby.

 

[Caenis1999]

I have one. He's 20 now. Thought we had the best relationship in the world but he told me that he didn't want anything to do with me anymore when I asked him to contribute more during the pandemic. Broke my heart. Didn't talk to him in months. I guess I'm not that different from my own mother now.

There's no such thing as unconditional love.

 

[kcn2020]

I am in a relationship where my other half really want kids. I used to want kids, and I guess I still want them. It will depends of different conditions, but if I can provide them with decent care, top education and opportunities, I will surely have kids.

However, I will never CTB if I do have kids to take care of. I might CTB in a few months if my situation worsen again. I will have kids in like 5 years if everything goes fine by this time.

 

[foxdie]

I had some interest in having kids but I think that might've been biological. I can't think of an ethical justification for bringing a child into this world. It's a hellscape I can't escape, why would I subject another to this shit?

 

[Isadeth]

Have them. Both here and on the other side. It's a weird catch 22 with wanting to exit.

 

[Josiah_is_dreaming13]

No, definitely not.

 

[psychoticxerror]

I've been saying for most of my life that I'd never have children. I can barely take care of myself, have no real support system, and just finding someone you want to have a child with is stressful. Though if I'm being honest, I'm also terrified at the thought of pregnancy and childbirth.

 

[SoIntoYou]

I would if I were confident the World were heading in a good direction. So far, not convinced.

 

[Joey]

Most likely not since the world is bad as it is with overpopulation and other things

 

[Anthagonos]

I never wanted to have kids, when I was in my 20's I spend a time that I wanted.
Now I realise that my biggest mistake in life was not to have any kid. If it would be today, I would have started having kids as soon as possible. At 12 maybe.

I was able to have kids since I was 8 or 9, I don't remember well because the first time that I had an orgasm I didn't know nothing about it. It was a strange sensation, but I didn't know aything about that. I don't remember the exact age because I was unaware about that. But I think it was at 8 or 9 years old.

Why I would liked to have as many child as possible? Easy, because I was tall, strong, very beautiful, smart, etc... so my genetics are good. When I was a child, my mother says that she hasn't seen any child more beautiful than me, never. People told my mom to take me to tv to show me.

Now, I am 34 and I haven't any. I had some opportunities, but I refused them. Now I think that were very very big mistake. I would liked to have at least one to see her/him. This is one of the reasons I think I have made several catastrophic mistakes in life.

But today... I repeat... to have as many as possible as younger as possible.

 

[softfuzzyman]

Absolutely not, my abuser not being mentally stable enough to raise children (and having very very severe genetic mental illness in the family) is exactly what got me here. I do really like the IDEA of being a parent and raising kids but I'd adopt and only of I knew I could be stable enough to raise kids without traumatizing them or failing them (even if I don't think I'd be physically abusive, I know I'd still be a shitty parent)... I know you don't have to be perfect and a lot of people still resent their parents who are generally good parents and just had some mild issues, but nah it'd be morally reprehensible to take responsibility for a whole ass person unless I could be so certain I could be decently mentally and emotionally competent for them and give them a stable upbringing and there's just no way I'll ever achieve that certainty for myself even let alone someone who depends on me for EVERYTHING and whose entire worldview is shaped by what I do and how I treat them.

And then yeah also just seeing the path the world is going down, if nothing else with rapid global warming, but also just so much strife and difficulty in so many ways and so difficult to find a successful peaceful stable life for so many people in all places, nah I think putting new life on this planet at this point is a bad idea for anyone. I do think that if people want to be parents and raise children, more people need to adopt, and take care of babies that are already here and have already been born but desperately need a permanent home... that'd make the world a better place tbh. Rather than just continually making more and more and more new people who are a blank slate at risk of getting fucked up and suffering and causing suffering, take care of someone who's already here and well is already pretty likely on a sad life path anyway if nobody gives them a permanent home.

 

[VIBRITANNIA]

i don't want to end up making the same mistakes my parents made with me, and continue the cycle of abuse. not to mention i get tired/annoyed easily so i'm not exactly parent material.

if i end up really wanting kids, i'll adopt. no way in hell am i giving birth.

 

[KindaAlwaysKnew]

God no. It'd be wrong for someone as depressed as me to have children, and the world is too fucked and dark now to bring new life into in any case, it'd feel morally wrong to me.
Also i barely have the energy and motivation to continue my own life, nevermind also look after someone else.

 

[dieornottodie]

i dont like kids and i dont have them and i never want to have them, yes it is the first sin, to bring a life to this hell
i dont like kids and i dont have them and i never want to have them, yes it is the first sin, to bring a life to this hell

 

[TheSoundofTime]

I don't want to leave anything after me just memories. Definitely no kids

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I would but mostly just because my biological instinct compels me to. If I had to I would really hope I could raise them better than my dad raised me. My mom was alright but in some ways she was a little too lenient so hopefully I'd want to be somewhere in between.

That said, no girl would be stupid or desperate enough to want to have kids with me in the first place even if they want kids themselves so guess I'll die. My dad didn't have me until he was 38 so he was practically a whole generation older than all my peers' parents which is a major reason I believe I turned out so fucked up. That's why I'm going to CTB for sure when I'm 30 because then I know for sure no child of mine would ever have a good life.

 

[SinkingSlowly]

I used to really want kids but the older I get I just don't want them to have any chance of being born with all the mental problems I have. I don't mean to shame anyone with mental health issues who have kids, I just don't want to do that myself. Especially if I do take the steps to CTB one day I don't want to factor kids into the mix.

 

[Deleted member 17949]

I am not a fan of kids, I wouldn't have them even if I wanted to live. On top of this no woman will ever love me so impossible task.

 

[AprilsBlessings]

No, I'm an Antinatalist