will isolating myself and distancing myself from everyone hurt them less when i ctb

[rest in peace]

im wondering if its a good idea to slowly make my friends and family detach from me and lose interest by isolating myself and simply not talking much/being boring. i have managed to lose a few friendships by doing this, tho it wasnt intentional. i want to know if it will help in basically making them numb, desensitized or just not really care *that* much about me the day i will ctb. i have vanished and ghosted everyone i know for a couple months once and no one called or asked about me, so surely it shouldnt be that hard right? i simply want to vanish and dont want any drama/funeral etc, i dont want anyone to care when im dead.

 

[angelcircuit]

I have thought of doing the same thing, and that's what I intend on doing for when I eventually CTB. No one can say for sure if it will work, as each individual's life and circumstance is different, but it is worth a shot if you don't want anyone to question or if you want them to feel less emotionally attached to your disappearance. Still, no one calling or asking about you for a couple months may hurt a little regardless of your intentions, and I am so sorry. I wish you peace and luck.

 

[Dominicka]

im wondering if its a good idea to slowly make my friends and family detach from me and lose interest by isolating myself and simply not talking much/being boring. i have managed to lose a few friendships by doing this, tho it wasnt intentional. i want to know if it will help in basically making them numb, desensitized or just not really care *that* much about me the day i will ctb. i have vanished and ghosted everyone i know for a couple months once and no one called or asked about me, so surely it shouldnt be that hard right? i simply want to vanish and dont want any drama/funeral etc, i dont want anyone to care when im dead.

I don't know, but I'm doing the same.

 

[big J]

im wondering if its a good idea to slowly make my friends and family detach from me and lose interest by isolating myself and simply not talking much/being boring. i have managed to lose a few friendships by doing this, tho it wasnt intentional. i want to know if it will help in basically making them numb, desensitized or just not really care *that* much about me the day i will ctb. i have vanished and ghosted everyone i know for a couple months once and no one called or asked about me, so surely it shouldnt be that hard right? i simply want to vanish and dont want any drama/funeral etc, i dont want anyone to care when im dead.

no, they will just be upset that they weren't able to be there for you when you really needed it. GET HELP. 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline

 

[rest in peace]

no, they will just be upset that they weren't able to be there for you when you really needed it. GET HELP. 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline

"it is easier to tell yourself you never saw it than to face the guilt of admitting you never asked"

 

[Dominicka]

no, they will just be upset that they weren't able to be there for you when you really needed it. GET HELP. 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline

Lol

 

[weex]

it should technically help and if they really knew you they will be able to figure out that you avoided them to hurt them less.
if u spend time with ppl you cared about and suddenly left them, i think it would leave them feeling hollow. they would probably question if they were the reason you ctb and if their normal behaviour was the cause and so more overthinking.
ideally, i would want to explicitly push them away so that they ll know that they couldn't have done anything to prevent your death.
it will be really painful for you though, every day will be really agonizing but in the end, it is your choice to make.
i hope you ll be happy with whatever choice you make.

 

[Destiny Calls Me]

"it is easier to tell yourself you never saw it than to face the guilt of admitting you never asked"

Ive distanced myself for months not because I care how they would feel but for myself. I cant be around "family" or "friends" that treat each other as enemies. Never again will I allow myself to be treat in such a way.

The typical platitudes and condolences that come from a suicide will always be said, no surprise. The worst ones are when they know you have a history of depression and/or suicidal ideation then say I never saw it coming or I didnt think they would ever do it.

 

[missingpeace]

My mental illness is going downhill and my relationships are falling apart anyway. I don't have much to contribute in a conversation anymore. My immediate family loves me but I can see how my isolation is making me distant from them. Ive always been the scapegoat of the family anyway so I think they will get over my death in some months. They will mostly probably worry about what society thinks of them then actually missing my absence anyway. It doesn't matter I've made a firm decision to ctb and won't stop till I achieve it.

 

[FuneralCry]

Yes, I believe so as I do think that as time goes on people can certainly forget and move on as they are concerned about their own lives and they don't really care about others.

 

[Unhumanly.]

I was thinking to do this, my family already hate me since I said to them I can't handle my toxic workplace anyway and that also made me kind of distanced with my partner